AIBU to let my daughter’s boyfriend use marked visitor parking regularly?

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NC’d as outing.

Recently moved onto a new build estate, up the road from us is three terraced houses with five parking spots in front of them. Each of the three houses have one and two are very clearly marked as visitor spots.

My DDs boyfriend visits us regularly, can vary from one night a week to 2/3 nights depending on both their shift patterns. She has been parking in one of the visitor spots.

The first of the three residents moved in last week. Yesterday one of the site managers knocked on the door and asked DD to move the car as the houses are now lived in and the resident had complained (some people / contractors park on the still empty houses). DD explained that it was visitor parking and that is was our visitor parked there. Site manager said he would need to go away and look at the plans (thought he would have done this before coming over tbf).

So AIBU to tell him to continue to park there? Legally he can, rules are visitors up to 48 hours at a time (I’ve checked the convents we signed). I would HATE someone effectively parked on my drive, outside my window etc but I would never have bought that house. Resident must have seen and signed the same plans as us?

If the resident comes over to speak to us, how would you respond?

Site plan attached.

Anyway in a grand turn of events, we bumped into new neighbour last night. We mentioned the spot, new neighbour said we know it’s a visitor spot, we’ve not said anything to the site agent. It’s very clearly marked on the plans. We don’t care who parks there as long as you don’t park in my actual spot. Got chatting to DD (they are not too different in age) and invited her and BF over for a beer when it’s sunny.

But surely then they’d just have 2 numbered spaces like nearly every other house around that area?

OP it’s a very odd plan for parking with already limited parking, a few bays at the end of blocks and then a couple of visitor spaces outside someone else’s row of houses.

I think long term where the BF parks will be the least of the estates parking issues!

So the site manager lied to you about the complaint?

Well who knows who is telling the truth but he clearly isn’t going to start war with us. I do wonder if the site manager thought we were just parking there as we thought it was still empty and back tracked when he realised he didn’t know his plans.

I do agree with the people on the thread that 3 days is too much, and will limit use to when absolutely necessary to try and keep it far for all.

Hopefully once the final stage of the estate opens and more open space it will be less of an issue anyway.

Umm, what? He seemingly visits OP's house for 72hrs a week. He is a resident.

I was responding hypothetically.

thanks for you reply.

So he's either resident, or, as you say here, a permit holder that suits a (regular) visitor. You seem to believe that you have a totally unique case.

Good luck, and good luck in going forward.

You've totally missed the point.

Are you ok @ForeverTheOptomist ? You’ve replied to the same post three times with three different comments!

I do not believe I’m unique at all, but I also don’t believe that someone who visits 1-3 days per week is a resident!

Visitors parking space used by visitor. No issue here.

Does he have a toothbrush that lives at the house, would he make himself a brew without asking if his ‘hosts’ also wanted one, would he do a smelly number two and exit the bathroom before the smell had fully dissipated! How do we define a part-time resident vs a visitor?

I do all that (minus the tooth brush) at my best friends house, I still don’t live / reside there.

We had this on our new build estate, one house had a permanent visitor & parked in the visitor bay a lot infront of two houses, they got really annoyed & went back to the house builders who changed the space to only for those two houses visitors & not for visitors to the whole estate so be careful as you could lose it altogether!!

Your daughter is a resident and should not be using one of the visitor spaces. Her boyfriend should also park elsewhere with consideration for home owners (neither he or your daughter are homeowners on the estate) and use his legs to walk from his car to your house. If you were my neighbour we’d fall out pretty quickly.

Looking at the plans, I’m thinking the owners of those houses didn’t think others would check the parking plans. OP clearly has. It doesn’t look like there are other Visitor parking bays

OP is not wrong. There aren’t other spaces in that part of the street for visitors

the new owners obviously saw two spaces outside their home and though they were theirs

Looking at those plans I would take it as the visitor parking is for the house it’s in front of. We have a driveway like that and I would be pissed if someone on the street parked there outside my house. Two houses have two spots and then the one house has one spot.
It doesn’t matter what you have been told whoever told you was wrong and just wanted a sale. If you wanted more parking then you should have got a house with a bigger driveway!! You daughters bf wouldn’t be entitled to park there it’s simple.

No I wouldn't park in front of someone's window

Does everyone have the same deeds? Two of our neighbours came to blows over a ‘visitor’ space because one had paperwork that showed it was theirs, the other had paperwork that showed it was a designated visitor space. Solicitors involved and everything.

Bizarre that anyone can be this self-assured based on their driveway being similar: ‘It doesn’t matter what you have been told whoever told you was wrong’

If there’s somewhere else to park, even a few mins walk away, that won’t annoy your neighbours… then be considerate. It’s not that you are really being unreasonable but more that it’s nice to try and rub along nicely with neighbours

I'm perfectly fine, and many thanks for asking.

Yes! I have replied with different, but complementary comments whilst catching up. They did not in any way indicate a change in my opinion.

Maybe he just meant they'd had complaints in general about people doing that, and he was just mentioning to head off any complaints, it doesn't sound like he'd studied the plans in detail and drawn up a formal request

A permit holder? Where did you get that from?

He's a visitor who visits regularly. He won't be the only regular visitor to the estate - how on earth do you come to the conclusion that OP thinks she has a unique case?

The visitor parking is designated for up to 48 hour use and return after 48 hours. Which fits what OP's visitor is using it for.

It does look like there is far too little parking in the estate for all the houses, but that doesn't mean OP is the one whose visitor shouldn't be able to park in a visitor spot if one is free (that would make her a unique case).

That was typo with the he / she mix up in the OP. DD parks on our drive. Only the bf using the visitor spot.

Once the final part of the estate is open there will be a lot more road side parking available.

Guessing the solicitor and the deeds were wrong as well then 😂

Yes definitely possible.