AIBU to let my daughter’s boyfriend use marked visitor parking regularly?

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NC’d as outing.

Recently moved onto a new build estate, up the road from us is three terraced houses with five parking spots in front of them. Each of the three houses have one and two are very clearly marked as visitor spots.

My DDs boyfriend visits us regularly, can vary from one night a week to 2/3 nights depending on both their shift patterns. She has been parking in one of the visitor spots.

The first of the three residents moved in last week. Yesterday one of the site managers knocked on the door and asked DD to move the car as the houses are now lived in and the resident had complained (some people / contractors park on the still empty houses). DD explained that it was visitor parking and that is was our visitor parked there. Site manager said he would need to go away and look at the plans (thought he would have done this before coming over tbf).

So AIBU to tell him to continue to park there? Legally he can, rules are visitors up to 48 hours at a time (I’ve checked the convents we signed). I would HATE someone effectively parked on my drive, outside my window etc but I would never have bought that house. Resident must have seen and signed the same plans as us?

If the resident comes over to speak to us, how would you respond?

Site plan attached.

I would assume the 2 visitors spots are to be shared with the 3 terraces.

I’m a bit confused I think. If, as OP is saying, those visitor spots are for everyone on the estate, I wonder why there are two outside that particular block of terraces. Why didn’t they spread the two visitor spots out a bit so there’s one there and one outside another stretch of houses?

Convent states up to 48 hours and no return in 48 hours, so by that standard, he is.

I suspect the resident, actaully has a second car, which IMO is far worse than someone who doesn’t live here.

Yes this is the way I would have interpreted it, that these visitor spaces are for the three terraced house to share. If there are other visitor spaces around the outside then I think you would be very cheeky to use these.

Yea its fine then op. He is a visitor and using it within the rules. I wouldnt give this any further thought tbh.

I wouldn't have bought any house on that estate. There's simply not enough parking

Even when highlighed green on the deeds we signed?

Why? Your household clearly has a second car

The covenant is a fair use policy, not something to aim for.

There will be a lot more road side parking once the final stage is open as there is some open space in that part.

Yes it's clear from the plans that the small houses in the development are entitled to one parking space and the large houses are entitled to two, and so in that particular row where there are 2 spaces in front of each of two small houses, one space in each pair is designated for visitors. Other blue-small-plot houses are aranged to just have one space each. It is therefore fine for visitors to park there.

I think it's bordering on CFery to use it for 3 nights a week though. That's less "visitor" and more "50:50 resident" so in the interests of neighbourly harmony I would advise the boyfriend to park there a maximum of 2 nights per week and find another space elsewhere if any more than that.

That’s not how these spaces are intended to be used, they are spaces provided for temporary visitors so that the roads remain clear. Unfortunately people, including residents, abuse the provision, you won’t be the only one. It is inconsiderate though.

If your DD and her bf want to spend so much time together perhaps it’s time they moved out into their own place.

That is probably a fair compromise and most of the time is more 1 - 2 sperate days but now he has broken up from Uni if DD has a couple of days of work he might come more.

You mean like you do, plus your dds boyfriend 2-3 days a week

I every estate I've lived in when most houses have 2 spaces and some have 1 each but 1 or 2 shared spaces in front of their houses those spare spaces are for the houses with 1 space not the estate.

And yes, they are the small 2 bed, the 3 bed terraced opposite all have two spots.

YABU
It’s a parking space for visitors. What if some residents need carers or district nurses to visit? Don’t be the neighbour/s that start a parking war!

Yes I do, but paid more to have a bigger drive, this person had that choice as well.

Who comes up with these stupid ideas around parking on new build estates? I'd never buy a house with parking like this I mean what happens when you have workmen? Visitors staying for a week? A party with a few mates round? when there's no on street parking and barely any visitor spaces? Must be a nightmare.

Exactly. Time for DD and boyfriend to leave the nest or swap their vehicles for public transport.

I live on an older estate with loads of these types of visitor parking in front of houses. The reality is the residents usually use them as permanent spaces and are affronted if an actual visitor parks in them. But they are not private spaces, anyone can park in them. Most of us do also have private spaces in car parks behind the houses but it seems most people can't be bothered walking a few extra steps.

The visitors spots outside the terrace of 3 are probably unofficially considered as visitor parking for those 3 houses as they only have one parking spot each house. Can the boyfriend not park on the road blocking your driveway once you are both parked on the drive? I realise some roads are not wide enough.

tbh to save the hassle, I’d just tell him to park somewhere else off site and walk. The design of the visitor parking is shit but if it was outside my house and my two neighbours I’d assume it was for us to share. Rightly or wrongly - and even that has the potential to be a nightmare if all 3 houses have 2 cars.

Perhaps contact the owners of the three bedders with two parking spaces and see if any have just one car. See if you can come to an arrangement where you rent a parking space, or the bf does, for a set amount each week. Could be a win/win.

Tbh I think you are unreasonable buying on an estate where parking was clearly going to be an issue.

These estates seem to think that making it more difficult to park your car is going to mean you revert to a single or no car household and don’t have visitors. Instead it just leads to people using other people assigned parking spots and bad feelings.

You might want to rethink your attitude about this before you fall out with your neighbours, because you're not coming over we'll when you say things like this

I am not going to ask my DD to move out because someone bought a house without checking the plans.