How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

One - my husband. He died about 8 years ago and while I miss sex - its sex with HIM I miss - the thought of sleeping with someone new now makes me feel ill! In the incredibly unlikely event it was a possibility I'd have to tell - to explain my inexperience. Its been so long now that it would be like doing it for the first time again - but with a much less able body!

Why does that matter?

I have answered, but it appears I am in the minority.

I hate to say this, but does no-one on here, really think @coulditbeme2323 has a bit of a point? I don't think you have to be part of the manosphere to think that some men (many men probably) will be put off a woman who tells him she has slept with 100s of men.

Also though, it does work both ways, and most women - me included, as I said earlier - will be put off a man who says he has slept with 100s of women. Most people don't want to get into a relationship with someone who has shagged 100s and 100s of different people.

I bet the posters who have slept with 100 men or more don't tell any new partner this, and have never told their husband this either. If they have, I would also be very surprised if he was OK with it. But as I said, most women wouldn't be happy if a man they met claimed he had shagged 100s of women either! It's not a pop at women!

Sorry, but most people are going to be a bit and then if a new partner they are dating tells them that they have shagged 100s of people. It's not about being prudish or part of the 'manosphere,' most people - in real life - will raise their eyebrows at someone making that claim.

Runs . >>>>>>. 🏃and hides 👀

I’m in my early 60s. It’s no more than twelve or thirteen, probably somewhere between 10-13. No one has ever asked me and I’ve never asked anyone, not even my ex. I gave it all up about ten year’s ago.

A fair number - probably about 60.

I’d say it’s none of anyone’s business.
DH knows I’ve had some fun and to be honest I’ve lost count but I’d be surprised if he suddenly demanded a number because that’s weird.
He was quite a slag back in the day so pretty sure mine would be lower than his!

1 but that was husband we were together from 16 now I’m 40 and falling apart and wish I had the confidence of a younger me with a hot body to have a load of fun one night stands. Instead it’s been 4 years and all the years we had were crap sex. Embrace your sexuality, I get why you would lie but that’s society’s problem not yours. I wish I had ‘lived’ when I was younger and hotter

“before that dumb posters asks” made me LOL 😂

I'm in my early fifties and my tally is 13. I was with my exH for 14 years, otherwise it would be more. I also don't fancy people very easily, for some reason. All the stars have to line up, it seems.

Edit: Most of them were in my late teens and early twenties. I've only slept with three people since 2004, when I met my exH. And just two people after him. That's a bit pathetic, actually. What a waste of life - three people in 22 years!!! Hopefully more will come my way.

I don't lie; I'm really open and I tell 'em whether they've asked or not, lol!

I’d have trouble finding that many men attractive. I don’t think I’ve even met hundred men in my entire life I’d find attractive enough to want to sleep with.

As long as it's not while with them then why should it be an issue?

@coulditbeme2323 either you’re a man judging women for their choices or a woman with internalised misogyny.

please don’t make claims such as “Most people don't want to get into a relationship with someone who has shagged 100s and 100s of different people” because they bless you have surveyed a large part of the population, you have not evidence for that claim.

Just counted, about 20

No misogyny, as feel the same the other way.

Who says she has a husband

Are you a man?

Fair point.

I don’t discuss it with anyone but I’m not ashamed, I just don’t see any relevance.

The only time it’s actually been love-making is with DP, met in my 40s. Without love, well there’s just no comparison.

It’s certainly quite a heteronormative assumption.

Yes its misogynistic or internalised

edited to say no one is property and we don’t own anyone so if in a relationship and someone is judging you on your body count dump em

I think that’s lovely.

No, but because I dared to suggest there are men out there who would feel uncomfortable with their wife having sex with 100 people I must be the spawn of Andrew Tate and HSTikkytokky.