AIBU for leaving a cafe after my baby was sick?

[Angrycafe]

I was out with DD (2m) and DH earlier at a cafe. DH had to leave 5 minutes before I did with DD because he was running late to meet his friend to watch football.

As I was getting my belongings together, DD was sick everywhere, including on the floor. I was really flustered and quickly left, making sure the immediate area (the table) was clear but admittedly didn’t clean the floor.

A woman (staff) hurried out of the cafe after me and started ranting about a lack of respect and that I wouldn’t be welcome back. I just burst out into tears.

I wish in hindsight I had cleaned it, by I was flustered and in a mess. Am I terrible for doing this?

Basically the message you gave to the staff member by leaving it was you’re to important to clean it up but they are not.

Yeah that's not acceptable OP.

Well done that staff member.

Ah, you're married to a man who fat-shames women.
And you thought his comment was amusing.

Charming.

This. I’m sure it was really stressful but to just leave it and rush out isn’t adult behaviour and I’m not at all surprised that the member of staff was angry and disgusted at you. Taking responsibility and behaving like an adult is to go back and face the consequences by apologising.

You and your husband really aren't coming out of this well at all. In fact, you both sound thoughtless and rude.

You both sound deeply unpleasant quite frankly.

This. OP, you and your husband seem well
matched (and awful).

Of course they are, otherwise he wouldn't have said it and she wouldn't have laughed.

She also wouldn't have repeated it here, like we're all going to find it hilarious too.

You'd be surprised. I had a reflux baby and honestly it was like something from the exorcist. The sheer distance a baby's projectile vomit can reach would surprise you. Happened to me in a cafe once too. Tried my best to clean it up but was also very flustered/sleep deprived/mortified and covered in vomit myself.
Actually owned a cafe at the time too and yes it used to piss me off when people left their kids food all over the floor and didn't even attempt to clean it up.
A baby is different though, can't exactly stop them vomiting and all can be forgiven in that situation, that staff member was rude, there was no need to come after you. Just forget about it, not worth stressing over.

I am wondering if the OP will find a reason to ask MN to delete this thread..........

Of course its rare because most adults would inform the staff its really odd not to and just leave

That’s a really shitty joke your DH made about the woman’s size.

You left her to clean up puke, and then laughed at her being called fat. Lovely behaviour 👍

The issue likely wasn’t the baby being sick and you leaving, the issue is that you didn’t even have the courtesy to let them know.

I was ready to say it’s not ideal but 2 months pp your still finding your feet first public issues (with which there will be many with children) give you the benefit of the doubt but tbh fat shaming the worker your left to clean up your baby’s sick? Postpartum or not your just a nasty person

I used to run a cafe and I’d never have chased
after you. It’s frustrating when it happens, but especially with such a young baby I’d assume you were flustered and probably at the end of your tether - I’ll never forget a lady with a newborn who vomited everywhere and she just burst into tears. My Colleague held her baby whilst we made her a hot chocolate and another colleague cleared up, and another customer called her husband for her and gave her some wipes to freshen herself up with. It was a very touching scene.
I got far more annoyed with the half grapes littered everywhere by young kids (we didn’t sell grapes) left as trip hazards all over the floor for my team whilst carrying trays of hot drinks.

I’m hoping this isn’t real. But if it is, as a cafe owner, you were completely in the wrong. Tell the staff about the mess you’ve made, offer to help clean up, and never ever think it’s acceptable to look down your nose or laugh at someone serving you purely because they happen to be larger than you.

You're both highly unpleasant people.

Nah, they got exactly what they were hoping for (attention).

Plus I'm assuming they name changed anyway just for the shits and giggles.

That is an utter cunt comment from your OH.
And you aren’t much better for laughing at it.

So you did tell someone and didn't just leave it for someone else to find?

Leaving the place covered in vomit was bad enough but to be taking the mick out of her weight because she dared called you out for it takes the biscuit. Cheek of you. Especially given there's not too many that are back being skinny minnies when the bairn is 2 months...

I take back what I said you called someone based on their body size. I don't like bullying so you can fuck off.

Getting someone else to mop up after her would be very on brand …

Blimey no one called her fat, she was a slightly ‘rotund’ lady that’s all!

No-one called her fat? What was your husband's joke then?