AIBU to limit teens having friends over in our rented house?

[Clubtropicanasun]

I've got two teens DD 16 and DD 17.5. Both are pretty social and like having their (mixed) friendship group around.

My rule is that they all have to leave at 10.30pm if they come at night. Mostly, I encourage them to come in the afternoon, then go out. And not more than once every month/6 weeks. And sometimes I'm even there upstairs so I can call out issues.

Does that sound reasonable? We've just moved into a new rented house so I'm a bit jittery about it. I try to be really considerate but obviously they make noise.

If my neighbour was regularly having 10 friends over for social gatherings on week nights then I would have to move !

This.

Are your walls paper thin?

Rules about noise are absolutely reasonable and appropriate, but your teens will hang out elsewhere if you only allow friends once a month as friends are so important to many teenagers, and hanging out in "real life" is really good for mental health for most (especially the ones who want to).

Maybe you'd prefer them to hang out elsewhere? I guess that's fine if they have a good alternative and you aren't also limiting them to going to friends once per month?

I find it odd that you have to be so strict with older teens rather than just say friends can come but you need to be respectful and aware of neighbours and noise.

Ok, well that's for you to dwell on.

They really don't hang out elsewhere, there's always someone here. But I'm talking about groups of 10 or so. Which I feel is different.

Thanks everyone, I've got what I need from this thread.

okay, I think we have different perspectives in general from that response. Not sure why I’d dwell on your choices. I read it, thought “that’s odd to me” and gave my views as a mum of 3 teens. If you don’t want opinions other than your own, don’t ask 🤷🏻‍♀️

My kids used to have their friends over all the time. I would rather have known where they were and safe

I guess saying something is odd isn't an opinion? It's just a bit of an abrupt and unhelpful observation. I think I responded where an opinion was offered and of course I was here for those

My opinion, as someone who has teens, is your approach is odd 🤷🏻‍♀️ then I followed up with what I do.