AIBU to think it was rude they kept my misdelivered parcel?

[FrostedCandyAngel]

Was expecting a parcel on Saturday. (Was a small package, in a padded envelope so could easily fit through letterbox, no signature required)

Didn’t get delivered. So I checked the tracking details online Sunday evening. Tracking details said it had been delivered at 09:30am Saturday. It had a photo of the delivery person handing it over. All you can see in the photo is the package, someone’s shoes and their driveway. Which had a particular unique pattern of paving.

It wasn’t my shoes, or my driveway.

I walked up and down my street trying the find the driveway. Found it. About 8 houses down.

Knocked on the door and luckily they answered. I said “Oh I’m just wondering if you have a parcel for number 60 please”. They said yes, and gave it me. No “sorry I was going to bring it round/post it through your letter box”.

I understand people are busy but they had my parcel for 30+ hours. I would have had no idea they had it unless I went out looking at everyone’s driveways.

Was this rude of them?

But the neighbours don't know you didn't get a card through the door. And they can't really be expected to think through all the logistics of whether it fits in a letter box or not and why it was left there. They probably assumed (or were told) the delivery was because you were out, and gave it no more thought. It wasn't the main event of their day . Especially if it's the type of delivery where they take a photo for tracking as those wouldn't normally be posted through a letter box would they? It's not comparable to a mis delivered letter. If they know a photo was taken they may have assumed the tracking would also tell you the house number it was left at. Letters don't usually have photos and tracking.

So the option is they could have said they were not accepting it and send it back would this have been better?

Totally agree, I only know the neighbors next door and maybe one other, no clue who lives 8 doors away!

That seems unlikely as a signature wasn’t required and it easily fit in the letterbox.
if I were the neighbour I’d probably question why they don’t just deliver to correct address.
our couriers often post thru the door or even leave by the door.

I take parcels in for neighbours all the time as it's a block of flats and I'm the only one not working and home all day.

I never take the parcels to them, I wait for them to come to me. I already did them the favour of taking it in, I'm not playing a guessing game as to when they'll be home and knocking several times.

You got your package, say thanks and don't accuse people helping you of being rude.

Obviously it couldn't just be put through the letterbox if a pic had to be taken. What if the neighbours put it through the door and you then complained you hadn't got it or the dog ate it? If i was handed in something common sense to me would be to wait for someone to take it from my hand, properly. I wouldn't walk down and shove it through the letterbox. It's not the same as a letter posted through the wrong letterbox.

Your parcel you collect it. Yabu

It's on the delivery company to let you know it's there and for you to collect it. Your neighbour was probably assuming you were coming over. Did you thank them for taking it in for you? Sounds like you need a neighbours' WhatsApp group. I live in London and it's lovely to actually know the names of neighbours. We message about stuff like deliveries and ask for recommendations for electricians etc. It makes living in an anonymous city a lot more enjoyable.

This thread is hilarious!! 🤣 AND ridiculous!! I can’t believe it’s made it to 14 pages!!

Oh well, in for a penny! 😂

Yep, I really wouldn’t have given it any thought, life is busy, and would have given it several days until I became postie myself. Regardless to shape, size, colour. Well, I may try sooner if large as it’d be in my way!

@FrostedCandyAngel I really hope your neighbour doesn’t read this and realise it’s about them!

So unreasonable. It's your parcel go and find it. If you'd not turned up after 2/3 days I might wander down and knock assuming you had no notification, but not after 1 day. You're being precious.

This thread is hilarious!! 🤣 AND ridiculous!! I can’t believe it’s made it to 14 pages!!

To be fair, most of that is OP stamping her feet and shouting “But I didn’t know they’d got it!! How was I supposed to know? Why didn’t they just drop everything to hand deliver it to meeeee?!”

This is the issue. OP thinks it was wrongly delivered. Neighbours thought it was handed to them for safekeeping.

No I’m not chasing my neighbours down for their parcels, they can come to me when they’re home. YABU

Not necessarily rude - people have very busy lives and 30 hours is not long at all. They were probably themselves pissed off that they'd have to try and find out whose parcel it was, another bloody thing to think about.

Also, they may well have assumed that you'd got a note to say 'your parcel is at number 9' and been annoyed that it had taken you 30 hours to pick it up.

I think this is a really good lesson in looking at things from the other POV

They’re not responsible for your package and if anything you were rude not to thank them for taking it in. The usual and normal thing to expect is that you’d been left a card. They had no way to know you hadn’t. You have no idea why they didn’t bring it round and 30 hours is no time at all. If anything they were likely annoyed you didn’t show up sooner! You’ve truly got the wrong end of the stick here.

Why would the neighbour even bother to check the name and address on the parcel while the courier was still there? I'd have taken it and then, when I'd closed the door, opened it because who checks every single packet or parcel they receive to check it's definitely for them before the courier leaves? It's like you're determined to do some mental gymnastics in order to paint your neighbours as unreasonable.

That is the fault of the delivery company. You need to take it up with them.

Your neighbour under no obligation or contract to deliver anything to you.

@FrostedCandyAngel

What a weird take; to question the neighbour’s niceness.

The fault is with the delivery driver / company who delivered the parcel to the wrong address and didn’t leave you a slip.

I am not sure why you think the neighbour was mean - they are not a delivery company. Of course you should go and look for your own parcel.

Do you work? I take parcels in for next door but I also work 50-60 hours a week with a 90 min commute on office days and have 2 school aged kids - there is no way I am coming home and re-delivering parcels that have nothing to do with me. On a weekend maybe but even then I’d breach your 30 hours rule.

You sound very entitled.

Your issue is with the delivery company not your neighbour.

They were kind enough to take it in for you, why should they then have to take on delivery of it to you at your address? Most delivery companies will tell you where it is by leaving a card, then it's your responsibility to go and pick it up! You sound very entitled and if I was your neighbour I wouldn't take in a parcel again for you!

Erm I think you’re meant to get a card and go pick it up. I’d take it round eventually when I was not busy though, after a few days

You sound really entitled. Why on earth should they drop what they are doing and immediately pop round with your package?
They could have forgotten about it too. Your package will not be their top priority in life.
They likely assumed you’d had a calling card put through your door and collect it when you could- yes I know you didn’t but how are they to know that?

It sounds like ordering online might not be for you. Or pay extra for special delivery

She found it 8 houses down and collected it…

Complain to the company that delivered it to the wrong house not to the people who looked after your parcel till you came to collect it

I know youve been inconvenienced but that's not your neighbours fault. I'm ill and can't go out much so definately wouldn't go back and fore trying to give a parcel back to a neighbour, they dont know when you're home also, you don't know their circumstances, if you are that annoyed complain to the courier its their fault nothing to do with anyone else.

They probably assumed that you knew where it had been delivered and would therefore go and collect it.
I have no issue with my neighbours parcels being delivered to my home as I am here most the time as I WFH. But I am not going out of my way to take the parcel round to them, it is on them to collect it.