AIBU for leaving a cafe after my baby was sick?

[Angrycafe]

I was out with DD (2m) and DH earlier at a cafe. DH had to leave 5 minutes before I did with DD because he was running late to meet his friend to watch football.

As I was getting my belongings together, DD was sick everywhere, including on the floor. I was really flustered and quickly left, making sure the immediate area (the table) was clear but admittedly didn’t clean the floor.

A woman (staff) hurried out of the cafe after me and started ranting about a lack of respect and that I wouldn’t be welcome back. I just burst out into tears.

I wish in hindsight I had cleaned it, by I was flustered and in a mess. Am I terrible for doing this?

So you are lazy, entitled and nasty to boot?

Exactly. The majority are telling the OP she was out of order but she’s not interested in hearing that.

I would tell someone if I could manage it myself so that no one trips.

At her expense. What an awful thing for him to say and you to laugh at then repeat on a forum for other people to read.

And yes of course you should have wiped it up before leaving.

Sorry but that is really grim and massively disrespectful.

cafe staff are not paid to clear up puke.

it’s basically saying “I don’t want to clear it up, so you can”.

gross

Honestly it’s not an issue, I work with the public and used bio hazards cleaning kits to clear up vomit and even urine once a kid wet themselves, even before I was a mum never phased me. The parent clearly needs to attend to the child and rightly so. It’s ok OP it happens x

Babies are sick and babies make a mess. You clean up after them. You don't make out that you are too stressed to deal with it because you're not, you just don't want to. Presumably you wouldn't leave vomit all over your own floor.

Yet you didnt mind the cafe staff cleaning up your baby's vomit, but wouldn't want to bother the actual father. Nice

Oh gosh, that’s really unkind. I hope you and your DH are not really like that OP.

My oldest was sick at a pool once (in the changing cubicles next to one of the pools) when I was pregnant, and I nearly threw up myself, so I do sympathise. I offered to clean it up once I'd got him dressed, but the staff said they had to for HS reasons, and wouldn't let me, so I would guess this would apply to any business? Because most of us wouldn't carry satisfactory sanitisers in our bags?

This happened to me once in a cafe. I was flustered and mortified but I told a staff member and she couldnt have been nicer about the situation, she helped me clean up despite saying I would sort it.

It was wrong of you to run off without telling anyone, I don't think she would have been rude to you if you had used basic manners. The joke at her expense was cruel.

I’m sure they are very pleased you won’t be returning.

What diseases are carried in baby sick then?

Specifically, the milk vomit of a two month old baby?

Putting the husbands comment to one side. The other night DH and I went to McDonald's for tea and the mess the poor young lady had to clean up, that time after time was done deliberately in front of my eyes, was disgusting. People are disgusting at times.

Which is fine if you're told before another customer slips on it. Leaving any form of liquid on the floor without informing the staff is selfish and dangerous

You and your husband both sound awful.

he left you to watch football with a friend showing exactly where his priorities are.
you left a load of baby sick in a cafe and legged it because oooh stress.
you (quite rightly) got called out for it.
and the only thing that cheered you up was your husband making remarks about the cafe workers appearance.
and then you’re so tone deaf you come on mumsnet for what - faux sympathy?!

get a proper husband, some real friends and a mop.

Jokes are supposed to be funny, would you be laughing if someone commented on your weight?

I’m struggling to believe that anyone could be as selfish and spiteful as the OP and her DH

I'd rather be overweight than someone who leaves sick on the floor and fat shames. Good on her for telling you not to return.

Baby sick is not as disgusting to clean up as adult vomit but it's still "bodily fluids" and to leave, as you did, shows a lack of respect for the staff.

Your husband's nasty comment and the fact you thought it funny confirms that lack of respect.

I agree it would be nice if you went in and apologised but doubt you will. You could always write a note of apology and pop it through the door if you do feel bad but I suspect the only person you feel sorry for here is yourself

You sound like a pair of charmers.

Leaving sick for other people to clean up is disgusting. Yes it's stressful when a baby is sick but ask for help if you're alone, don't just leave it for others.

Instead of reflecting and admitting your dickish behaviour and apologising you double down and laugh at the person's physique.

Not very nice behaviour, if your initial reaction was due to stres or embarrassment you had a chance to redeem yourself.

The H&S issues would apply here too. But I'm sure the staff would have appreciated the OP making the effort to mop it up.

I wouldn’t be going back! You’re a mum with an 8 week old. A bit of empathy and kindness would have got them the flowers.

I remember my toddler throwing up as I ran him to some toilets. Staff there were amazing.

it’s so rare stuff like that happens.

what’s worse is spilling drinks and not telling anyone that’s the dangerous stuff.

everyone’s being absolutely mean to the OP here. Think she was just on the receiving end of someone having a bad day :(

You poor thing, I worked in catering for years and would gladly help a flustered mum with a sicky baby. Don't worry about it OP. Hope you and your baby are 👍 xx