How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

Oh bless him. That must be awful for a man having to explain that the first time you have sex. I think it would actually put a lot of women off too.

Met my dh very young. Both of us had a few crazy nights before meeting each other, but no one after. Both 40s now ..

For those dating now, do you ask/know/judge when it comes to bodycount? I don't think I'd want to ask or know as I'd be put off dating a man who was say, 5 ppl or more

Depends on the men you associate with.

That's very true.

I'm 99% certain you are a man and still live with your mum.

I'm 35, now married, think it's about 25 people? I've never counted exactly though. Could be closer to 30.

In my experience those with higher numbers paid off together. I had a flatmate at uni who was quite the shagger. To the point I had to bang on the wall a few times during exam season… really hard to study with all that going on. My best friend from school who definitely got about a bit came up to see me for a party and they’ve been together ever since! Lovely couple, great fun to be around and they have really sweet kids. I would not want to live next door to them though…

Around 35/40, not sure. Never lied about it and my DH knows. I’m 41

Honestly - there are loads of them so not really. I don’t even remember all of their faces so penises? No chance.

I’ve slept with five, had full penetrative sex with three. One of those was rape. One was a drunken effort to reclaim my sexuality. The other was my dh of 21 years.

Two stopped short of piv though we fell asleep together - We were all virgins, and enjoying that lovely extended intimacy and foreplay that disappears when you get more experienced.

It’s never come up in conversation. I can’t imagine dh caring - he is fully committed to the concept of equality and probably assumed I was as experienced as him (I don’t know his number either). He does know about the rape because my body couldn’t keep that secret, even though it took me nearly two decades to be able to speak about it.

I have no regrets about the consensual ones. If anything I wish I hadn’t held myself back and had got to experience consensual sex instead of having that violence imprinted onto my body.

Just counted, 14. I don’t see any reason to lie about that.

Exactly.

I wouldn't be married to DH if he demanded to know my 'body count' or clearly judged women who simply enjoy casual consensual sex.

He knows my views on casual sex which he agrees with and he knows I had a lot of fun in my youth. As did he.

Also my husband has probably slept with the same, if not more. Neither of us give a shit. Why would I care that he had an active sex life before he met me and vice versa? I wouldn't have married someone who cared about something like that.

I did see him a couple of years later holding hands with a lovely looking girl so he got his happy ending - was genuinely pleased for him. For me the chemistry wasn't there irrespective of willy size anyway.

2

i have zero interest in sex without serious emotional and intellectual attachment. My brain just doesn’t work that way.

About 7 or 8 , married for years now. Doesn't really come up.

If they weren’t together at the time it is nothing to do with him?

I'm 60 in June, have been with my wife since 2007, and slept with about 50 women before her. Obviously, only her since, though.

I have no idea!! Not because it is loads, but I've never sat down and counted them. Maybe I should. But....no....I have better things to do with my time.

I'm 35 and 4. 2 I was dating, 2 were just sex. My own relationship with my looks and body has stopped the number from being higher. It sounds daft, but I wish I had slept with more people when I was younger. One of the ones I slept with abused me, 2 of them were during a crazy time when I was trying to prove that I had power over my own body, and the other is current DP who I've been with for 9 years and can't see myself leaving.

64 I’m 59 yrs old

I’m 45, 4, last one was my husband.

Bahahaha love this, same.

I just had a think and couldn't really remember accurately... Some relationships, a lot of short flings and a few ONS.. it's between 60-80? I cannot be sure but it's all been a lot of fun. I am faithful in a relationship but if I wasn't in a relationship now I would be still keep adding to the number.. I am 56 and I have genuinely enjoyed a lot of strings free hook up type sex and absolutely have no regrets. I have also never been asked how many by anyone or asked anyone else as I don't think it matters.

Err... go to a GU clinic? Get a full check up. Done that a few times in my life. It's not a big deal. Some checks you can even do and send off yourself.