AIBU to think children should not be taken shopping in pyjamas?

[NoahVale]

what is the craze for taking y our young dc to the shops in their pyjamas?
bad enough that they drive there but walking down the high street in pyjamas,
it looks appalling.
i just saw a man going past my house, he had been to the shops, and i thought, i bet he didnt wash before he went to the shops, next thing a woman coming up the road with 3 dc in their pjyamas

lol thanks for your empathy

Why?

We went to a wedding approximately 20 years ago where one of the other guests was wearing a "dress" identical to one of my night gowns except hers was below the knee and mine was above the knee. My DH and I exchanged a look but didn't say anything.

That is totally different! Young DC in a 4/5pm swimming class, on their way home - totally fine.

out and about first thing in PJs - scummy.

There will always be those among us who are happy to slip society down bit by bit.

If you can go out and about in your nightwear, why not spit in the street, why not eff and blind, why not play loud music on public transport ,why not shit in the street, why not shoplift.

Nothing is licked off the ground-each downward step as a society usually begins with small infringements and then gets worse.

These links downward are usually committed by those who have no stake in society, are a bit dim or think standards don't apply to them.

There can be no reasoning with them as you demonstrate

“the pyjamas were from John Lewis if that makes it any less traumatic for you”

brilliant hahahaha 😅

Well then why did you say it was 'bad enough that they drive there'? I'm confused. 🤔

I would assume a bit chavvy but I don't harbour a deep disdain for the lower classes so that isn't meant pejoratively. I'd also maybe feel a bit sad for someone that they weren't able to take any pride in their appearance, but we're all living different lives and they're perfectly entitled to have different priorities than do I. I've lived in lots of rough areas and you do actually feel like a bit of a tit popping into a Lidl/B&M/ASDA in a rough area dressed to the nines.

Fucking hate the word “jammies” as well. Unbearably twee.

I associate being in my nightwear during the day will being ill, or depressed. I think the act of getting dressed in the morning is beneficial to mental health. If I wake up feeling either mentally low or a bit unwell or both, I chivvy myself along to get dressed and I always feel better when I have.

It would be a shame if future generations lost that distinction because nightwear and daywear became blurred.

looking at that tesco link above it led me to stories about a benefits office where they banned pyjama wearing claimants
as well as a primary school that banned pyjama wearing parents on school drop off

Hopefully you stopped for Wine and/or chocolate 🍫!

The other night, DD (5) was in her PJs at about 7pm. Absolutely no chance of going to sleep anytime soon so i asked if she'd like to go around the park opposite and feed the ducks.

She put her long coat on, her wellies and had the BEST time! She's excitedly told loads of people she went to the park in her PJs.

Its never something I'd do but I'm happy she's got a memory 😊

I just don't buy this slippery slope argument. There is no anti-social element to wearing the "wrong" outfit to a supermarket. It's anti-social to smell bad or to behave in an anti-social manner.

I have some summer trousers, loose and stripy pattern bought from uniqlo, if I wear them in hot weather will I get judged?

You'll be shitting in the street next

No my darling

Spitting in the street is harmful. Effing and blinding is... Well honestly it's just words but it's hardly effective communication

Pooping in the street is unhygienic, shoplifting is theft.

What we're discussing is a child in cotton pyjamas getting to wear them to a playdate with their friends. That's childhood fun. Also I'm 43, my friends and I lived in a cult de sac and would have been in and out of each others houses on weekend mornings with our mum's in our pyjamas.

Listen, life can be nice and fun and social, with connections and relaxation. We don't need to keep pokers up our backsides. I work in a professional job, so does my husband, 99% of the time we'll be found in suits and similar. I'll tell you what though the judgements on clothes are interesting because I can tell you the consultants I work with in my suits treat me very differently to how I was treated post partum in pyjamas in a NICU with milk and tears running from me.

Yet I can assure you I'm the same intelligent, capable woman in both scenarios (as they swiftly found out) the real race to the bottom is the race to condemn others gleefully for enjoying their lives. I'm sorry you're not enjoying yours.

I went to 33 countries last year and imo it’s individualistic societies.

Collectivist societies where harmony is considered more important than expression don’t do this - Japan, China, Thailand, Korea, Peru, Argentina… they don’t do this. Particularly the East Asian countries where saving face and reputation is more strictly adhered to (and shame seen as more embarrassing on you AND your family). These societies have their own issues but wearing dirty clothes and schlepping to the shops in your PJs isn’t one of them.

Individualistic societies have stopped pushing social harmony and started saying personal creativity, comfort and preference is more important.

Lots of parents do this at our local pool. I can see why they do it, but not in a million years would I let my children walk around in pyjamas or onesies. Just looks utterly slovenly in my opinion.

Pyjamas outside the house is bloody awful!

ehole families having breakfast in pyjamas at a hotel I stayed in recently, and last weekend at a theme park there were people in pyjama bottoms and tee shirts.

I hate it.

That is just incredibly scummy. No shame. I’d be embarrassed handing over my child to a teacher who’s washed, dressed and ready to look after and teach my child at 8am, while wearing PJs and a dressing gown.

You're being tongue in cheek here, I take it?

As a person who doesn't feel the cold, I can't imagine sleeping in a onesie. They are definitely lounge/leisure wear more than PJ's. Also difficult to imagine wearing a onesie without undies, pj's different story

This is peak mumsnet! It's made my morning 😆😆😆

YANBU in general because pyjamas aren't the typeof clothes you're supposed to wear outside, however, I wouldn't think twice of it either. Live and let live, I guess, what other people are wearing isn't harmful for anybody so I'd let it slide.