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To think the main Mumsnet demographic are out of touch politically

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Veiledveritas · 08/05/2026 05:26

Reform.are smashing the polls yet any Reform voter is despised and ridiculed on here.

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Anjo2011 · 08/05/2026 07:44

Iocanepowder · 08/05/2026 07:27

I don’t know what to think anymore tbh.

My local area has been lib dem for years but i think the only reason reform have now done well here is that we have a hotel, and that there have been instances of the residents being arrested after stalking girls from our primary school.

That alone is reason enough for many.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 08/05/2026 07:45

metalcat · 08/05/2026 07:31

Look at the statistics, this bulletin is from the Office for National Statistics. Migration is actually down.

What's in the bulletin?

At 204,000, long-term international net migration for the year ending (YE) June 2025 was around two-thirds lower than a year earlier (649,000 in YE June 2024).

Non-EU+ migration has been driving the overall trend since 2021. The provisional net migration estimate for YE June 2025 for non-EU+ nationals was positive 383,000, continuing a downward trend since 2022.

The provisional estimate for total long-term immigration for the most recent period is 898,000, a decrease of 401,000 from the updated YE June 2024 estimate of 1,299,000.

https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/populationandmigration/internationalmigration/bulletins/longterminternationalmigrationprovisional/yearendingjune2025

But as Brexit taught us, facts don't cut through

I live in an exceptionally white area and still the local Facebook pages are full of ppl ranting about immigration and blaming the local council. Any new building developments are immediately jumped on as being "for all the immigrants" even though there are hardly any here. The council wearily responds with "no the pub extension is for a restaurant not to turn it into an immigrant hotel" but it makes no difference

I don't know what it's possible to do about that level of what appears to be deliberate spreading of misinformation

SomedayIllBeSaturdayNight · 08/05/2026 07:46

Waitingforthesunnydays · 08/05/2026 07:10

MN is out of touch on just about everything! It’s a totally different set of viewpoints to what I encounter IRL. Eg. Vaping is childish & disgusting, you should wash your towels every time you use them, trans women should be put to death, calling social services on your own family member who’s struggling with her kids is completely acceptable etc etc

I have never seen any of those views aired on MN!

Periperi2025 · 08/05/2026 07:47

MidnightPatrol · 08/05/2026 05:46

A vote for reform is ultimately just a protest vote against the failure of the current and former governments parties to achieve anything at all.

I don’t think reform have a clue what they’re doing, and I suspect most won’t know what reform really stand for beyond ‘stop the boats’ rhetoric.

I think it really emphasises how pissed off a lot of the country is with the spiralling levels of immigration and seemingly inability of any leadership to actually reduce it though. It’s fascinating to see the immigration numbers every year and the government surprised by them - as though it isn’t something they can control.

I think that's typically ignorant to think that someone choosing to vote a party other than reform will be naturally more informed, and the current politically parties haven't exactly demonstrated 'having a clue what they are doing' for several years.

Also be careful of the messages your absorb from the media and the people around up on this.

My friend has done the Westminster assessment and induction for conservative with a view to being a conservative MP as well as the same with reform (well senedd member with them) and she said the reform one was far harder and more rigorous, which is not anything you ever see portrayed in the media, it is just an assumption that they are messing around 'playing' at politics.

I guess we will find out the answer over the next 5 years or so.

OrangeSlices998 · 08/05/2026 07:47

Foxyloxy89 · 08/05/2026 05:36

Absolutely. I wouldn't want a Reform government but am hoping this will make the current government take the worries of the country seriously now. The people have spoken. Sort out the Welfare Bill, make work worthwhile, abolish business rates, stop building on our green belt and raise the tax threshold. Oh and get the navy in the channel to sort out the small boats chaos. That is what the working people who hold this country together want.

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If those are your political concerns then fair enough but this is a local election, you’re voting for who to be in charge of bin collections, parks, roads - not small boats

SomedayIllBeSaturdayNight · 08/05/2026 07:47

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 08/05/2026 07:43

Encourage young people to work instead of claiming invisible disabilities! In my era young people worked to help pay for those annoying old people. Now neither young or old work and everyone in their thirties/forties and fifties are paying taxes for everyone.

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If only it were that easy!

Nanda66 · 08/05/2026 07:48

I don’t support Reform, but there is no doubt that many people feel they are not being listened to and are looking for change. Working people are increasingly feeling that they are being asked for more and more to support too many people not working. The economy is terrible. Our town centres are changing rapidly and not for the best and council tax is expensive and rising yet services are getting worse. The failure to tackle the benefits bill is a major factor for many people, as is illegal and uncontrolled immigration. It’s not wrong to acknowledge this and people should be listened to.

Pretfeen · 08/05/2026 07:48

RedTagAlan · 08/05/2026 07:33

I don't see any unpleasant insults in the last page. I don't see any insults at all.

But what I do see here is you claiming it to be full of insults. Just as your OP claimed there were loads of insults. I don't see them.

I did post a reply to you earlier about this. And you even admitted to "baiting", by inserting an intentional spelling mistake. And when that was spotted by someone, you yelled "insult".

This is the tactic used by reform. Direct the conversation away from policy. Make it about "them and us".

Yes Reform are really divisive. No actual policies or proper discussions just baiting and hate

AgnesX · 08/05/2026 07:49

I'm very much in touch thankyou but I'm a decent human being.

These are local government elections though so it'll be interesting to see just what Reform achieve. It'll be an indication what they'll do in central government. The other parties will have to pay attention when forming policy for the main elections.

glitterpaperchain · 08/05/2026 07:49

Veiledveritas · 08/05/2026 05:54

It's totally the opposite in my opinion. And the venomous insults on here, calling the ellectorate at best 'thick, uneducated and stupid' are quite frankly embarrasing.

In my experience the most name calling and nastiness comes from the right on here. Personal experience is just that, personal experience.

Badbadbunny · 08/05/2026 07:51

Nanda66 · 08/05/2026 07:48

I don’t support Reform, but there is no doubt that many people feel they are not being listened to and are looking for change. Working people are increasingly feeling that they are being asked for more and more to support too many people not working. The economy is terrible. Our town centres are changing rapidly and not for the best and council tax is expensive and rising yet services are getting worse. The failure to tackle the benefits bill is a major factor for many people, as is illegal and uncontrolled immigration. It’s not wrong to acknowledge this and people should be listened to.

Nail on the head.

Dolphinnoises · 08/05/2026 07:51

Veiledveritas · 08/05/2026 05:26

Reform.are smashing the polls yet any Reform voter is despised and ridiculed on here.

People aren’t out of touch - they just have different political views to you. Politics isn’t fashion.

glitterpaperchain · 08/05/2026 07:53

Spookyspaghetti · 08/05/2026 07:38

Like with Brexit, you get what you pay for. There will be a lot of people now with councillors whose only intention is to tear stuff down and leave the local area poorer. Reform voters don’t understand that other than ‘stopping the boats’ Reform wants to cut services, raise council taxes, and just generally do as much harm to their own voter demographic as possible. They are literally the party of tax dodgers and the one percent. The smug Reform voters aren’t voting for anything other than more austerity and a higher cost of living. Ironic

They don't have a coherent policy. A local Reform councillor said in a Facebook group that he'd increase social care spending. Zia on Question Time said local Reform councillors would be diverting money away from social care to fix potholes.

DancingNotDrowning · 08/05/2026 07:53

localnotail · 08/05/2026 07:02

Well maybe the reason they sound so "nice" is because they have nothing else going for them, did it eve occurred to you?

Your attitude with me is exactly why Reform are doing so well. The fact that you can’t see that is worrying.

I am not a Reform voter, and have simply set out that one of the primary reasons they are garnering support is because people are turned off by the arrogant dismissal of people like you saying things like “did it even occur to you” (I think that’s what you were trying to say) the subtext of which is “you’re too thick to have thought your choices through.

I’m what is sneeringly referred to as a champagne socialist. I voted Labour until I could no longer bear to and now nationally I’d probably vote LD.

the issues that concern Reform voters don’t affect me. I have plenty of money and don’t need to worry about housing, schools or healthcare. I’m generally untouched by crime, rarely get public transport and won’t need to rely on a state care/support.

But even I can recognise why people are frustrated. The longer people like the posters on this thread refuse to engage productively with the concerns of people who are turning to Reform as a solution the bigger the mess we are eventually going to have to deal with will be.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 08/05/2026 07:53

OrangeSlices998 · 08/05/2026 07:47

If those are your political concerns then fair enough but this is a local election, you’re voting for who to be in charge of bin collections, parks, roads - not small boats

Indeed but a lot of ppl have no idea and no interest in understanding how local government works and what it's for 🤷🏻‍♀️ I mean thinking about bin collections and organising social care is quite boring and how it all gets paid for is both boring and very difficult

speakball · 08/05/2026 07:55

‘Out of touch’. I know how out of touch I seem because of my leftyness. I’m not woke to be in touch with others, that naturally comes about. Do you think the hard right are that way to just be, say, popular?

TheFatRat · 08/05/2026 07:56

Leavelingeringbreath · 08/05/2026 07:34

You are incorrect, other countries do indeed have a constant stream of immigrants - Germany especially

Well whose fault is that cough cough Angela Merkel. Sent a klaxon back in 2015 that they will accept all illegals and guess what, they screwed over Europe including the UK...hence Brexit.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 08/05/2026 07:56

glitterpaperchain · 08/05/2026 07:53

They don't have a coherent policy. A local Reform councillor said in a Facebook group that he'd increase social care spending. Zia on Question Time said local Reform councillors would be diverting money away from social care to fix potholes.

Which is typical sound bite politics. In reality local government is heavily constrained in what they can do by the large number of statutory duties laid upon them. They can't just spend money on whatever they feel like despite what reform and at the other end of the spectrum, the greens say

ForWittyTealOP · 08/05/2026 07:57

RedTagAlan · 08/05/2026 06:18

From what I see on here, these insults appear to be more of a reform election strategy than the norm. This is, it is reform folk that keep talking about it. They certainly talk about it more than it really happens.

This thread, so far, being an example.

Anti "elite". anti science, anti facts, is a proven way to push forward an ideology. And here the ideology is that Farage is the "man of the people", "one of you", "one of us". Lets stand up against those smug people who look down on us. So Reform folk keep repeating it.

It's similar to Mao and what he done in his cultural revolution. It is a tactic of the authoritarians. Trump does the same too.

I think this is all that needs to be said. There's absolutely no point trying to debate with people who are, unwittingly or otherwise, following a fascist playbook. The reason why fascism never goes away is because it uses the tactics you describe, and the reason it uses these tactics is that every generation or so they work so effectively. I think we have to ride this cycle out and hope that there's anything left to be salvaged afterwards.

Gablefable · 08/05/2026 07:57

RedTagAlan · 08/05/2026 06:18

From what I see on here, these insults appear to be more of a reform election strategy than the norm. This is, it is reform folk that keep talking about it. They certainly talk about it more than it really happens.

This thread, so far, being an example.

Anti "elite". anti science, anti facts, is a proven way to push forward an ideology. And here the ideology is that Farage is the "man of the people", "one of you", "one of us". Lets stand up against those smug people who look down on us. So Reform folk keep repeating it.

It's similar to Mao and what he done in his cultural revolution. It is a tactic of the authoritarians. Trump does the same too.

Completely agree.
There is a playbook which keeps playing out, any slight perceived slight is jumped on as an excuse to roll out exaggerated self-righteousness.
Just like an arsey teenager deliberately bumping into people to start a fight.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 08/05/2026 07:58

The OP's post just reflects a lack of understanding of our electoral system.

Yes, Reform have won a lot of seats. That does not mean that the majority of the voting population supports Reform - they do not. Look at vote share. Reform voters are a minority.

In our first past the post system, the winning party is usually the choice of a minority of voters. It is simply the case that the majority of votes which were not for the winning party are split across multiple other options and not united against the winning party. None of this is new or unusual in any way.

So Reform could win a general election even if the majority of the population was horrified by this prospect. Indeed, this may well happen. The only thing that could potentially stop it would be if the anti-Reform majority could somehow put aside the differences between them and work together to stop the far right.

This could still happen, but there has been little sign of anyone really considering this seriously to date. It's possible that Reform's success in yesterday's elections may galvanise those who oppose the far right and make them realise that there is real jeopardy here if they fail to put the future of the country ahead of their own party interests. We can only hope.

thepariscrimefiles · 08/05/2026 08:00

Why would the fact that a large demographic now supports Reform mean that their extremely right-wing policies are more acceptable and palatable?

Reform politicians are a bunch of corrupt, often racist and certainly xenophobic people who pretend to love the working class but who will enact policies that will hurt those people the most. But slogans such as 'stop the boats' and 'send them back' strongly appeal to right wing thugs and voters in communities that feel they have been 'left behind'. In reality, if Reform ever form a government, these people will suffer the most from their policies.

Hallowedturf · 08/05/2026 08:00

Veiledveritas · 08/05/2026 05:26

Reform.are smashing the polls yet any Reform voter is despised and ridiculed on here.

100%

They will be along in a minute.

Edit: I see some are already here.

None of them are willing to address their own failings….

OnceUponATimed · 08/05/2026 08:01

Veiledveritas · 08/05/2026 07:26

It's obvious the sneering bullies have just woken up. The last page of posts have become more and more unpleasant. Just insult after insult. It's embarrasing.

Is that not a bit of a mean thing to say?

Underthinker · 08/05/2026 08:02

OrangeSlices998 · 08/05/2026 07:47

If those are your political concerns then fair enough but this is a local election, you’re voting for who to be in charge of bin collections, parks, roads - not small boats

I think that because we now have 5 parties polling 15% or higher, the next GE will be volatile and all parties will rely heavily on convincing voters that they have a credible chance to win in that area. So the results today are really setting up parties' chances for 2029.
So this year, more than usual, it makes sense to consider national issues above local when voting in council elections.

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