AIBU to be baffled a mum had no idea the school fayre was happening?

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Today my daughter's primary school had a spring fayre after school on the school field. Ice cream van, face-painting, various stalls with games, the usual. All arranged by the PTA to raise money for the school.
There was a mufti day today, and the children were asked to bring a donation to the school as an exchange for the mufti, something like cakes to sell or a teddy for the tombola or a bottle of wine as a prize or something.
One mum wanders onto the field after school, with both of her kids in mufti, looking around bewildered saying "What's this? Is this a new thing they're doing? Will it be every week?"

And this is so weird to me because the spring fayre has been organised for months. We have lots of emails asking for donations, several more asking for volunteers, we've had at least three leaflets home about it, and she obviously got the memo about mufti, the whole point in which was for the school fayre!

My phone own child has been banging on about it for three weeks.

How can she get so unaware? I'm not judging, honestly, I'm just baffled how it got past her.

Is it just me? Could you miss something like this after all that communication?

A lot of people are oblivious to things. Look how many check in and then miss flights for example! How can anyone do that? Let alone hundreds every day!

She obviously knew it was own clothes day so had some idea. Maybe she doesn't read the comms and just relies on her DC to tell her whats going on?

Think yourself lucky that you have the mental time to plan in your head the multiple things that go on at school! Many many people have far more things on their minds right now??

Yeah but how can she have known it was mufti day then?

Her child probably reminded her the night before?

I’ve been a governor for a few years and the school always gets complaints from parents “I didn’t know this was happening” “why weren’t we told about this?” etc. And it’s always stuff that was either in the newsletter or in a specific separate email.

What is a mufti?

What the heck is a mufti day?!??

I’ve lived through times when I’ve been clean pants: check; breakfast: check; random day at school: oh fuck I need to take them out of uniform into whatever, so YABU you don’t know what else is going on

Probably because we get a million emails a day from the schol. Life is busy and stuff gets missed. It’s no big deal.

A non uniform day

Mufti is non uniform, it’s not the most politically correct term these days
As a busy working mum with a full time demanding job I would have been that woman

Well I missed that is was a PD day today, so I can very well believe it

Not the point of your post but calling a non-uniform day a Mufti day?! What on earth does Mufti mean

Her children might have told her

What is mufti?

What in god’s name is a mufti day?! Dare I ask

Her kids probably said the night before it was non uniform day. I think it's easy to miss, particularly if the info comes in a weekly newsletter, I don't always read them because I don't want to scroll through 5 pages of interviews with teachers, news about every other year groups school trip or events months away that I will forget about. I have kids in three different schools, some emails from the same schools get randomly filtered into spam, even though I always undo it. My husband only gets half the emails despite making sure he is on the list. Two of my children are very good at letting me know about things, so I haven't had to keep track, but one of mine is oblivious.

I easily miss emails due to them going in different folders, having lots of junk, having lots of work emails etc etc I have two jobs, work 50 hours a week and three kids, I frequently loose track of things. Often I do make note of things and then forget entirely anyway.

Mufti:

I was that mum at some point: taking kids to school on an inset day, taking them to the first day of school when it hadn’t started yet etc. Things happen and they slip your mind.

I’ve worked in communications for 25 years. We had a massive annual open day at one of the hospitals I used to work in. I remember after a very long weekend running this event, I came into the crappiest email from one of the consultants saying that he had no idea this was happening and demanding to know how we had shared the information to staff. We advertised it for six months on the intranet and the internet, staff newsletters, staff town halls, via department briefings, on staff payslips, posters in all toilets and staff break areas, the hospital newsletter, had leaflets printed, advertisements in three local papers… and oh there were whacking great three banners attached to the front gate, back gate and over the hospital entrance. You know. The one he walked through every day. I emailed him back outlining the 307 places it had been advertised in the six months leading up to the open day. He never emailed back. It happens. It really and truly does.

Often there can be too many different events or notifications sent out by the school, so it all just blurs into one.

My sons primary used to send out info but we're a bit inconsistent in the timeframe for events. So something like the fayre; a random email 2 months beforehand, maybe twice in the weekly newsletter then a random reminder that morning.

She most probably skimmed and read about non-uniform day but thats about it. If she has 2 children then sometimes different year groups do different things.

Loads of kids aren’t nincompoops and can say ‘it’s a non uniform day on Friday’.

It's always been called mufti by every school I attended as a child, every school my kids have been to, and every school I know. My nieces and nephews and friends children all call it mufti day at their schools, and it's called that on all the school letters and literature. I thought it's what everyone said.

Haha there's one parent on my class WhatsApp who is always outraged that they "didn't know that was happening" about various events after an email, various WhatsApp reminders and it being on the calendar since September. It's tiresome!

It does seem odd she knew it was mufti day if the email about that was also about the fair. And to have ignored several other emails. This can be pretty annoying when you regularly help out for school events and help advertise them and people can’t even read a basic email. I wonder how they operate in life tbh. Schools would have no events on if everyone was like that.