How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

I had to look up "cuck" because I didn't know what it meant.

Here's the definition for those who also don't know -

"Cuck" is a derogatory slang term derived from "cuckold," originally referring to a man whose wife cheats on him. In modern online slang, particularly within the alt-right or manosphere, it is used as an insult to describe a man considered weak, feeble, or spineless. It implies a lack of masculinity, submissiveness, or a failure to defend one’s interests or nation.

I guess this tells us everything we need to know about @coulditbeme2323 😂

over 110, used to brag about it. Mostly ons. Didn't care and was always clear about what it was. No stringing people along. Ocassionally pity sex from people who really liked me and vice versa.
Was fun and sometimes I really miss it. Never lied, why lie?

Absolutely. Ive been married the best part of 30 years so far and he's never once asked me about it. Nor I him.
Clearly it doesn't matter to either of us.

Bit of fumbling with one or two, but actual intercourse, just one, my DH of 27 years. We were each other's first and only. We're both in our mid fifties.

Exactly, we have an incel on our hands I think, or if it is a married woman as they claim then I feel sorry for them.

I don't actually know my number and I feel like trying to remember and count them all would depress me, not because of what a massive slag I am, I think it would just make me feel old, and further emphasise that my memory is not what it once was! I'm 46 and it's somewhere around 25-30 at a guess.

Been with my husband for 10 years, we've never had the numbers conversation and I wouldn't entertain being asked about it. That said, he'd probably be able to guess the general ballpark just from context clues, if he cared about it in the slightest which he seemingly doesn't as he's never asked. I can also, based on what I know about him, assume his number is rather lower but it's not actually important to either of us or relevant to our relationship.

Loads, though I'm not going to sit down and make a list because I'm an adult and it's not like there's anything I can do to reduce the number (plus some of them I don't even remember). If I could unshag some of them, I would, but I had a lot of fun when I was younger and single and there's no point regretting any of it. My partner has been around a fair bit in his time too, but we have never had a discussion about numbers - there are so many more interesting things to talk about.

1 but I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t care if it was 100. Literally not a thing for us.

I'm 37 and I've slept with one person - my DH. Met at 18, now married. I think 1 person is probably quite abnormal but I'm happy with it. I'm shy, he's shy, we met, we clicked and the rest is history.

I remember years ago when people didn't want to give a direct answer they would say "less than Madonna , but more than princess Di'' Then her affairs and relationship swith Will Carling, James Hewitt, Hassnat Khan, Barry Mannakee Oliver Hoare,James Gilbey and Dodi Fayed became public, people stopped saying it then!

That's for me to know, and YOU to find out!
she's trying to!! 😆 🤣

Maybe should have clarified; we didn't ask each other; we didn't need to. It was so blimmin' obvious that it was the first time for both of us!

I would never tell partners about this too, the numbers. And there’s still so much double standards about, men are allowed to sleep strong and it’s applauded and encouraged. Maybe not so much these days but certainly still happens.

@coulditbeme2323 if i don't care (as a woman) how many people my partner has slept with does that make me a cuck?

Or is it natural because men are boilogically designed to spread their seed but women are designed to form an emotional attachment?

Yep! Like I said, I would never lie

The comments about partners caring are so weird. I’ve been in four long term monogamous relationships (my partner and I have been together 15 years). None of those men have asked me how many men (or women) I’ve had sex with and I’ve never asked them. 🙄

10. I kind of regret most of them because the sex was shit as I wasn't particularly interested in them. I think I was curious about what the fuss was about but it didn't translate into enjoying the sex.

I think I enjoyed the sex with 3 of them. The rest were either brief relationships or ons.

I have wondered at times if I'm possibly asexual.

Princess Di was a virgin when she married Charles so she made up for lost time. And he was having the affair (or on hold) with old horse face at the time.

His number is higher. We were together for a lot of them 😆 🤯

The only person who has ever asked me was my DP. I don’t lie about it, but I’m seldom asked.

I’m 30 and have slept with 7 people. I was sexually assaulted many years ago, but obviously, I won’t count that one.

My DP and I have been together since I was 22. I hope she’ll be my last (in a same-sex relationship). ❤️

So if it were a high number what would you say? Tell the truth or lie?

So my WiFing and mothering skills are kept in my vagina and a different penis chips away at them every time?
But the same penis, that fine. Totally different.

I genuinely pity you that you married such a sad pathetic man.

Same. Agreed 💯.

No idea, but over fifty, probably not 100. I think counting and caring about the number is pointless. And I can't be shamed by it because I don't care what people think about it.

I’m 38. 4 sexual partners. 2 boyfriends, 1 ONS and 1 now ex husband. I actually wish it was more cos I haven’t had sex in over 5 years 🤣

I’m 40 this year and have slept with between 35-40 men, not including the 2 non consensual men

ETA - I was the one not giving consent, not the men. Just to clarify!

Ermmmm, I honestly can’t remember. Less than 10. I think probably 8 but I might have forgotten one. It’s not really a big deal. I have no idea how may my husband has slept with. Probably more as he’s older than me. Not a question we’ve ever asked each other. I’d never want to the first, I like some experience and knowing what to do tbh! As long as he’s not sleeping with anyone else now I really couldn’t care less and I’d hope he thinks the same.