AIBU to be baffled a mum had no idea the school fayre was happening?

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Today my daughter's primary school had a spring fayre after school on the school field. Ice cream van, face-painting, various stalls with games, the usual. All arranged by the PTA to raise money for the school.
There was a mufti day today, and the children were asked to bring a donation to the school as an exchange for the mufti, something like cakes to sell or a teddy for the tombola or a bottle of wine as a prize or something.
One mum wanders onto the field after school, with both of her kids in mufti, looking around bewildered saying "What's this? Is this a new thing they're doing? Will it be every week?"

And this is so weird to me because the spring fayre has been organised for months. We have lots of emails asking for donations, several more asking for volunteers, we've had at least three leaflets home about it, and she obviously got the memo about mufti, the whole point in which was for the school fayre!

My phone own child has been banging on about it for three weeks.

How can she get so unaware? I'm not judging, honestly, I'm just baffled how it got past her.

Is it just me? Could you miss something like this after all that communication?

Never heard of mufti either. But then my ds doesn't have to wear a silly uniform to go to school so I guess all days are mufti days🤷‍♀️. It does sound like something indecent though😅

I’m surprised that so many people don’t know what a mufti day is! Even I know what that is…and they didn’t have them when I was at school and I don’t have kids.

That is not the only meaning.

• Meaning: Civilian clothing worn by officers or staff who usually wear uniforms.
• Mufti Day: In schools, this refers to a casual clothes day (or non-uniform day)

My DCs went to a RC school in the US where they wore uniform. Out of uniform days were 'dress down' days.

I know the term mufti as my DF and his father were British military, but I'd say as a child I might have been in a distinct minority who were familiar with the term in Dublin.

Well yes, exactly. It comes from the name for an Islamic scholar and was co-opted by the British Army in India to mean not wearing uniform and resembling a mufti.

Obviously I know it means wearing civvies given that's precisely what the entire thread is discussing.

I've been a teacher for umpteen years.
There's just as much " Nobody told me" from the parents as there is from the kids 😅

don't be ridiculous - you get a school email, you open it and you put it in the diary. Your children are as important as you.

Im not sure to be honest, im usually on it with PD days but this year has been incredibly stressful for lots of reasons so I just forgot. It all worked out though I have a very good boss.

I was at private school in the 70s and it’s the only time in my life I have heard that expression…3 children later I have not ever been aware of mufti as a common word !

It was a mufti day when I was at school in the 70s and also when Dd was at school

"silly uniforms" do have a place though as they lessen the chance of bullying for children whose parents can't afford the latest fashions/trainers etc

Not a lot of time for PTA stuff so would of probably ignored it

I am very grateful for uniforms. I dreaded mufti days as a kid. Absolutely dreaded them. Especially in secondary school.

Oh charming.

So many reasons...

Very traumatic things going in own life so anything else is second place

Having own issues with organising

Not technology wise literate so misses e mails

Has other DC with more urgent needs

Perhaps indeed a negligent parent who is high, doesn't know what's going on.

Who knows?

I don’t think you have to be obsessed to be aware that there’s a school fayre.

But tbh I’m more confused by her question about whether this was a new thing they were doing every week? That is the question of a compete idiot. Who looks at a fayre and thinks it’s a weekly occurrence after school?

It was called mufti day when I was at school in the 80’s and when my dc were at school 😁

Lots of people just don't read emails.

Happened to me many times, I’d collect kids and be quite surprised they weren’t wearing uniform or there was some cakes/fayre type stuff going on. My husband handled it all.

I don’t think I could bring myself to say ‘mufti day’ it’s sounds so stupid, it’s always been a non-uniform day as far as I’m aware.

YABU calling it a fayre. It's 2026, not the Middle Ages.

Maybe in their family the child’s father/ other parent does the school admin as this mum works lots or doesn’t speak good English or lots of other reasoms
that we don’t know

That’s dreamy

We (abroad) used to call it casual clothes day in the ‘80s. We had an exchange teacher from Oxford for a term and I remember her calling it mufti - I’d never heard the term before.

No, you do that.

Not everyone is you.