How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

Exactly! 😆

I’m around the same. DP doesn’t know and has never asked because I don’t think he actually cares. He knew I was casually dating people before him and knows I’ve been in long term relationships before him, so he’s aware I’ve had quite a few partners anyway.

By that token...

You're not better than anyone else if you've slept with 300 people either.

Some people (men and women) wear it as a badge of honour if they have shagged hundreds of people, and seem proud of it, as if it must mean they're really good looking and 'sexy' and irresistable. 🙄

I never heard anyone who has slept with half a dozen people or less going on about it. It's only people who have shagged multiple dozens/hundreds of people who have to tell everyone about it. (Some, not all..)

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I'm 29, 2. I think I'd lie about it if I was ever in the position to be dating again - I've been with my husband since I was 16, so it feels like it was only ever him.

I can't remember, not because it's too many to remember but because I just can't.

The 90s/early 00s were some of my most hedonistic times and I don't care it was fun. Many were one night stands (some could have been more but for some reason we never got together even though we liked each other). I've actually only had 3 serious relationships but have had plenty of fun.

Iv slept with men and women, iv also lost count. Over 50 id say.

Six I think. Though I had seven in my head initially so I think I may have forgotten someone.
I’m early 40s and have largely been single for the last 10 years so most of those were in my twenties.
I’m not a massive fan of sex really. I find it very messy for a brief thrill 😂

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I started late then had a long marriage and have now been with my current partner for almost 10 years. Have never tried shagging around (not that I have anything against it) and am probably too old for it happen now!
If I pass the men from my past in the street I don't smirk or think about their penis. We are adults.
None of the men I have been with have ever asked about how many people I have slept with. They can probably make a rough guess based on me talking about my past. My current partner has definitely slept with a lot more people than me. But if he asked I wouldn't lie to appear cooler. He knows I'm not cool!

Just DH but we've been together since I was a teenager. I'm mid 40's now.

I feel relieved with my figure now! Almost thought I had to go out in the streets and self flagellate myself for my sins! Thank god we don’t live in times eg medieval, when you were probably publicly shamed for doing this. And I bet it happened back then too.

I don't lie if I'm asked but nobody has asked me for a long time.

Nowt wrong with fun nor hedonism.

User ‘Coulditbeme’ will be along shortly to publicly shame you, don’t worry 🤣.

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My partner doesn't know but over 100 all before he was married and had kids (before me).

It's not my business.

If that makes us sinners so be it. Haha! I do not feel guilty, no woman should for their choices.

Absolutely there are men who care, and women who care. And most of them probably have the slut v stud mentality.

That doesn't mean everyone cares. Those who care will ask early on so weed each other out.

The rest of us who don't give a shit just go years with each other still not knowing and still not caring.

I think that the whole numbers thing is really about judging and shaming women so I reject it entirely and would never have married a man in the first place who felt he had the right to know my number, or even had an interest in knowing it.

Most people don't want to get into a relationship with someone who has shagged 100s and 100s of different people.

Can you articulate why, out of interest? Is it the fact that they have slept with that many people or the conclusions you would draw about what 'type' of person they are and what they are interested in? ie. a man who has slept with 100's of women must only be interested in a shag, sees women as pieces of meat etc.

50 ish? I’m 42

Enough to know what I like.

It’s not a moral thing me having a lowish number (very early double figures, 10ish). If I found more men appealing I would have slept with them 😁 A couple of those 10ish weren’t even that attractive, so in my entire life I’ve probably only met barely ten or twelve men attractive enough to consider bed mate worthy (even if just in my imagination and it wasn’t on the cards), and that includes work and just going about my day to day business. How people have found dozens or hundreds attractive enough to get that up close and personal with I just don’t know. Not a judgement, more astounded.

3 and I was in love with them all.
Fwiw, I don't judge people by the number of people they have slept with

I have an ex who had a micro penis. I do chuckle to myself when I recall it.

I briefly dated a guy with one of those. Was the weirdest thing. Poor bastard.

Also, how does anyone know what "most people" want, don't want, think, don't think?

Have they cannvassed the regional / national / global population? Researched yougov surveys? chatted with a few of their mates and decided that their small group = globally held views?

Or is it more a case of this is what i think and because I think it, it must be what most people think because how I think it the correct and normal way to think and anyone who doesn't think the way I think is deluded / lying?