To be furious with DH for this?

[Coffeecherrymama]

First night home since giving birth and DH has gone out with his mates drinking and still isn’t home and he isn’t answering any calls or messages. He didn’t give me any choice, he just said he was going out with his “mates” and then left and said he would be back before 10pm but he’s still not home! I’m so angry that he has just left me here with our newborn when he knows I’m struggling but his mum says I’m overreacting and that he’s “entitled to a night out”! I feel like I could just cry to be honest! AIBU?

Wow OP his behaviour is disgusting and can't believe his mum doesn't see an issue with it! Hope he is out of the house soon, you need to do some serious thinking about this relationship

I would 100% leave him for this.

Vile behaviour

That’s exactly what men are supposed to use paternity leave for 😂

Idiot!

simply gone on a night out…..on the day she comes home from hospital with a new baby!! What utter bullshit you’re saying!!

Thinking as well since hes been sick everywhere he needs cleaning and disinfecting so I would pour bleach all over him maybe get some in his mouth or eyes

I think your best option is to cut your losses here OP.
I wouldn't bother reading him the riot act, I would smooth things over and act normal meanwhile I would write down everything that had happened and start building a divorce case. Don't do anything to tip him off, focus on organising things so that you can get rid of him fully and make sure there is no way back for him.
Don't communicate with his parents or if you do make it completely neutral, they will not support you at all they will be in his corner fully.

Problem is we only read your side here OP….

not defending in any way but there must be a reason he s like this , unless he’s a cf and I am sure you wouldn’t marry one of those ….

@ElatedPinkSeal nothing right about that age gap either!

Stop having a go at @ElatedPinkSeal.
Opinion forum.
If you don't like the opinion, you don't need to get personal.
My father was out for three days after I was born.
Yes, it was 47 years ago, in another country, mother was quite privileged.
Guess what, everyone survived and as a father he taught me stuff and gave me great experience for life to cope with.

Solicitor for you tomorrow if this is real.....I am absolutely flabbergasted that hes going on holiday without telling you when you have a newborn and a toddler!

My ex did exactly this with our 1st born. I was so upset and could never forget, what was meant to be a special moment.
Unfortunately he didn't improve.

Did your mother have other people there to help her with the newborn and possibly other small children? Because OP was alone with no support, and her DH knew that.

You are an absolute superstar to be coping. He wouldn’t get back into the house ever again if it was me. I hope his Dad sees him for what he is when he picks him up. You have grounds for divorce and I would imagine custody of the children considering the state he’s in. Take photos of him while he’s out of it.
Im so glad your sister is going to be with you. Take care and please keep us posted if you can. Congratulations on your new baby. 💐

I genuinely know of someone who celebrated the the birth of his child by visiting his mistress on the same day.
Get your duck in a row, just in case.

Make sure to superglue his passport together.

Did you have a good relationship with MIL before? Her reaction is terrible too.

Were their signs that he’d checked out of the relationship before? Going to Ibiza is really confirming that.

Love this!

Lots of people print them out on paper as they don’t use apps.

As much as he deserves it do not take revenge on this man. You need to be whiter than white @Coffeecherrymama ; he's the bad guy, you're the good one.
Stay on the moral high ground.

He has behaved unforgivably. I would be horrified if my husband can crawling in after being missing all night, vomiting everywhere and frightening the children, let alone with a very, very young newborn! I mean, surely you're quite sore and tired ANYWAY, plus looking after the 3 year old.

The secret Ibiza tickets - when was he even going to tell you?

Not that this excuses anything, but did he want this baby? Sounds like he's trying to escape. Maybe you should help him out by packing his bags. Unlikely he can come back from this.

Pouring bleach into someone's eyes and mouths would constitute assault. Not sure OP needs to worry about being arrested on top of everything else!

I'm saying that I think that she has enough to deal with and think about right now, without the insinuation that she also consider the stability of her marriage right now.

Was just thinking the same, there's some proper dickhead responses on here lately.

They think they're being ultra cool when in fact they look ultra stupid and juvenile...

Because he’s a mummy’s boy ?