AIBU to be baffled a mum had no idea the school fayre was happening?

[xAwaywiththefairiesx]

Today my daughter's primary school had a spring fayre after school on the school field. Ice cream van, face-painting, various stalls with games, the usual. All arranged by the PTA to raise money for the school.
There was a mufti day today, and the children were asked to bring a donation to the school as an exchange for the mufti, something like cakes to sell or a teddy for the tombola or a bottle of wine as a prize or something.
One mum wanders onto the field after school, with both of her kids in mufti, looking around bewildered saying "What's this? Is this a new thing they're doing? Will it be every week?"

And this is so weird to me because the spring fayre has been organised for months. We have lots of emails asking for donations, several more asking for volunteers, we've had at least three leaflets home about it, and she obviously got the memo about mufti, the whole point in which was for the school fayre!

My phone own child has been banging on about it for three weeks.

How can she get so unaware? I'm not judging, honestly, I'm just baffled how it got past her.

Is it just me? Could you miss something like this after all that communication?

That really is incredible. Improving the playgrounds are our priority for next year too. We wanted to repaint them this year but the quotes were crazy and we needed to do some work to improve disabled access instead.
We have done a lot of border planting though and a dad has taken some benches home to up cycle!
They must have raised so much! Any tips?! 😂

Absolutely this
Is it not enough to be successful in raising the money and doing good?
Why the nasty comments about other parents mothers ?
Thats why people steer away from some PTAs, when its taken over by the Main Character types, who are condescending, sneery and have to prop up their self esteem with nastiness
I notice @xAwaywiththefairiesx didnt reply to my other comment

You could have simply replied " heres a flyer, its something we do every year" instead of bashing and starting a thread
Poor example to the children imho

Parents are busy with work juggling kids not to mention constant this day that day non uniform day homework ...reading ... honestly id scan a letter sent home with my boys then throw it in the draw or bin.
So a school fayre unless your on parents association or something like that it doesn't always rate at top of your list.

School or education are outdated beyond belief now so glad mine have grown up into young men.

The vitriol, nastiness, and personal insults that have been thrown at the OP on this thread have been shocking. And she's taken it quite well, considering.

And quite honestly, the fact that some of you have had the time to spend an entire weekend keeping up with and commenting on a mumsnet thread and justifying why you can't possibly manage all the millions of dress up days, just shows that none of you are as busy as you claim to be. Could have spent that time buying yourselves calendars and filling them in for the entire school year, and taking an active interest in the place your kids spend half their week.

But I guess we all have different priorities in life.

Exactly If they wanted to, they would.

And please note, it's ME saying that, not the OP. She's been pretty restrained, considering.

She said it was a comment she overheard as the mum passed by the area she was running. It wasn't said to her.
She made a thread on a comment she overheard. Because she found it surprising.
She didn't say "omg this thick cunt of a mum who doesn't care about her kids' futures said something so fucking stupid...." she wasn't nasty directly to the mum. The mum probably doesn't know this thread exists and is unaffected by any of it.

And yet, the OP has endured relentless nastiness and a huge, collective over reaction.

So much work women do in and out of the home goes unrecognised and unappreciated

I could not agree more.

There are parents that are organised and balance school/work/life well. Then there are parents working full time and trying to juggle absolutely everything and miss things from time to time. And then there are the PTA mums….

Pta mums with full time jobs and busy lives? Plenty of people on this thread prefer women to keep quiet about the work that goes on in the background

She was still sneery and condescending

When my children were 6, 5 and 2 my beloved DP both died suddenely
I was utterly bereft and could barely function
Why is Op " baffled" when if she wasnt so utterly self absorbed she would realise that all around us are people who are bereaved, depressed and trying to keep the show on the road, their children at school, working etc
The tone was nasty and uncalled for and explains why so many parents avoid the PTA!

Or… there are parents that manage to know when their children’s school events are on and choose whether to go or not, and there are those that just don’t seem to care and use being ‘busy’ as an excuse. Everyone is busy and has their own shit to deal with, it doesn’t mean you can’t be aware of what is happening around you.

Okay.

Because some schools are shit at communicating with parents?

I had it with 2 separate schools where we weren't emailed or notified about so many events.

Would anyone be baffled if a father didn’t know? If you’re judging her publicly here I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ve had a gossip about her with the other perfect school mums!

Absolutely agree. PTA mums are amazing and in a league of their own how they manage to juggle everything and find the time to volunteer for their kids school. I take my hat off to them. I could never do it.

Have you read any of the thread? like, any of it? even the OP?

I never knew what was going on wnen my son was in primary with these type of things. Had bigger things to worry about. Didn't know any of the parents. School facebook page sometimes reminded me if i was lucky.

Are you sure?

Some people are too busy to even remember that sort of shit.
frankly I find it cheeky schools asking you to bring stuff in for them to sell for ‘funds’

If it has been the father I heard saying it then yes. I would have. As it happens, it was a mum.

Why? It's for your kids

Exactly this! If it’s some kind of local slang then why assume that others will know on a national forum?

Are you sure you're not just shit at paying attention?