Friend’s awful dress and my reaction

[SummerFate]

A friend is mine is quite heavily into fashion and spends a lot on clothes. Some of her choices are quite bold and not necessarily what I would pick, but she has a good figure and is quite distinctive looking, so can generally pull off something a bit more “out there”.

However, yesterday she showed me the dress she has spent a fortune on for an event - and it’s hideous. Not “not to my taste” - objectively hideous. And my face reacted before my brain could tell it to keep quiet.

She could tell immediately that I thought it was awful and she looked really upset. She said straight out, “You hate it, don’t you?”, and while I tried to say it just wasn’t my personal cup of tea, it was too late. It was obvious I hated it. I said we all have different tastes, what suits her wouldn’t suit me and that I’ve seen things look amazing on her that I could never wear, but the rest of the evening was really awkward.

I’ve messaged this morning saying I’m sorry if I upset her and that I didn’t mean to, and that she shouldn’t let what I think affect her choice. She hasn’t replied.

How do I fix this? Do I just hope it blows over? I know I should have tried to hide my thoughts, but when she said she’d spent twice what I pay a month for my mortgage, I was expecting something amazing - I just couldn’t hide my reaction when I saw this monstrosity.

Spiralling? How is the op spiralling ffs. My ex husband used to say shit like that to me when he was clearly losing an argument and had to put me in my place or to try and make me feel small.

I suppose whatever makes you feel better though

Learn the difference between an account and a username.

What was the point of the comment then?

Show me the link to this Daily Mail thread.

This thread reminds me why I hate MN at the weekend.

The wine comes out and so does all the bitchiness in vino veritas.

"OOOHHH!!!!! Need to see a photo of the dress before we can decide"
swiftly followed by
"Wow, call yourself a friend by posting a photo and laughing/taking the piss out of her?! "

I would suggest you click on 'see all' for the OP's posts and have a look at the way she's gone from worrying about her friend's feelings to relentlessly attacking anyone who suggests that if she is worried about that, posting the dress might not have been the best way to go about mending things.

There's no argument. She posted that as an AIBU and a few of us have said, yes. Not for not liking the dress, but for exposing her friend's taste to public ridicule. She started by calling anyone who dared say that 'loons' and it's gone downhill from there.

I'm sorry your ex was a shit.

I thought you’d said goodnight?

Jan 28, 2023, a post from Monica:
Decided to Prank some of my friends & family by sending them a really ugly dress that I’m “ thinking of purchasing”, here’s how it went:
The dress in the video Monica uploaded is the exact same dress as OP's friend:
https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=1685642085188263

I think between the “two” of you, you can entertain yourself.

Sorry?

She shouldn't have asked if she didn't want to know

Oh, what a coincidence! How very strange.

The vast majority of people across 24 pages hated this dress. Do you really think it’s that unlikely two people hated it four years apart?

So basically 25 pages of wasted time? Reading only the OP's posts she comes across as very unpleasant.

Um, ok?

Well if you’ve only read my posts, you haven’t wasted 25 pages’ worth of time, have you? And how is it more of a waste of time than any other thread?

Let's talk about your poor 'friend's' feelings. I'm assuming the reason you're up so late is because you're trying to come up with ways to make things right with her?

Here’s a list of the posters I could find, from a quick skim of the thread, who’ve disagreed with at least one of your posts, Summer:

@Dodorogers
@user233675892
@ThreadGuardDog
@faithfultoGeorgeMichael
@Dancingsquirrels
@EmeraldShamrock000
@newornotnew
@SurferRona
@PhaedraTwo
@reprobates10
@Sourandsweet1

OP, I was supporting you. 3 years ago Monica thought the dress was so ugly that she decided to prank her friends and said she was considering buying it so she could see how horrified they were. Three laters, the dress is still ugly which explains why you couldn't help yourself and react with a look of shock. Trying to help you out OP.

Drop the bone mate! Go to bed or watch a film.

This really isnt worth that level of research and suggests that you are verging on obsession!

My first reaction on seeing the dress was the toilet roll covers popular in the 1970s.

God you're like a dog with a bone! Get a life!