AIBU to feel hurt my relatives have cut us all off?

[Sarah3110]

My mum has offended my aunties, not purposely but she has upset them. They blocked her and myself and my siblings and all our cousins have cut us out too. I tried reaching out in various ways, I wrote a letter too. I don’t see why we are being ignored when my mum’s at fault, we’re all adults. What do I do? I don’t think this will sort its self easily but I’ve really tried. If only they had tried to talk to us first.

I mean it depends on what's actually gone on, I don't think any of us can tell if it's petty.

If they previously had a good relationship with you, it's awful that they've just cut you off - you are not your mother!

Id stop chasing tbh - people who can just cut off innocent people are not worth the effort of perusing a relationship with!

Ostracism is really psychologically damaging, it’s okay to be upset but I would really question whether you want people in your life who are going to be behave like this. It comes across they are treating you with callousness because ultimately they don’t want to deal with difficulty and so are happy happy to subject you to emotional pain instead. Bollocks to that, it’s horrible

Exactly.

I don't have time for the she said, he said blah blah rubbish irl or plastered on social media. So cutting off isn't a problem and I have done with family in the past. Life is better as a result.
In your case though OP I think you need to give space and see how it goes, the letter mentioning mum wasn't the best idea, but that is past, now to move forward.
Just because your mum is proud doesn't mean this won't resolve in the future.

All you can do is leave the door open for them. If it blows over they will get in touch. You've tried. Just get on with your own life and hopefully it will blow over in the future. Good luck ❤️

This happened to me.

I'm an only child and most of them are dead now. I have a couple of cousins I last saw at a funeral 30yrs ago. It's devastating.

My mother still plays the victim. I maintain (privately) that I'm the real victim, When my elderly parents die I'll have no one. I blame all of the adults in my family who rejected me as a child because my mother was an arsehole.