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Would this bother anyone or am I just being petty? Neighbours walking past

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thebakera · Today 10:51

I recently moved into a house which is a modern new build with 2 allocated parking spaces outside my living room and front door.
So it isn't a driveway as such but 2 parking bays designated for this property.

A few of the neighbours use it as a short cut to go from A to B and they literally are walking right by my living room window multiple times a day.

At times they will even have conversations.

The kids do it as well and it is really annoying me.

I want to kindly ask them to stop as I feel it's invading my privacy but feel petty doing so.

Would this annoy anyone else?

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LikelyLacking · Today 13:28

DoAWheelie · Today 12:04

You get used to it after a few weeks.

I live on the ground floor of a block of flats and the bin storage is to the side of the building next to my flat. Everyone has to walk past my living room window to get to the bins so there is someone going by at least once an hour. Very similar set up to the pic posted above.

At first I would startle and turn to look at the window every time, now I rarely notice unless I happened to be already looking at the window.

Pro tip if your windows open right out - it's fantastic for taking deliveries without having to walk out the flat into the main corridor and then to the door. Just pop open the window and grab. My regular postie, pharmacy, and chippy all automatically knock on the window instead of ringing the door now and it's great.

Speak for yourself! I never got use to it and that as well as the all-round lack of privacy and constant bloody noise from every angle was the reason that I moved from a new build estate.

user2848502016 · Today 13:38

I think plant pots are the answer, put them along the wall of your house then park right up close to them so there’s no space for people to walk

Lilylolamillie · Today 13:50

My old house was like this & luckily I didn’t have an issue with my neighbour. However I did had some large planters along the front of the house to brighten it up more than anything. It would have stopped anyone being able to cut through between my car and house if they’d been doing this.
My house was also in a cul de sac - so like OP no issue with traffic to walk around parked cars away from the houses.

Kingoftheroad · Today 13:51

Big planters. You can get wheels for them. They’ll stop it completely. You don’t want to be putting the car right up against the house or windows for various safety reasons

good luck with them

snowmichael · Today 13:59

You're right to be annoyed, but also right to think nothing you could say would easily resolve it

What about a row of planters or flower pots with spikey leaved pants either side of the bays?

LovelessRutting · Today 14:12

It sounds like you don’t actually “own” the parking bays, just the right to park there so you can’t really do anything about it. It would be different if they were cutting across a private driveway but it sounds like the main problem is that your house has no front garden and your windows are directly on to a public street.

TeaPot496 · Today 14:14

LovelessRutting · Today 14:12

It sounds like you don’t actually “own” the parking bays, just the right to park there so you can’t really do anything about it. It would be different if they were cutting across a private driveway but it sounds like the main problem is that your house has no front garden and your windows are directly on to a public street.

OP's title plan will prove this

thebakera · Today 14:15

So the kids from them 3 houses are running back and forth after school every day.

The parents go back and forth to fetch their kids, have a chat with the other parents etc.

This is a HA property but I am not sure if they would do anything about it.

Having the planters would make it difficult for 2 cars to park in the bays.

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ElfAndSafetyBored · Today 14:29

I agree you need a slim barrier - something like the others have.

The other thing you could maybe try is doing it back to them. I am not suggesting starting a fight but if 8, 14 and 16 are close, I would get a friend to help you and do it to number 8. That is the most natural opportunity as they are on the end. You need them to be in and it be inconvenient time ideally.

if you have no suitably loud friends, send your child (if old enough, across the street whilst you stand directly outside number 8’s window and then have a very loud shouted conversation with them across the road. This will liok
less manufactured as who hasn’t done that at some point.

If No8 is reasonable, it will occur to them and it might stop. I can tell readers thinking ‘unlikely’.

If they come out and confront you, apologise and play it back to them like ‘Oh I am sorry, yes I imagine it is loud if we neighbours use this strip. Do you think we should get everyone using the bottom of the drives instead? Whatever you do avoid saying ‘but you do it to me’ as that just looks petty.

ElfAndSafetyBored · Today 14:30

Another tactic if they are having a long conversation on your front is to open the window or door and say ‘oh hello, did you want me?

LikelyLacking · Today 14:32

thebakera · Today 14:15

So the kids from them 3 houses are running back and forth after school every day.

The parents go back and forth to fetch their kids, have a chat with the other parents etc.

This is a HA property but I am not sure if they would do anything about it.

Having the planters would make it difficult for 2 cars to park in the bays.

So there is nothing that you can do, especially as pp said, that they’re not your allocated parking spaces.

ElfAndSafetyBored · Today 14:32

Or park your car as far up to the house as you can so it would make it difficult for them to walk between the house and the car.

Combine this idea with the planter idea - tall planters up again the top of the house that the car parks right up to. Can have a decorative piece of big rope tied to it to almost act as a bumper.

ElfAndSafetyBored · Today 14:36

LikelyLacking · Today 14:32

So there is nothing that you can do, especially as pp said, that they’re not your allocated parking spaces.

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But OP doesn’t say that does s/he? They are the two parking spaces allocated to her house. The problem isn’t that other people are using them. That would be a whole new horror.

ParmaVioletTea · Today 14:46

thebakera · Today 11:18

Hi there is no garden/driveway at the front.
Each property is designated 2 parking spaces belonging to each house.
There is no footpath just the spaces and the neighbours are coming onto my parking spaces to cut through.

So it’s as if they are walking across your front garden, except the developers sacrificed a front garden for off-street parking?

YANBU

If you’re not using the spaces for parking can you use the space for something else? id be going to B&Q or IKEA to buy some big planters and get them ready for summer planting either side of your parking to form a kind of a fence.

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