How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

Mine has never asked me, we’re not in school

I’ve slept with 18 or 19 people and I’ve lied about it and said it was around ten.

My husband had a lot of partners before me and neither of us know or are interested in the other ones number.

Fair enough

Under His eye.

Two. Met my husband at 22 and had a relationship before all through uni so just those two.

Of all the people I've had sex with I've only slept with one 😀

I think people should have as much or as little consensual, respectful sex with whoever they please because they do or do not want to. Not because they care what anyone else thinks.

I fully respect sleeping with 0 or 100+ people.
I’m just glad I did it when I could cause I’m knackered now and can’t be arsed 🤣

I’m 55 and I have slept with 3 people including my husband.. All long term relationships. Never lied about it, no reason to.

4 - 2 men, 2 women.

I don’t really care for other people’s numbers but if it’s someone with a (in my opinion) high number I’d probably think they’re not suited for LTR with me.

Over 50, but I'm not sure of an exact number. I was wild in my late teens and through my twenties, very embedded in the rave culture and had a lot of fun. I'm mid-forties now, and I've been with my partner for 10 years.

Around 16 or so I think, a couple were repeats a while after we spilt up (one about 20 years later than originally were together

Probably closer to 100 tbh, and no shame in my game!

I was in a relationship 16-17 and then 18-19 but other than that was single until I met my husband at 28. I went to Uni and then worked abroad for 99% of that so was living a life where drinking & partying most nights of the week was the standard, and that involved a lot of hook ups! I've never lied about it, men wouldn't so why should I?

Always practiced safe sex and never had any STDs so don't really get what the stigma is, was open with my husband from the jump - he was originally meant to be a casual hook up too 😂 but now we've been together 10 years.

Also possibly related though, I was diagnosed with ADHD last year and apparently the promiscuity & dopamine seeking behaviour is a big part of that!

2, my first serious boyfriend and then my husband who I met when I was 20.

Two and a half. I felt I started quite "late" which used to feel embarrassing (silly really). I wouldn't lie but I never really have any cause to talk about it. In fact, I was too embarrassed to tell the first that he was the first, which definitely made it more difficult than it needed to be!

Fully agree with you. I wouldn’t want to sleep with a man who’d slept with 50-100 women either, I just think that’s dirty, if I’m honest, and I would find the idea repulsive. I’m sure that’s not acceptable to say nowadays (and I wouldn’t publicly)but that is just my gut feeling that I can’t change.

Im sorry this happened to you 💐

I choose to only remember the good ones 😁

Not naivety. Just not giving a shit about what men 'are ok with'

I’m 59 and I think it’s 15. I would never discuss it with anyone. My husband of 25 years has never asked and I’ve never asked him. It’s not important.

Fair enough

Too many

Age 32 (almost) and number is just over 50, all before age 26. Been with DP 6 years.

One, just DH. We’ve only ever been with each other.

Swap “74” for “39” and this is me, exactly.

Just the one for me. We met very young and have been happy together for 46 years. Maybe I don’t know what I’m missing! The fact I have nothing to compare him with has never been relevant or bothered me.