AIBU for leaving a cafe after my baby was sick?

[Angrycafe]

I was out with DD (2m) and DH earlier at a cafe. DH had to leave 5 minutes before I did with DD because he was running late to meet his friend to watch football.

As I was getting my belongings together, DD was sick everywhere, including on the floor. I was really flustered and quickly left, making sure the immediate area (the table) was clear but admittedly didn’t clean the floor.

A woman (staff) hurried out of the cafe after me and started ranting about a lack of respect and that I wouldn’t be welcome back. I just burst out into tears.

I wish in hindsight I had cleaned it, by I was flustered and in a mess. Am I terrible for doing this?

You're not getting this, are you?

Have to agree with the cafe worker. That is absolutely gross and your responsibility to clear up.

You made a mistake and that’s fine but please clear up after your baby if it happens again. Baby sick is one of those things that parents are generally fine with but to anyone else it’s gross.

If this is real then you're a nasty cow. If it isn't then it's just pathetic.

Oof, OP, don't double down on this. It wasn't a nice comment.

Yeah no-one called her fat except your husband, which you found funny.

You do realise your words are still there to read, don't you?

How selfish and gross expecting a stranger on minimum wage to clean up sick. You should have done it.

Nice try, but you overplayed your hand with this one OP. Tell us more about how your husband deserves a break….

It matters zip all whether she was rotund or pencil thin and mobility compromised. Commenting on and laughing at people for any physical trait is unkind and shows you up as hard of thinking and, at heart, unpleasant.

You fucked up, I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt that it was through being stressed with a newish baby rather that thinking not my problem they get paid to clean up after me.

If you genuinely feel bad, leave the baby with dh and go back and apologise, explain you were overwhelmed but it was no excuse, take a token gift as an apology.

Secondly, you and your dh are parents now, role models for your child, starting being better people than those who laugh and joke about others physical appearance especially after you have behaved badly.

I completely understand. When my two were that tiny, my brain literally shutdown with panic when things like that happened. I was in such a rush to gather my things and get out of there, sometimes I would miss something eg sick on the floor. I was always in awe of Mums who would calmly put their baby in the pram and say ‘ok you just lie there while I tidy everything up.’ So don’t feel bad. I’ve also worked in cafes and restaurants and wouldn’t be too bothered by cleaning up some bay sick. The PP are right, you should have cleaned it or let someone know hut don’t beat yourself up.

But it was ok to bother the staff to clean up the sick?

Yes my son was like this too. The number of wipes and muslin cloths we would go through in a day!

I think the issue with the OP is her rudeness in leaving and not saying anything. Most businesses would be understanding and say not to worry or even a kind customer nearby is likely to hear and offer to help.
Thinking about it my daughter was once properly sick in a shop while we were at the till. I was mortified and it was unexpected (she hadn't said she felt unwell). There was a lovely women behind me who said she was a mum too and could understand and helped me wipe up the floor while I mopped up my daughter.

I also think your comments with your DH about the cafe workers weight are inappropriate and sums up perhaps your lack of respect for other people. I would be careful with a man that like.

So let me get this straight.

You went to a cafe with your OH who left early to go drink with his friends. You 2 month old threw up all over and instead of telling anyway, cleaning it up, dealing with the situation or taking any responsibility you ran out.

Because you did the above a staff member calls out after you and you burst into tears because you realised you had done wrong and were leaving a mess for her without telling her or offering to clean it up.

You then told your husband - called him? And he made a nasty discriminatory remark abiut a woman that had to clean up his baby’s sick because again you couldn’t be asked to.

Where on earth is this anyone’s fault but yours OP? Save your crocodile tears because you felt entitled to act horribly.

Babies are often sick just pop her in her pushchair next time and use some babywipes. Nothing to be stressed about, it'll happen again unfortunately!

Unless your baby projectile vomited all over the cafe, there was no reason for her to chase you down and chastise you.

But it’s ok to joke about her being able to catch up with you even though she is so rotund? Righhhhttt.

Anyway, I was quite sympathetic to you OP because it’s hard to have a newborn. You should have cleaned it up or at least told someone and asked if they had something to clean it. You shouldn’t have run out. But it’s understandable as you are just learning the ropes. You should have apologised.

I also feel kind of sad to hear a lovely little baby growing up with 2 judgey mean parents who talk about others that way. I guess this is how school bullies are created.

I was in Morrisons once and my daughter was about 1.5 I think, she was sat in the trolley. No indication she was ill before we went but she threw up over herself, me as I was pushing the trolley and some on the floor. I also panicked as obvs wanted to get us our of there ASAP. I did tell a staff member who kind of looked at me in disgust and I left the trolley and got us out of there.
I was telling people at work and they were like you could've bought some wipes to clean yourself up etc but honestly I wasn't thinking like that, just wanted to get us out of there in case she did it again.

Oh wow, so you're both unpleasant regarding people who work in customer service jobs. Birds of a feather.
Look it's understandable that a small baby vomming threw you, but your response was to run away and leave the smelly, biohazard fun that is human sick for someone else to clean up. And you didn't even alert them to that before leaving. However you spin it, that's fucking revolting.
When I used to work in catering jobs it was very clear how little people thought of us. But even in the most unpleasant jobs no-one did anything this grim.
If you are sorry, and it doesn't really sound like you are, then send the cafe a heartfelt apology. If you aren't then just carry on laughing at fat people and leaving human waste for people working minimum wage jobs to clean up.

Talk about becoming the victim! FFS you could have, at the very least, told a member of staff before you left. You are disrespectful to her business.

Oh wait. It's a "first post" by the op. 😉😉

Ha. I think you've jumped the shark there OP.
Too flustered to clean up milk sick with baby wipes, a shouting cafe owner, a husband who insults over weight women, and a wife who won't bother him because he deserves a drink? Whatever next? Did your mother in law turn up to undermine you, with a huge dog who got hairs in the cafe food?

And the probably minimum wage staff at the cafe deserved to clean up your baby’s vomit???

Unfortunately I think we have given her the attention she was seeking with this pathetic thread

Yep

I agree. I'm off.