AIBU to think children should not be taken shopping in pyjamas?

[NoahVale]

what is the craze for taking y our young dc to the shops in their pyjamas?
bad enough that they drive there but walking down the high street in pyjamas,
it looks appalling.
i just saw a man going past my house, he had been to the shops, and i thought, i bet he didnt wash before he went to the shops, next thing a woman coming up the road with 3 dc in their pjyamas

It is a growing trend/ craze/ societal shift or whatever terminology suits. Where do we draw the line? Standards are important. It’s slovenly. Dressing chn in PJs after swimming on the way home in the car is completely different to walking out of the house in the clothes you slept in. It suggests you are unwashed. Nobody else needs to see it. Same applies to sweaty topless men walking into supermarket.

Most clothes are also worn against the skin, and then used to sit on bus seats and all sorts of other manky places and get sweaty. I also find that people rarely, if ever, wash their coats so I dread winter a bit because so many people wear great big smelly coats that they never wash.

Exactly this! 🤢

Lazy scruffs

but they will be dirty if you wear them out side of the house, that is the point

This, I’ve never seen a child in PJs at the shops. Only people I have seen are teen girls but sometimes I think they’re not actually PJs but trousers that look like PJs and I’m just getting old

For those faux-naive posters that can't possibly imagine what I mean but a breakfast run; it's where DD and I have just been. We went to Costa to get coffee this morning, sometimes we get food too, others we get McDonald's.

Adults out in pyjamas give the impression of being sick, lazy, and/or unwashed. I don’t care if they do it - that’s up to them - I can’t imagine they care what I think of them - but to me it doesn’t give the impression of someone who cares about themselves very much.

How sad that you aren’t able to dress your child appropriately!

I'm imagining wearing a co-ord set to the supermarket, oblivious to the attire police silently seething around me

if we don't judge anyone, we will soon be back to living in caves.

Civilization is based on judgement. That works-or should work-by judging and shaming those who are unable to adhere to normal standards. Most of us don't need to be shame. We instinctively know what is right and wrong but some of us have no idea.

Yes, being unable to wash and dress your child before taking them to the shops is not the same as shitting in the street but it is a link in the same chain.

I would judge you and so will most people. The kindest thing I would think is that you are suffering with your mental health but more likely that you are lazy, unhygienic and happily passing on those unattractive traits to your child.

Get yourself and your child washed and dressed before inflicting yourself on others. If you are unable to do that, try online shopping or ask someone who cares for you to do it.

I don’t understand why people say all this stuff. Looking and judging is something many people do and it doesn’t take any time. Thoughts pop
into your head.

When I visited my daughter in hospital, I judged the smokers outside the door as I was walking in. Clearly, I had bigger things to worry about, and I didn’t actually waste my time or my day judging them but the thought popped into my head regardless. It’s such a boring retort. It’s unlikely the OP is spending her entire retirement dedicated to this.

I've done it, with a sick child who is too unwell to bother dressing, urgently needing Calpol for example. Usually in the car but not everyone drives and if I had to do it today I would and I'd trip over the road to the convenient corner shop. And if my neighbours wanted to curtain twitch and be horrified we'll fair play to them. I'm not further upsetting a child with tobsillitis or a chest infection for the sake of your aensibilities

I think you shouldn’t do it. I think jammies should be kept clean and it looks lazy. I have probably done it though but it wouldn’t have been at all routine. I’ve seen teen girls wandering around in their jammies. I find it a bit odd and lazy looking but it’s not something I lose sleep over.
I do a lot of DIY/Painting/gardening type of things and have very scruffy work leggings that I probably shouldn’t wear in public but sometimes do.

Why is there shame in taking a child to the corner shop in pyjamas? I'll tell you what else my gym has a crèche and at the 8am session all the kids are in jammies, dressing gowns slippers happily having a wee playdate while parents work out.

Oh the shame, the shame 🫠

it’s just basic standards to get washed and dressed before you leave your home and failing to teach your children that is a failure of parenting.

unless they are ill and you are taking them to the GP

If your Dc wanted their breakfast and you wanted a cup of coffee, you are appallingly disorganised, I’m not but I can empathise. You’ve run out of milk. You might pop to the shops unable to wait whilst your three uncooperative DC get washed and dressed.

Isn't it better for civilisations to focus on things that actually matter, rather than being sidetracked by completely inconsequential things such as what a child wears for a McDonald's breakfast run? I don't agree that wearing pyjamas to the supermarket is a slippery slope to openly shitting in the street.

"Inflicting yourself" surely only applies to things that actually in some way encroach upon the comfort of others, such as being smelly or badly-behaved. I'm not sure that wearing a bad outfit constitutes "inflicting" anything

lol at what a breakfast run turns out to be. Even my DS at uni gets dressed first if he's doing this so it's a new one on me

Haha this might be the weirdest response ever. In fact maybe in quite glad you’re judging me as I wouldn’t want to be anything like you at all!

society is not built on people judging

Well yes, so once we get back from the gym we throw the pyjamas in this handy invention called a washing machine and we shower and get dressed. Then at bedtime, clean jammies

That's quite cute actually!

👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻 . She obviously wants things ‘to slow down, so she can remain in the uncivilised era!

People were horrified on another posting by someone and myself saying we "garden" in pjs. I am usually up around 6,2 dogs large garden,4 greenhouses. Come march,it gets very hot in them. It's wee, kettle on,door unlocked,dogs out,poop scoop, open greenhouse doors,dead head flowers,check for slugs,cat poo, damage caused by wind or animals overnight. We're detached, not overlooked. I saw a girl 30s, mid morning our local little Tesco,pjs, dressing gown and slippers. 6 pm I often saw a man mountain of a bloke, well over 6 feet, pjs, dressing gown slippers. We had a neighbour, now dead. She was in the front garden,then the shop, then on the bus in her pjs. It turned out she had depression,then dementia. I would assume mental health issues.

Why?