Parent went mental at my Ddog!

[WesternAmy]

Can someone please tell me how Ddog was at fault here?! We were walking on a footpath close to our house earlier, and a woman was pushing her toddler along on a sort of bike thing.

As we were passing, the toddler dropped a cuddly toy. Ddog instinctively went to pick this up (it resembled a dog toy) and I stopped him.

The woman went mental, shouted at Ddog “NO, NO” and I hurried us away.

I can tell it has impacted him, he has been really subdued since which is not like him at all.

Am I wrong to think the woman should have had some restraint?

Relevance?

We have Labs, I would have sat ours as close to the edge of the path as possible and stood between them and the pram/woman while they passed

Ddog, ffs. Do we need the wanky D?

She did nothing wrong. Nothing at all.

You should have the restraint, not her.
I wouldn't want a child to handle something that had been in a dog's mouth.

Ok but genuine question - why does it bother you? I'd not refer to my MIL as DMIL or my daughter as DD but if other people do, I don't give it a second thought. I find it so bizarre the reaction to dogs on MN

Better to leave any precious toys that might encounter these germs at home then, no?

It’s nothing to do with a dog. MIL is much quicker to type than mother in law so I get that, DDog is more letters to type, as is DCat, it’s just pointless and twee in my opinion.

OP, my dog is also subdued tonight. It's the warm weather, not hurty feelings.

It could have been a popular toy, she might have been afraid the dog would do something, or the child would try and pull it away. I think she overreacted but we all do sometimes! Love labs btw!💗

All she did was say no loudly and firmly to your (d)dog and you’re offended on his behalf?

Is this like some kind of gentle parenting thing but with pets?

I've got dogs and I've had kids and some of my dogs I would have reacted like that myself! My previous Jack Russell adored cuddly toys and would steal them any chance he got. Never tore one but I can imagine a mother not wanting to pass a toy back to her child after it had been in the dog's mouth.

The phrase 'Ddog' genuinely gives me the ick 🤢

that makes no difference !!

I imagine your dog can cope with someone shouting. Surely to him it would be a bit like slightly aggressive barking and all dogs have to be able to deal with a bit of annoyed yapping.

This. You may like dogs, but some people find them disgusting animals. Some people have phobias around dogs. Some people have been attacked by dogs in the past and are afraid of them with good reason. Not unreasonable.

Teach your dog to leave when told.

Not everyone likes dogs, so the behaviour wasn't really that bizarre

Im going to take a wild stab in the dark but im guessing she saw you and your dog and when the dog went for the toy you midly said darling that's not for you or some variant of this in a soft baby voice so she took control of the situation and made your dog stop getting any closer so she could retrieve the child's toy. You dog will not be traumatised from a stern no.

I wouldn't want a strange dog picking up my toddler's soft toy either. Your pet is a dog not a human! Your analysis of its behaviour since the incident is puzzling. How do you know how a dog is feeling.

Your dog will be absolutely fine. Mother slightly overreacted by nothing terrible.

Not to mention rogue apostrophes.

It's a bit of a non issue from both sides.

The dog didn't touch the toy, so the woman overreacted. And quite frankly, most dogs I know won't respond to commands from people outside their family, so yelling 'no no' is pointless anyway. Although I am sure it was a reflex action and she didn't actually think a dog would pay any attention to her.

The dog won't care that someone yelled 'no' at him. I called one of mine a 'wank-waffling turd-bucket' earlier - if he can bounce back from that, yours can bounce back from being told no.

Better to leave any DDogs at home that get triggered/impacted by a woman saying 'no' twice then.

According to the OP the dog was prevented from picking up the toy so the toy could not have been slobbered over. On that basis the woman was being unreasonable.

Read OP dog was prevented from grabbing the toy by its owner. Woman with child WBU.

Was she though? Or actually was this just a total none event that, prior to the invention of AIBU on MN, would have been forgotten about by both parties within the hour?

edited for spelling