To do phone sex job

[Sexysausage668]

Hi all, I'm really struggling with a decision and wonder what people thought.
I work full-time for a big care provider and whilst I don't earn terrible money I am starting to struggle to make ends meet
I've looked at a second job but as a single mum with small kids I couldn't commit to anything else on a contractual basis.
A good friend recently told me she was working on an ad-hoc basis for a chatline operator where you pick your own hours.
The money is ok and it helps her financially.
I've started giving this line of work serious thought.
I have every other weekend free where I could do this without my children present and it would mean I wouldn't have to commit to shifts etc.
I'm worried my main job would find out and I would be in trouble due to the nature of the work,which is the main thing making me hesitant.
Should I give it a go? Thoughts please.

What is the pay OP?
AFAIK, operators are paid per minute and it is a dreadful amount of money.
The whole time you are waiting for a call, you wont be paid, but you'll be practically chained to the phone waiting for a call.
The challenge is keeping them on the phone for as long as possible.
Also, you will get the ick, you will have to make sound effects, you will have to talk about certain fetishes with conviction.
Many of your most lucrative callers will be callers who want to speak to you regularly, every other weekend probably wont cut it if you want regulars who will stay on the line for a reasonable amount of time, so you'll be left with the callers who don't really have a preference who they talk to, so long as they get their rocks off. That isnt where the money is.

do it girl! Your job won't find out. Do an American accent for anonymity.

How much per hour? You need to know your worth!

This reminds me of a channel 4 documentary years ago about phone sex workers. One lady was really enthusiastic...hitting a paint brush off the wall to make slapping noises. The did mention that a lot of the men end up just talking about everyday things and seem lonely. Maybe you could see if it's on YouTube.
If the job fits your hours, gives a wage your happy with and doesn't comprise your morals or mental health then I'd say go for it!

Also, there is the money laundering/organised crime elements of these types of business. You could be dealing with some nasty types in the business owners, who have all of your personal details.

Have you thoroughly read your company policy? The place i work requires the name and details of what you are doing for any second employer and then can decline permission. If you went ahead anyway, then it would be misconduct. You say they were fine with tutoring but do they request any more specific details of any employment you do take up?

I do this type of work and have done for a year. I started when I was unemployed and on universal credit but have since started working full time again and now do it at evenings and weekends. It’s a good extra income stream - I get paid a bit over minimum wage and other people do much harder things for the same money!

In terms of work finding out, I do sometimes think about this. My opinion is that it’s a legal job that is appropriately regulated by OFCOM, I pay my taxes as required, and only ever do the work in my own time - I would never do it whilst working from home in my main job for example. I can easily prove all of this through mine and the phone line’s record. I would only ever get found out if a colleague chose to use the service to talk to women. I would immediately be raising how discriminatory it is that men are allowed to seek out the service but I’m not allowed to offer it. This issue is also easily avoided by using a fake name and photo. I use a fake name and other details but a real photo.

I’m not really sure what to say to this. It’s not about the money, you’re actively giving yourself negative/adverse life experiences that you’ll remember forever. You can’t put a price on that. I don’t personally want to remember in a decade’s time, some sleezy man making phone sex requests to me. No amount of money is worth that to be honest. I’d much rather live in the bliss of never having experienced that.

When I was 26, I got a job on £40k in public sector after working my way up. And being 26, I wasn’t super experienced and I got a lot of flak, but I was good at my job and found a niche etc. My point is, if I could get a job on a reasonable income without necessarily being super impressive and by beating the people critical of me, so can others. I’m not saying it’s an easy thing but I’ve already significantly increased my income since then. I kind of feel like money/earning is a mindset thing and at no point would I ever consider any type of sex work.

What you need is to define a field you want to progress in and work backwards eg what experience and qualifications do you need to get there. You might need to grind etc and tolerate a low income for longer but I’d chose that any day of the negative life memories that sex work will bring that you’ll never erase

Have you ever actually done this work or are you just being overdramatic? Based on my lived experience (that I’m guessing you don’t have), there are no adverse experiences to scar you forever. Yes, there are boring/unpleasant conversations but I am entitled to end any calls that I personally find distatesful. And I do, with zero backlash. It’s a phone call, there’s no way to be identified, found, or actually hurt. Of all forms of sex work, it’s probably the safest. I’ve previously done conventional customer service work on the phone for a couple of different businesses and honestly received more abuse and had more upsetting experiences in those roles than doing phone sex. Stop pretending to know what you’re talking about when you clearly have no idea.

I don’t need to experience being a sex worker to find it undesirable, you don’t need lived experience in phone sex to come to such a conclusion. It’s inherently and obviously undesirable.

And frankly; there are some things as an human you are better off not experiencing and not having direct knowledge of. I can look back at both my working life, and my sex life, and feel relieved there’s been no negative experiences in terms of some random man paying me to sexually interact for his pleasure or for my working existence to be reduced to sex.

Plus, the types of people using phone sex lines aren’t going to be well-adjusted individuals, making it more likely you’ll end up in an unpleasant or uncomfortable conversation. Sure, you can hang up on them but only after the fact.

You might have a different mindset where only abuse phases you and anything else is fair game - but for me, the whole job is not a memory I not would want of myself nor would I want those conversations to playback in my head afterwards. Hence it being an adverse experience, especially if you have other options.

I feel sorry for you because I would hate to be such a judgemental person. Men call those lines for a vast range of reasons, to assume they all have nefarious intentions is just ignorant. You might have been on £40k at the age of 26 but you’d be much richer for stepping out of your bubble and actually trying to understand other people rather than living off assumptions.

To say phone sex workers only draw the line at abuse is, yet again, ignorant. I can decline a conversation at any point, and I do. For example, I am not interested in scatology. If a man wants to talk about that, I politely decline. This has always been the end of it. I am not obliged to discuss anything I don’t want to and we also have strict rules about subjects we cannot talk about because they are illegal, immoral, and distasteful. I’m sure I don’t need to be more specific.

I would offer babysitting on child free weekend via and app, and also look at task rabbit for things like help with catering at private parties. I’ve hired people to help with putting out food and pouring drinks and tidying up at children’s bday party and stuff like that.

Hi op, I did this in the 90’s for some extra money when I was a student. I’m 50 now. At the time I thought it was harmless, but actually the nature of some of those calls has stayed with me even now and pop into my head randomly every now and again. I don’t think it’s worth it honestly.

😅🤣🤣Sort of expression I'd use but so funny here! I think she'd be talking to men hoping to give theirs a bash at the other end!

OP I'd listen to this posters advice. She's been there so knows what's she's talking about. You'll never know if it's for you unless you try. Go for it.

I would really be worried about how it would make you feel. In the past, I used to think that whatever consenting adults did was up to them, and why shouldn't certain work be acceptable-we're free, shame belongs to an earlier time, but now I think about my own children, and how wrong it is to objectify a person, and how the "clients" could go on to hurt other people, even children, if they get aroused by these calls.

My best friends sister in law made a fair decent wage from doing the same job while her kids were at school, and having popped in for a brew when passing one lunchtime, I can confirm really was just stood ironing chatting absolute filth 😂😂

When I went into higher education as a mature student I did this for about a year. The money was not good but it was an interesting experience. I specialised in doing dominatrix calls and it was often very amusing, It was also cash in hand. I wont go into further detail. Later used my experiences for a uni assignment. Got a 1st for it.

While I was doing this I advertised a bed for sale in the newspaper and got an obscene phone call. I terrified him so much he rang off. Later he rang back to apologise.

if its ok to ask, what was the title of your uni assignement ?

What if a family member calls! Awkward 🤣

I had some friends who did this in the early 00s. If it's properly run, there are clear boundaries and you don't need to talk about anything you are uncomfortable with, it can be an interesting income.

Where they worked had the clear boundaries and was fun. That said, there were callers who took their emotional toll, and, even though they were cut off (and reported) it still plays on their minds.

I had friends that did this.
Theybsaid there were a few weirdos, but for the main the chat was just chat and didn't even get sexy.

I remember when we were all marked to be made redundant from NHSDirect and one of the nurses was thinking about setting a rude phone business up once we’d all finished.
There were quite a bunch of middle aged women (me included) musing about going for it. It was hilarious, but it didn’t happen in the end.
Go for it if it helps. You don’t have to tell anyone in reality and these are hard times.

Grind is quite appropriate 🤣🤣🤣

Don't do it. You'll get depressed and paranoid. And the pay will be shit. There is other work around.