Daughter didn’t enjoy holiday

[Personil]

DH and I went on holiday with my DD (11). When asked if she enjoyed the holiday she says it was ok but was ruined by being left on her own for 2 hours every day. What she’s referring to is when we went for a siesta. Months later she’s saying she wouldn’t want to go again. WWBU?

Most children won't have a sleep in the afternoon on holiday, it supposed to be exciting and an adventure not two hours sitting alone daily whilst your parents ignore you.

That. I was a very bookish kid, but even I wouldn't want to sit alone while my parents slept during the day on holiday!

It's be different if she was old enough to go off by herself. But just sitting in the room alone, in the middle of the day?

So you have a siesta when it's hot at home, @Personil ?
I don't get it. I've taken many holidays in very hot places but never felt the need to waste two hours sleeping, every day.

Hahahahahahaha!
only on MN would people be clutching their pearls and saying a child who has been taken on a holiday abroad has been neglected because they were made to spend two hours a day not glued to their mummy and daddy! Fml!!

So she didn't enjoy those 2 hours per day. And ?? Does that matter? The rest of the time was fine

She was on holiday! She was not old enough to leave the accommodation by herself, and presumably was without any of the things that she would have at home to entertain herself with.

So 'fine' that she doesn't want to go on holiday with them again? Amazing Parent Goals.

Going against the grain here but I’ve no idea why it would be especially shit for her to have a few hours to herself while you nap, an 11 year old shouldn’t need constant entertainment from adults and should be capable of entertaining themselves for a couple of hours, and she had you for the rest of the day presumably. She may have been a bit bored but it shouldn’t have been enough to ruin the whole holiday if the rest of it was fine. What did you do the rest of the time?

This poster said she would be pissed off at being left alone for a couple of hours as an adult which I was responding to. And I would have been perfectly ok being on my own for 2 hours a day on holiday at 11 too

If I went on holiday with someone who insisted on sleeping for two hours every early afternoon, I'd be highly irritated. And if I was unable to leave the room/apartment without them, I'd be incandescent with anger.

@Personil
Sounds perfectly normal to me.
We are Italians and in the summer we always chill in our accommodation in the afternoon.
If you don’t want to sleep you can read a book, do a crossword, watch a film quietly etc.
No-one feels hard done by🤷‍♀️

Yes, people are being quite mad. An 11 year old is perfectly capable of watching tv, reading or otherwise amusing herself for a couple of hours, having been out earlier and presumably going out again later.

Well maybe they learn that everyone likes different things and everyone has to compromise. Sounds like pretty good parenting goals to me without turning myself into some sort of martyr

Honestly op I wouldn’t stress. A 2hr nap sounds like heaven to me right now. Your daughter was fine. If she was bored that is fine I wouldn’t listen to her whole I don’t want to holiday with you.

I didn’t enjoy family holidays when I was growing up, they were mainly geared around my parents preferences and not mine. I don’t think I ever told my parents though so it’s lovely that she feels it’s safe be honest with you.

You probably don't get invited to go away with others very often then

A siesta is usually between 10-30 minutes… not 2 hours!!!

Very very odd!

Sounds like a shit holiday for her to be honest. What about taking her for some time without her stepdad? She sounds like she was made to feel like a third wheel on this one

I am with your daughter tbh..you dont need a 2 hour nap every day! Especially if your 11 year old didnt need one!

Maybe go somewhere with a temperature that allows you to do more trips or activities, it sounds a pretty dull holiday for an only child.

God MN is exhausting nowadays 😂some right oddballs on this thread. It's fine to relax on holiday. It's okay for 11 year olds to feel bored sometimes. Get a fucking grip people.

YABU. Who leaves an 11 year old alone for 2 hours each day on holiday? Boring and lonely.

So did you really have a "siesta" for two hours each day, or do you really mean that every afternoon was spent at your hotel or apartment, as you had to get back for your afternoon nap, you probably took a while to wake up properly, and then you may have thought it was too late to go out and actually do anything before the evening?

In other words, was this just two hours out of an otherwise packed and fun itinerary, or did you go out a couple of mornings and the rest of the time was spent in "quiet time" with your daughter largely ignored?

To be honest @Personil I'm on Team DD. It sounds a pretty shit holiday for an 11 year old and I'm not surprised she doesn't want to go again.

Yes, but if a kid is bored, it's not surprising they don't enjoy the holiday.

Entertaining yourself in your own home is easy. You have your books, your stuff, your TV, your games.
Not so much in a hotel room or an apartment abroad.

I think it's strange to actually sleep for 2 hours every day. We took it easy in the afternoons on holiday but it involved sitting on the sofa, watching a film, chatting, etc. Maybe snoozing for half an hour.

But I didn't really enjoy holidays with my parents from about that age going forward. I didn't HATE them and now I'm older, I cherish the memories. But it doesn't change the fact that I was bored a lot of the time! So what? Didn't do me any harm. Children don't need to be pandered to 24/7.

This thread is bonkers. An eleven year old is perfectly capable of reading a book, watching tv for 2 hours with her parents in the next room. Particularly when she’s been on an outing or by the pool all morning.

Are you all hovering over your tweens at all times?