How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

8 total - 5 were relationships (some very short however) & 3 were FWB situations

I think asking is a red flag. It gives off judgemental and controlling vibes. I don’t know if it’s a more recent thing, but when I was dating in the 80s/90s no one ever asked and it never crossed my mind to ask. I would have been put off someone who asked me, regardless if my total was one or a hundred.

1 for me. Met DH when I was 18, been together 20 years, married for 16. No regrets as with getting fit, our sex life has gotten better with time. It’s like I've been with different versions of him.

Seven for me and I'm 62. Two were ONS, one was husband, one a year long 'situationship' and the other three were short term FWBs.

I'd guess it's around 35, I've never made a list though. Tbh I'm not sure anyone has ever asked me, DH knows I had lots of fun, I know he had lots of fun. I can't imagine feeling the need to lie about it but I equally can't imagine thinking it was any of anyone else's business who I've slept with.

One of the best 'encounters' I ever had was with a guy with a micro. He had adapted and overcome his challenges by actually learning what women liked and found pleasurable, rather than just thinking 'putting it in and moving it backwards and forwards is enough' 🤣

Feels like you're the one judging here. It is nobody's current partner's business what they did before they met.

I’m late 40s and about 20 ( some I’ve probably forgotten about) I worked in an industry in my 20s where people were always sleeping with each other, or at parties. It’s just how it was tbh.
no regrets and am happily married now

No one who's seen my glorious yoni is smirking. They are counting their goddamn blessings.

I once slept with a man with one of those, it's all he went on about. It was really off putting.

🤣 I went to a private catholic school convent as a Protestant so I’m used to being shamed for my sins! By the nuns.

One. I was a shy, awkward teenager and met my now-wife soon after I started at uni. We've been happy together for 25 years now.

Kind of got to ask yourself how weird her fanny looks if she reckons folks would remember it after half a century.

uhm… what counts as “sleeping with”?

Receiving and or giving oral or just penetrative (penis in vagina) intercourse?

I don’t feel guilty either. Why should I? Yes there were some unwise choices but I tried not to make those again.

For me it’s piv. Oral and hand jobs don’t count imo/e. Appreciate it may be different for others.

9 people. Age 32

Three were long term relationships, including current partner. Others 3 I only slept with once and the others just a handful of times.

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I’m nearing 50
Met DH as a teen. He was #3.
couldn’t give a shit who knows or wants to know or re any judgement

I dated someone with a micro penis, it was the reason I ended it. I don't ever laugh about it. Perhaps I would have if he had been horrible! He was a friend and nice person though. He's been happily married for years

I don’t lie about it, but neither do I answer the question. I don’t think it’s anyone else’s business, anymore than it would be mine to ask “them”.

I'm mid thirties, married 6 years, had another LTR in my 20s, but prior to that I had a lot of fun. Last time I counted it was coming up to 50 but that was some years back. A few ONS, quite a few FWB situations. I enjoyed myself and regret little.

I have only been asked once, by a room of women at someone's birthday drinks. I was honest and they absolutely shamed me for it, I felt so uncomfortable. So if I was in a similar situation again I wouldn't lie but I might be evade the question.

I don't know! But not ashamed of that - I had a lot of fun in my 20s and 30s.

My number is 2. Married the second one and been together for 34 years. I don’t feel I’ve missed out by not having a wild youth, sexually, though. I travelled, partied and enjoyed myself just without the risk of an STI…

No not at all! Wouldn't be able to recognise anyone's in a Penis line up.

Plenty were young drunken fumbles most a long time ago. Never even think about it.

My husband and myself never even asked each other this, we're late 40's/early 50's, it's not something you'd ask people back when we started seeing each other, I find it a bit odd that it seems something standard to ask and almost demanded these days when people start dating. Seems like a way for men to judge women, we've gone backwards in a lot of ways in regards to women's rights I think