AIBU to think children should not be taken shopping in pyjamas?

[NoahVale]

what is the craze for taking y our young dc to the shops in their pyjamas?
bad enough that they drive there but walking down the high street in pyjamas,
it looks appalling.
i just saw a man going past my house, he had been to the shops, and i thought, i bet he didnt wash before he went to the shops, next thing a woman coming up the road with 3 dc in their pjyamas

Good point, I would agree with this.

Agree. So that poster is not doing a “breakfast run” (WTF) but is going out for breakfast. Which is totally fine, but it’s an outing for which you should dress. Unreasonable for going to Costa though it’s shit.

We are a pro-social species living interdependently in a society. Standards are our friend.

I second this! Exactly how I view it. There’s nothing like brushing your teeth, washing your face, combing/brushing your hair, and putting clean clothes on. Showers even better!

Agree OP, I think it’s lazy and I judge.

If you’re going out during the day in pyjamas then I suppose you don’t care what people think anyway so win, win.

I just don’t think it’s any of my business

My dd is perfectly capable of getting herself dressed into a full set of clothes. She does this most days of the week when she goes to school. She is clean and polite and respectful. She doesn't need to dress how some stuffy, judgemental nobody dictates during her leisure time. I accept that you might find it offensive seeing her in pyjamas. You need to accept that I'm going to do what's best for my dd not some insignificant stranger

Never seen it either.

@NoahVale

"he is just a smelly man who lives near me" 🙊🤭

How is it best for her to wear nightclothes outside? What possible positives are there to wearing pyjamas to the supermarket, compared to say leggings and a tshirt?

People do this in my city. They will wear their dirty stinky pyjamas to the shops or wear their oodie which smells absolutely hideous because they don’t wash it. It’s a combination of bed rot, fecal matter, oily unwashed hair and body odour.

When I wash my oodie it needs to be put through the dryer twice and then hung up for 12 to 24 hours so that it dries properly.

People are disgusting.

ahem,
did you not read my post that you quoted from?

I don't mind the kids if young but it's the adults shopping in PJ's and on occasion hair rollers I see around my way. Yeah, looks shabby and lazy tbh. I guess I have to accept that times have changed!

I suppose if it’s to the corner shop then fine. Tesco shop I’d judge but sure people wear them there.

i dont judge your dc
but i do judge the parent

Probably because nipping out in PJs as a small child is probably the least important and relevant part of that child’s day

If hair rollers out are good enough for Collette Rooney! But honestly it’s ridiculous. I’ve seen a young woman at my local hair salon though leave with a head full of curlers for a night out.

Sometimes I judge people and then I think "you have no idea what they're going through right now." I remember being sat in the foyer of my Nana's apartment block in my pjs with my family, all in manky work clothes or scruffs or PJ's after we all rushed there when she died. My elder cousin went and got everyone McDonald's while we all sat waiting for people to do their Thier thing. Then we will have all gone wondering about maybe walking home, maybe via the shop or petrol station etc. You don't know what's going on in people's lives. It's not actually affecting you is it?

It's pretty grim. I also hate the thought of a "pj day" where you don't get dressed all day. I never feel up properly until I am dressed ready for the day.

Get your children up, fed and dressed. That's just good parenting. You're also teaching them self care - they can learn to dress themselves quite quickly and understand getting dressed is the norm.
As for "just covering genitals"?! Talk about a low bar.
Dress is coded in society - what we wear to weddings, funerals, job interviews etc is important. There are whole threads on these dilemmas!
Ultimately, it's personal choice, but what you wear signals something about you.

I haven't seen it and I don't give a fuck if someone doesn't make all their children get dressed before nipping to the shop.

I’ve ran mine to the corner shop in pjs when I’ve realised we are out of milk/bread etc they found it hilarious and I couldn’t have cared less what anyone thought.

This is so common at swimming lessons and swim groups, especially in winter - the kids in the early groups arrive and leave in their pyjamas and oodies.

I don't know why people get so exercised about it. People walking their dogs early in the morning are often also walking about in their pyjamas. Who cares, really.

When we used to do it (she doesn't really now) she was 4, had just started school and was keeping up with dance lessons and a swimming lesson Sunday morning. Sundays were usually her chance to be a bit lazy. Throwing a onesie on would mean she got to be comfy all day and that it was a lot easier for her to get ready for swimming and be done afterwards. It worked for us. It kept her happy during a very busy time of her life adjusting to school and keeping up hobbies. She is a happy, healthy and clean 8YO with an excellent work ethic but she understands the value and the importance of leisure time and self care too. She might lounge about in her pj's if we're not leaving the house but she also takes personal responsibility for having showers, doing her hair, keeping her hair neat, tidying her bedroom and choosing how to dress for important events. It's done her zero harm. The only people who are apparently butthurt are people who have absolutely no responsibility for her happiness or wellbeing so frankly it's none of their businessi

I’m surprised people haven’t commented on you judging a man as having not washed before going to the shop… How could you tell? Could you smell him through the window?

My 5 yo has autism and he likes wearing fluffy onesies, they make him feel comfortable and safe. He has, on occasion, worn one to the shop. He’s five so I really don’t think anyone cares that he’s essentially dressed like super Mario or the Gruffalo at the supermarket and if they do, fuck them.