AIBU to think it was rude they kept my misdelivered parcel?

[FrostedCandyAngel]

Was expecting a parcel on Saturday. (Was a small package, in a padded envelope so could easily fit through letterbox, no signature required)

Didn’t get delivered. So I checked the tracking details online Sunday evening. Tracking details said it had been delivered at 09:30am Saturday. It had a photo of the delivery person handing it over. All you can see in the photo is the package, someone’s shoes and their driveway. Which had a particular unique pattern of paving.

It wasn’t my shoes, or my driveway.

I walked up and down my street trying the find the driveway. Found it. About 8 houses down.

Knocked on the door and luckily they answered. I said “Oh I’m just wondering if you have a parcel for number 60 please”. They said yes, and gave it me. No “sorry I was going to bring it round/post it through your letter box”.

I understand people are busy but they had my parcel for 30+ hours. I would have had no idea they had it unless I went out looking at everyone’s driveways.

Was this rude of them?

If you choose to take it in, this is you interrupting the delivery. The delivery has not been legally fulfilled unless the recipient specifically requested it be left somewhere else. So you aren't helping, and then demanding they fix what you didn't help.

When I take a parcel/delivery in for a neighbour I assume that they get a notification saying where it is. Which you did get by way of a photo and I would expect you to come and collect it and be grateful I have taken it in.

This. I often take in parcels but I don't feel obliged to deliver them.

Would you rather they had refused the delivery and then it would haven taken you well over 30 hours to retrieve it? Back to the depot? That’s better?

so? People have lives!

But for whatever reason it was.

I would assume you were being rude and not collecting your parcel. I hate when neighbours can't be arsed to come for their stuff and expect me to deliver it.

We have a neighbour with a very similar looking surname to my DH. I took delivery of a parcel that was for her, thinking it was for my DH. When he got home, I gave it to him and he opened it!!! It was only then that we realised everyone's mistake and returned it to our neighbour with profuse apologies for having opened it. Give your neighbour a break. You have no idea what was going on in their life at that time or what was their thinking process. You're treating them as if they were trying to steal from you and then when posters on here are explaining to you how it happens, you say we're all horrible inconsiderate people.

I didn’t get a notification.

I searched up the tracking number I received from the sender on Royal Mail tracking

It stated “delivered” and a photo of the parcel being passed over a random driveway and a pair of shoes.

If they didn’t have the drive way paving in the photo I would have had no idea where the parcel was.

I had to search up my street looking for the driveway which matched the photo on the tracking.

you say we're all horrible inconsiderate people.

Please direct quote where I have said you are all horrible inconsiderate people.

All of your issues are the fault of the delivery service not the neighbour. People get loads of deliveries these days and would just put it aside until you called to collect it. The fact you didn't know is entirely the courier's fault not the neighbour's fault. Few people go running off to redeliver something these days, as it's fair to assume you were out or there was some other obstruction if they delivered to the neighbour instead. They weren't rude to set it aside and wait for you. It would have been rude to open it or pretend it never arrived. YABU.

Do you always create massive issues out of nothing?

Everything you are complaining about that should have been done differently should be addressed to the postman. Ask him or his office why it was misdelivered.

Your neighbour presumably has his or her own life, it would have been nice for them to deliver it, it would also be nice if my neighbour gives me all his money, but such is life 🤷‍♀️.

I got an Amazon notification the other day that my parcel had been delivered, but I was delivered a parcel for 6 houses away and they'd been delivered mine. When I took theirs around, they hadn't even noticed the parcel they took in wasn't for them. With all the WFH and all the myriad deliveries, people just take things in, put them aside and get on with their day. I only noticed as it was clearly a bottle of booze that got delivered to mine whereas I'd ordered a boring book. I should've been really rude and kept theirs really!

Correction: You didn't say the exact words that we are "horrible inconsiderate people". You insinuated it, and placed yourself in a much more kind neighbourly position while doing so:

I’ve always popped straight out to post it through the door.
This is the first time it’s happened where my post has gone elsewhere.
But yes this thread has opened my eyes that not everyone would do the same as I.
lesson learnt 🤣

Because if a delivery driver handed me a small envelope that fits through a letterbox - intended for a different house, 20 seconds down the road. I would simply walk 20 seconds down the road and post it through the letterbox of the correct house.

🤷🏼‍♀️

Because there was nothing else going in their life at that time? They should drop everything and deliver to you, your majesty?

That’s still not the person who took the delivery’s fault. They taken a parcel in good faith and the onus is not on them to deliver it

I get mail for 2 different addresses that aren't mine, regularly, and I work shifts, depending on what I've worked and what time it is, I don't deliver it to the 'correct' address as soon as I get home & see it's there, sometimes I'm home at 1 in the morning, sometimes I'm desperate for a wee and chuck it on the table and then forget, sometimes I've been in bed when it's delivered because I've been on nights and have no intentions of getting dressed and am certainly not schlepping around the street in my dressing gown with my eyes half open - in short their mail isn't my priority, it gets done when I get chance and I expect the same from my neighbours too, I'm not employed by RM to correct their delivery mistakes.
I've also opened things belonging to neighbours because I have been expecting something and been on autopilot. I'm a human being who isn't perfect, have a life of my own and I'm not employed by RM to correct their mistakes, and if my neighbours took the attitude with me you are with your neighbour, because I don't deliver fast enough for their liking, then I'd think they had a bloody cheek and it would be going back in the post box next time I passed with "Delivered to wrong address" on it.

Sorry OP, I think you're being very unreasonable! It's your parcel, your neighbour did you a favour accepting it. Would you have rather driven to the local sorting office or wherever it goes back to to collect it?

This happened to me recently (as in someone else's parcel got delivered to my house) and I would have had to walk out of sight of my house to a. Check if they were in later on and b. deliver it to the intended recipient if they were in. I wouldn't leave my young children alone in the house to do this, so I waited for them to come and collect it when it was convenient to them.

TBF I assumed they were notified of where the package had been delivered, so would know where to come to find it - pretty crap of the delivery company if they don't do this!

I dont even look at my own parcels for a couple of days sometimes. If I get a delivery while im working i just take it and put it to the side. I have a busy life and dont get chance to sort out my own post let alone become a next day delivery service for someone else.

I imagine they assumed the courier would have left a card saying where they'd delivered the parcel to and that you would eventually collect it.

People have busy lives.

They won't have known you had no slip and didn't know where it was.

30 hours is nothing. If I was home alone with my child I wouldn't be wrapping them up and tracking you down how do you know they wasn't busy? And why should they anyway?

We get parcels all the time, even the kids now order things. I don’t usually look at who it’s for until I’m in the house and about to put the parcel down.

I mean I would have rather the Royal Mail driver post it through my letter box.

But to answer your question, yes. I would have much rather the random house 8 houses down refused the delivery. At least then the driver may have double checked the address and brought it round to me.

At least if it went back to the depot, it would be clear on the tracking details. Not a photo of a random driveway that I had to search for.