How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

Just two, my husband and my first boyfriend. I think if I lied about it everyone would instantly know. I was with my first boyfriend on and off from 16 to 20 and met my new husband at 21. There wasn't much room for anyone else.

My gut feeling is the kind of men who care about a woman's 'body count' are the kind of men who generally don't really like/respect women and probably wouldn't make good husbands and fathers. And probably shag around loads themselves.

The most memorable nights I have spent with somebody there wasn’t much time spent actually asleep.
😉😁😁.

How is the number of people someone else previously slept with going to impact their health in any way?

This is very true.

I also wonder why blokes who apparently don't care, would even ask the question in the first place?

My number is 19, I'm 41
2 serious boyfriends
1 FWB
15 not serious/1 night stands etc
and DH

DH is 50 and his number is 4
2 serious girlfriends
1 ex wife
Me

I think it’s about 9 but I was with someone from 18-21 and met my now husband aged 21 so most of it was between the ages of 17-18 and I met a lot of user dickheads

No I don’t think they have a point.

i would worry that someone who had slept with so many men/women had other issues- like a few posters have mentioned, rape, trafficked, low self esteem, need for love, chronic infidelity or whatever. That would bother me more than the actual sex, and would be harder to deal with in a relationship.

A single person having sex because they want to, in a consensual situation, taking care of their sexual health and being responsible about it. Crack on.

A number won't tell them anything. Before getting physical, they need the person to go to the doctor, get tested and show the test results to KNOW if the other person has an STD or STI. People can just lie about a number any way. It tells you no facts and you can never corroborate the number

If it’s just sex then attractiveness would be the top requirement. Personality wise, as long as they weren't the manosphere type, then I wouldn’t necessarily need a connection if it was just a shag.

It’s probably just as well I didn’t find many men attractive as the only ONS I ever had (not sure if it was a ONS as he was a work colleague I already knew, not a stranger) gave me genital warts 🤦‍♀️. Over thirty year’s ago now but still makes me cringe. He was a sweater wearing engineer as well, not some arty or showy type 😖

Are we counting those men that we tried to sleep with, but it was just a bit too floppy?

Im 68 and I slept with 11 people before I met my husband just before my 18th birthday, one of whom was a fiancé. I dont regret most of them, but I was very young and only ever slept with someone who I thought I was in love with, with the exception of one one night stand, which Ive always really regretted. It’s one thing sharing information like this on an anonymous forum but it’s certainly not something I’m proud of , and would not willingly discuss with anyone in real life.

Do you have a particularly funny fanny?

How are people defining ‘slept with’?

38 year old. Single.

Total: 2 people.

I’m 54 - just 1, DH, together 35 yrs, married 32 yrs.

4

first boyfriend
second boyfrind
fling (only did it a handful of times)
husband (met at 22)

To be honest, I wish I had experienced a bit more when I was younger. There were a couple of other guys in those younger years but didn’t go beyond a fumble and I wish it had. I feel it would be good to have experienced a bit more of that side of things before settling down.

Although I guess there’s really only so many ways to do it? Maybe I’m not missing out on much.

Don’t know husbands number although I know (from them being mentioned) he’s had at least 4 girlfriends plus a casual thing, so that’s 5 for sure…but flings, one night stands etc, I don’t know.

I'm 39 and genuinely don't know, but probably around 50 people? A few threesomes which I'm counting as 2 people 😆

I don't know for sure. Probably about 100 or approaching 100.

No regrets. Fun times.

More than Mother Theresa, fewer than Bonnie Blue.

I can't imagine why I would need to tell anyone?

I am 39 and my number is mid 30's. Funnily enough the first person I slept with, will also be the man I marry!

I’d have to count which I can’t be bothered to do but I’d estimate around 7/8

I don’t see any point in lying about it or making up a number, no number is to be ashamed of.

Love this 😂😂😂 I think that’s a safe place to be.

Loads. And no, I don’t lie but I don’t share. Only 3 people have ever asked me in my lifetime though

This.

Around 30, not proud of that I went through a bit of phase after 2 back to back DV relationships (I guess I just wanted love) I don’t recognise myself as that person anymore.