For asking my partner not to sleep naked

[Em111110]

For some reason, my partner of 13 years has recently started sleeping naked. By recent, I mean the last few weeks. He says it is freeing and he sleeps better naked. There are occasions where we have fallen asleep naked in the past but we mostly wear pjs or at least underwear. The main reason is we have an 11 year old daughter, but I am also a bit of a clean freak and he is a typical sweaty farty man and it it gives me the ick sleeping naked in our sheets. My partner also doesn’t sleep well and gets up numerous times through the night, leaving the room to go for a drink, bathroom etc naked or kicks the sheets off so everything is on show. He says I am controlling for asking him to wear at least underwear to bed but I don’t think it’s appropriate for him to be naked when we have a nearly teenage daughter. AIBU?

Another vote that it’s fine for him to sleep naked, however put a pair of boxer pants on to wander into the public rooms of the house.

Naked in bed is the only way to be!!! Even in a hotel, I just keep pjs close by in case of a fire alarm.

The only time I’ve got pjs on is if I have to share a room on a work trip.

Agree that sleeping naked is fine, but definitely think he should be covering up to walk around the house or go to toilet if there’s teenage girls in the house.
is your DD his bio DD? I find this a bit strange tha the would even want to be nude around his Dd/risk her walking in on him!

No, just a bit strange.

I live in the UK. I have never worn anything in bed since I was a teenager, even in the coldest depths of winter. That’s what duvets are for! The body self-regulates its own temperature better without clothes when sleeping.

Sleeping naked is the best! Just make sure he puts on a wrap if he leaves the room in the night!

@Em111110 This.

@Em111110 also this…

@Em111110

Once your daughter realises she’s at risk of getting an eyeful, she’ll start to knock!! 😂

If I’m staying somewhere with family and there are young children around, I do wear something in bed. 11 I think is OK, they’re learning about bodies etc..

Try it, you might like it! It is liberating indeed!

FYI - His farts will get past his pants!!

I sleep naked all year round, with my bedroom window open (in the North of the UK). And I walk to and from bathroom in the nude. All year round. And no I don’t have heating on at night either.

Apart from being in the SE I'm the same

No, it's just personal preference.

There are too many people here who seem to struggle to grasp that their own preferences and experiences are not necessarily shared by everybody else, and that that is absolutely normal.

That's Mumsnet all over, though!

True! 🤷‍♀️ 😅

Not all families have the same hang ups about nakedness as other families evidently do.

YABU about his wish to sleep naked. He's being unreasonable if he thinks he can get up to go to the loo or whatever naked, though. That would only be acceptable if it was just the two of you. He can at least put a dressing gown on.

You say hangups, some of us say spare kids potential embarrassment. Or do you think having no hangups is more important than respecting the feelings of one’s kids?

Wait, what, you’re saying it’s personal preference to hate being naked? That isn’t a preference, it’s a phobia.

It is not a phobia - don't be silly! I'm not phobic about my body, I just prefer to have it covered up at night.

In your opinion. 🤷‍♀️

Yes, YABU, and controlling. What does your DD have to do with it? Unless you all sleep in the same room, I honestly can't see the issue.

And, as @ItsOkItsDarkChocolate so brilliantly put it, His farts will get past his pants!!

And again, your kids might be embarrassed about seeing a naked body, not everyone’s kids are.

But you said it wasn’t normal? Which is an odd thing to say. You might not like it, up to you, but there’s absolutely nothing abnormal about being naked in the privacy of one’s own bedroom.

But surely you'd agree it's preferable to assume they might be and to spare them potential embarrassment in the first place?

It all depends how they’ve been brought up. My children were brought up to be comfortable with and not embarrassed or ashamed by the sight of a human body. Shielding children from nudity can be damaging for them in later years because they then form unrealistic expectations of bodies from airbrushed imagery in magazines and social media. This can lead to dysmorphia and eating disorders. Far better IMHO for them to be accustomed to seeing real bodies in all their different shapes, sizes and colours.