AIBU to be baffled a mum had no idea the school fayre was happening?

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Today my daughter's primary school had a spring fayre after school on the school field. Ice cream van, face-painting, various stalls with games, the usual. All arranged by the PTA to raise money for the school.
There was a mufti day today, and the children were asked to bring a donation to the school as an exchange for the mufti, something like cakes to sell or a teddy for the tombola or a bottle of wine as a prize or something.
One mum wanders onto the field after school, with both of her kids in mufti, looking around bewildered saying "What's this? Is this a new thing they're doing? Will it be every week?"

And this is so weird to me because the spring fayre has been organised for months. We have lots of emails asking for donations, several more asking for volunteers, we've had at least three leaflets home about it, and she obviously got the memo about mufti, the whole point in which was for the school fayre!

My phone own child has been banging on about it for three weeks.

How can she get so unaware? I'm not judging, honestly, I'm just baffled how it got past her.

Is it just me? Could you miss something like this after all that communication?

DH and I are both from the SE, grew up about 45 mins away from each other. Mufti day was the only thing a non uniform day was ever called at my primary and secondary school. DH had never heard of it until I mentioned it in relation to DC’s school.

You are judging her though because you’re asking a forum of people how a mum could not know something. I don’t know what’s so baffling about it.

I KNOW my bin gets emptied once a week and you can bet your bottom dollar sometimes I hear that lorry and think ‘shit the bin’ .. it’s not at the forefront of my mind 24/7… is that baffling to you?

Not just army or schools either. I've used it for any kind of not being in usual uniform like when DD's dance school have a fundraising week not wearing the branded gear. My mum uses it when her choir are performing in normal clothes and not their robes.

It's really common. Not a regional thing at all.

I once turned up two hours early to a thing on a Sunday after the clocks had changed, obvs that was before you had mobiles

Do the council send you three leaflets and multiple emails though about one specific week's collection? And suggest you wear something other than your normal clothes for one week of putting it out which you take on board but somehow still forget to put the bin out? Because otherwise it isn't comparable

Non school uniform day. We also had mufti today funnily enough, in exchange for raffle prizes!

Maybe in her family her husband gets the emails?

If not, well, quite easily achieved by not reading the emails, I guess. It can get a bit boy who cried wolf when they're just constant. Some people get overwhelmed when there's about ten unopened and delete the lot unread.

Some people can’t read so miss written communication

Mufti day and fayre are both very odd words to use. Perhaps the advert could have been done in clearer plain English.

love the fact it is a ‘Fayre’, not a ‘Fair’. Hehe!

This could be me as DH is the 'school email man' here and tbh doesn't do a stellar job. He'll keep up with permissions and payments but will sometimes just forward an email to me or simply forget/not check. My DC would just say if it's a non-uniform or themed day and that would be that, if they didn't mention the fayre.

You might think why aren't you on the school email but you know what,like many mums, I'm on every other in a long list of groups and teams and I keep on top of training/matches/changes to those/drop times etc so I am OK with letting him aink or swim at it!!

It could be separated parents and the other received all of the communications and arranged the mufti clothes that day. Other suggestions have also been offered by PP.

Does mufti stand for something? It feels a bit wrong as a word 😅 I'm in Glasgow and 100% it would be appropriated into something very rude.

The only reason I know a lot of what goes on at my daughter's school is because they improved their communication and now have multiple methods. When they relied on social media for a while it was a bit of a nightmare and a lot was missed, it was always quite poorly formatted and confusing. My daughter's dad only ever receives about 50% of the communication and we can't figure out why. Lots of things will pass someone by regardless. It's not really something to be wide eyed about imo.

Because her kids were literally in mufti. But she was walking around the field like she'd just been beamed into space

This.
And I worked in a school.
Will it matter in a week? No.
Many mums are juggling jobs, finances, kids, homework, shopping, and life. Mums are doing their best in hard circumstances. Feeding kids, bathing them, keeping a roof over their heads is essential. Ditto getting them to school in clean uniform. Making sure they have leisure time and a safe home life. School fundraising, not a big deal.

I just checked the stats 1 in 6 or 18% of people in the UK have very low literacy described as functional illiteracy

Me too!

Full-time and sadly modern technology means we are bombarded with PTA, this fancy dress day, that world bee day/anyones day, bring in £2 for a made up charity nonsense. Can’t keep up & he’s only in reception.

But they're probably sooo busy.

Brilliant!

It’s regional. I’d never heard it called Mufti day until I moved to the South East.

Another who’s only ever heard non-uniform day called Mufti Day (and I went to school in the north, Yorkshire to be somewhat precise). It’s got military / colonial origins I think?

Letter, email, newsletter, app - sounds like bombardment of info.

Lol clearer plain English.

Literally everyone says mufti here. Everyone. I've never said "the kids have a mufti day" and seen confusion on anyone's face. Even on new kids/parents. And yes, I'm UK.

"Non uniform day" is such a weird, boring and clunky way to say it 😂🤪

But does what it says on the tin 😆

Tbf this is unlikely to be obliviousness. DH and I once checked in online the eve before and then he spent the whole night vomiting all over the hotel bathroom so we couldn’t go on the flight but it was too late to cancel. Another flight wasn’t reached because I went for a quick check at a medical centre due to quite bad stomach pain - blue lighted for my appendix removed that night.

Shit happens (literally) especially while travelling.