This is off isn't it?

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Husband and I loaned another couple a significant amount of money as if we didn't their dream home would have fallen through. All properly drawn up, and to be fair was for a short period of time as in just under 3 months.

All paid back two weeks ago as agreed (no interest by the way as it might matter) and friend text saying we want to take you our to dinner to say thanks.

Didn't expect or want that, but lovely gesture.

Went to a very nice place Saturday and other husband said to my husband I'll get the food and you get the wine/drinks. Now to put into context the wine/drinks were about 35% of the bill so other couple paid 65%.

Now it's not the money, and it was a lovely evening, and I would never mention to my friend, but is that a bit cheeky?

I would expect them to not only foot the bill, but to have been very generous with the food and drinks too. Whatever you wanted etc.

If they used these words

we want to take you our to dinner to say thanks

They are cf of the highest order.

If they said something else like "we'd like to go and celebrate our new place"

It could be written off as a misunderstanding.

I asked, but no reply 😆bumping this one for a third attempt

maybe you should have ordered the wagyu and tap water!

Grabby? People who gave friends a loan? Come on, you wouldn’t catch me doing that in a month of Sundays. They must be extremely kind and generous!

Wouldn't that be dinner and drinks. I'd pay for soft drinks.

You take it in turn when you go a meal. Next time it's your turn to pay have the meal and champagne. When it's time to pay let them know they're paying for the drinks as that's the thing now! Good luck

More than 100k to lend, but resent paying for drinks. This friendship sounds really odd

Never mind, I’ve seen you responded 😊

No.

That’s not it at all. BOTH sides can easily afford £000s, this was to thank the op, and the borrowers should have covered the whole bill, anything less is unspeakably rude.

Well then just accept it happened and don't stress yourself by starting threads where dozens of strangers call them fuckers and arseholes would be my advice.

‘Thanks for lending us so much money, interest free, to save our dream house purchase! How about we go out for a meal, and we’ll cover an extra 15% of the bill to say thanks!’

Your take is fascinatingly odd in how it misses the point.

Like you’re… close, but yet… whoosh!

Is there a massive back story, did you order champagne and expensive wines?

I think it’s clearly off.
Do you have more money than the other couple? That would explain the situation in my mind. They want to treat you as you’ve done them a massive favour but the husband secretly resents you. Otherwise, do you have kids and they can’t have children or something along those lines?

They invited them out to say thank you! Obviously they should have paid!!

of course!

No it doesn't. Even if it was £1k taking them out for dinner would have been a totally proportionate thank you gesture.

You're not wrong.

Yes I think it was cheeky and a bit odd that they announced it as a thank you dinner and then invited you to pay for drinks. I would have been rather surprised too!

The only thing I can think of (being generous about it) is that the couple themselves got their wires crossed and hadn’t communicated to one another what they were doing! Could that be possible?

Yes. They lent them money and charged no interest (saving them money). Offer to take them out to say thank you. Which means they pay!

No interest would mean they saved the couple money

Mind you, I think it is cheeky to ask friends for any type of monetary loan in the first place (if they did ask) as it can put the person being asked in a difficult position and refusing can be very embarrassing and put a wedge between you both.

It’s not just about the interest either. The couple lending have done a fair bit of admin on behalf of the couple receiving the loan and essentially agreed to take the risk of something going wrong or being out of pocket for a while if they couldn’t pay it back immediately or at all.

They have also invested a lot of trust in the people they are lending to, and have taken a leap of faith on their behalf. And they have dug this couple out of a temporary but difficult hole they were in. That’s certainly worth a fully paid up thank you dinner in my book!