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To wonder why working class white boys do worse than any other ethnic group, and how we can change this?

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Carla786 · 22/04/2026 22:38

A lot of stuff I've read recently has argued the way school is set up disadvantages boys compared to girls. But this doesn't explain why white working class boys would perform worse than wc boys of other ethnicities.
Asian wc boys are more likely to have present fathers,,but black wc boys less likely than white boys (I think). So absent fathers I'm sure are part of the problem, but then maybe also black boys then have a protective factor that still boosts performance which white boys don't have? What could this be?

And how can white wc boys be helped? The question also remains why white wc girls are apparently less affected too : maybe I suppose tying in to school methods being more suited to the average girl?

https://www.spiked-online.com/2026/03/24/the-betrayal-of-white-working-class-boys/

The betrayal of white working-class boys

Anyone who still believes in white, male privilege should take a look at England’s school system.

https://www.spiked-online.com/2026/03/24/the-betrayal-of-white-working-class-boys/

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Geminispark · 23/04/2026 21:43

DollydaydreamTheThird · 23/04/2026 18:41

I think this is bollocks. My dad is working class with no qualifications and he encouraged us all the more to do well at school. I would be considered middle class now which I'm not fond of if I'm honest but without the encouragement I might not have done so well.
I think a lack of vocational options at secondary school for kids is a massive problem. Not everyone is academic and schools haven't changed for decades. Some kids would do better with basic english, maths and science and then the rest of the time spent on more practical learning. I also think for the kids without male role models, the distinct lack of youth clubs and extracurricular options leads them down the wrong paths. They feel like noone gives a shit about them and they wouldn't be far wrong would they? I heard labour are investing in youth clubs on a small scale as a pilot in a few big cities. It couldn't come sooner in my opinion and I hope they roll them out everywhere.

There are some colleges opening up now for 14+ that do English and maths and then the rest of the time is vocational so horticulture/ beauty / catering / performing arts. I think it’s an excellent idea

DelectableMe · 23/04/2026 21:43

Aluna · 23/04/2026 21:19

There are cohorts with completely different cultures.

I know...

C8H10N4O2 · 23/04/2026 21:46

Carla786 · 23/04/2026 18:33

Yes, grammars were good imo. But technical skills never really got the same good treatment. I've read some Euro countries do this better, want to read up

The tripartite system failed far more children than it benefited. Most children, especially girls, were labelled as failures at 11 and provided with a very limited education, often not even leading to public exam courses. For the “secondary” children the curriculum was also usually divided by sex with girls diverted to “homecraft” (not exactly a money spinning career option).

Its often trumpeted as a vehicle of social mobility - in reality only a small percentage of children in grammars came from the backgrounds we are talking about here.

Most WC children were effectively weeded out by an 11+ skewed toward culturally enriched children. It enabled grammars to cream off children from the more aspirational skilled trades end of the WC, not too many from the poorest areas. Even now, in areas with grammar schools its common to find the Yr 7 intake entirely from private primaries or strongly tutored and a whole bunch of soft barriers to deter poorer families. When I was a child I can remember families deciding which child if any could take a grammar place (with the pricier uniforms/attendance costs). Typically if any child was sent it would be the boys, girls would only get married after all.

The national curriculum is independent of schooling models and has nothing to do with them.

C8H10N4O2 · 23/04/2026 21:51

Carla786 · 23/04/2026 20:00

In what ways would you say education has become more female oriented?
I partly think it has. I also think though that arguably boys who acted up or disengaged would have got a rougher deal in the past, corporal punishment etc. The difference was they could leave at 14 and had more opportunities for trade/manual jobs.

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It hasn’t become more female oriented.

There was a period of time where exams included assessed work. This turned out to produce more good grades for girls - unsurprising, girls being socialised in ways which mean they complete more homework, turn work in on time. Boys do better when they just do exams which don’t account for missed work during the previous two years.

We are now back to near 100% exam based assessment. Funny that.

DollydaydreamTheThird · 23/04/2026 21:56

Geminispark · 23/04/2026 21:43

There are some colleges opening up now for 14+ that do English and maths and then the rest of the time is vocational so horticulture/ beauty / catering / performing arts. I think it’s an excellent idea

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Yes my friend's son goes to a media one but they are hard to get into as so rare. Amazing idea. Get them doing something they enjoy and they fly.

JudgeJ · 23/04/2026 21:57

Carla786 · 23/04/2026 18:33

Yes, grammars were good imo. But technical skills never really got the same good treatment. I've read some Euro countries do this better, want to read up

Certainly when we lived in Germany the technical schools were very strong, it's a real pity that we missed the opportunity years ago to develop the technical side.

Allrightonthenight1 · 23/04/2026 21:57

Lack of aspiration, lack of role models and I think there's an element of present fathers resenting educated women, ie teachers in primary schools, telling them how to raise their children. I've had a dad this week tell me (and the Head) that my assessment of their child's reading is wrong. Child has been re-assessed and they both swaggered into school this morning expecting to be told he can move onto the books they think are correct. Funnliy enough, my assessment was right. I suggested going to the library (10 minutes walk) for books if they believe he can do more. That's fallen on deaf ears; the library is 'rubbish'.

JudgeJ · 23/04/2026 22:01

Its often trumpeted as a vehicle of social mobility - in reality only a small percentage of children in grammars came from the backgrounds we are talking about here.

In my Grammar school, industrial NW England, the majority of pupils were from working class backgrounds, I recall one doctor's daughter and one boy whose father was an Optician in my year group. If more effort had been made to solve the problems in the Secondary Moderns rather than scrapping the Grammar schools for being successful we would be in a better position today. It's wrong to compare the Grammar schools of the '50s and '60s to the Grammar school of today.

noworklifebalance · 23/04/2026 22:04

TakeOffSound · 23/04/2026 18:20

Just to give another point of view. I am Asian and was raised by parents who valued education over everything. Luckily, I was academic and did very well, as did my siblings. But there was a heck of a lot of pressure. We were basically told that we had to be doctors, lawyers, or engineers. The next rank down was Dentists and pharmacists. If we did badly, we might end up as teachers. And that was it.

I have an English husband and been much less ‘Asian’ in the raising of my kids. I don’t want them to kill themselves working and they have been free to choose their degrees themselves with no pressure for me. Of course I wanted them to do well in education, and they had all our love and support but I didn’t want to repeat the very limited educational world view of my parents. They have flourished by themselves. Too much academic pressure is definitely not a good thing. Growing up we were always compared to our peers and it felt like one lifelong competition.

anyway, things are changing. I work in London with deprived communities. There are many Asian kids, boys and girls who are not performing well. Especially the boys. There are Asian teenagers taking drugs, getting involved in gangs and violence and not studying hard. Asian youths with misogynistic views. Of course, the stats say what they say. But I do think the next generations of Asian kids here will not all be following the same patterns of educational success as their ancestors.

Do you think your more “balanced” approach (not saying it is a bad thing at all) will then be emulated down the generations leading to Asian children from “successful families” being less aspirational? The drive to succeed and do well will no longer be there, as there is no poverty, discrimination etc to overcome in the same way your parents had to?

noworklifebalance · 23/04/2026 22:10

C8H10N4O2 · 23/04/2026 21:51

It hasn’t become more female oriented.

There was a period of time where exams included assessed work. This turned out to produce more good grades for girls - unsurprising, girls being socialised in ways which mean they complete more homework, turn work in on time. Boys do better when they just do exams which don’t account for missed work during the previous two years.

We are now back to near 100% exam based assessment. Funny that.

I thought the switch to more exam-based assessment was due to AI?
I personally preferred exams to course work but that is just a sample size of one so not helpful!

Aluna · 23/04/2026 22:11

C8H10N4O2 · 23/04/2026 21:46

The tripartite system failed far more children than it benefited. Most children, especially girls, were labelled as failures at 11 and provided with a very limited education, often not even leading to public exam courses. For the “secondary” children the curriculum was also usually divided by sex with girls diverted to “homecraft” (not exactly a money spinning career option).

Its often trumpeted as a vehicle of social mobility - in reality only a small percentage of children in grammars came from the backgrounds we are talking about here.

Most WC children were effectively weeded out by an 11+ skewed toward culturally enriched children. It enabled grammars to cream off children from the more aspirational skilled trades end of the WC, not too many from the poorest areas. Even now, in areas with grammar schools its common to find the Yr 7 intake entirely from private primaries or strongly tutored and a whole bunch of soft barriers to deter poorer families. When I was a child I can remember families deciding which child if any could take a grammar place (with the pricier uniforms/attendance costs). Typically if any child was sent it would be the boys, girls would only get married after all.

The national curriculum is independent of schooling models and has nothing to do with them.

Well that’s the line that’s given now. In fact girls’ grammars were fundamental in women’s education movement. Shifting girls from all over the country, including predominantly working class areas, into education and giving them aspirations beyond marriage and kids.

It’s completely untrue that working class children were “weeded out” - indeed there were areas of the country, particularly the old industrial areas, where there weren’t large numbers of middle classes so the majority of grammar cohorts were working class.

Aluna · 23/04/2026 22:15

JudgeJ · 23/04/2026 22:01

Its often trumpeted as a vehicle of social mobility - in reality only a small percentage of children in grammars came from the backgrounds we are talking about here.

In my Grammar school, industrial NW England, the majority of pupils were from working class backgrounds, I recall one doctor's daughter and one boy whose father was an Optician in my year group. If more effort had been made to solve the problems in the Secondary Moderns rather than scrapping the Grammar schools for being successful we would be in a better position today. It's wrong to compare the Grammar schools of the '50s and '60s to the Grammar school of today.

Exactly.

The real problem was that the secondary moderns didn’t have the same funding as the grammars and as pay was degree related, and a degree was not always required to teach at a secondary modern, the teachers were paid less too.

I don’t think it was the division per se that didn’t work, it was the way it was done. Secondary moderns were very much second fiddle.

As several people have noted including myself, the division works fine in Germany.

Aluna · 23/04/2026 22:25

C8H10N4O2 · 23/04/2026 21:51

It hasn’t become more female oriented.

There was a period of time where exams included assessed work. This turned out to produce more good grades for girls - unsurprising, girls being socialised in ways which mean they complete more homework, turn work in on time. Boys do better when they just do exams which don’t account for missed work during the previous two years.

We are now back to near 100% exam based assessment. Funny that.

Continuous assessment wasn’t introduced to favour girls, it wasn’t actually known how much better girls would be at it until it was introduced.

Equally, the rise of girls in education is a global phenomenon not related to one education system.

We’re back to exams now because of the problem of Google, AI and parents. And girls are still outperforming boys.

Carla786 · 23/04/2026 23:12

Imgoingtobefree · 23/04/2026 11:22

I agree there are so many factors at play as already discussed.

Ive often wondered if puberty and slower brain maturation could play a part?

I think testosterone hits boys harder and in a very different way than oestrogen does for girls. I think testosterone makes boys more competitive but because of the later maturity of the prefrontal lobe, this increase in competitive, masculine behaviour is not tempered with executive function. Delayed gratification for educational needs gets left behind. They have other emotions driving them - perhaps self interest and it’s consequent behaviour is most dominant?

Oestrogen on the other hand I think makes girls more socially compliment, plus I think the science says their brain matures 2yrs ahead of boys. I think this would explain the better statistics for white working class girls over the white WC boys.

So how come it’s only white and working class boys and not higher income or Asian and other ethnicities. I think this is when the other factors come into play and have more influence.

Boys from stable families with high parental involvement and high expectations, in areas with good funding and high employment are mostly able to offset some of these negative effects of puberty.

I’ve heard it said boys would benefit if GCSEs and A levels could be taken 2 years later.

I haven’t mentioned Porn use and the Andrew Tate effect, because I believe this trend was already noticed before those things became so prevalent. But thats another detrimental influence at play.

I don’t know if I’ve managed to explain myself well- as a woman I can only guess at what puberty feels like for boys.

'I’ve heard it said boys would benefit if GCSEs and A levels could be taken 2 years later.'

  • that's interesting and probably would help. The equivalents in the past (School Certificate & Higher School Certificate, replaced by GCEs and A Levels in the ) were also taken at 16 and 18. I doubt they were trying to disadvantage boys : probably fewer kids were taking those exams as the leaving age was lower, and boys who struggled more would probably have moved into trades/manual labour I suppose
I agree with all your points on puberty effects
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Carla786 · 23/04/2026 23:13

Aluna · 23/04/2026 22:25

Continuous assessment wasn’t introduced to favour girls, it wasn’t actually known how much better girls would be at it until it was introduced.

Equally, the rise of girls in education is a global phenomenon not related to one education system.

We’re back to exams now because of the problem of Google, AI and parents. And girls are still outperforming boys.

That's interesting it's global, I want to look into that more

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EwwPeople · 23/04/2026 23:28

Carla786 · 23/04/2026 23:13

That's interesting it's global, I want to look into that more

I looked into this for a different thread, and around the world, in different cultures, systems (including the much praised Scandinavian ones) , continents girls (when given the opportunity to do so) tend to outperform boys .

Onmytod24 · 24/04/2026 00:28

The comment about boys taking GCSE exams later might seem sensible but it doesn’t fit in with the reality. Some schools get really high results actually start the GCSEs in year nine rather than year 10 so they can take them earlier and that suits boys better

AnythingButThis · 24/04/2026 07:04

Aluna · 23/04/2026 22:11

Well that’s the line that’s given now. In fact girls’ grammars were fundamental in women’s education movement. Shifting girls from all over the country, including predominantly working class areas, into education and giving them aspirations beyond marriage and kids.

It’s completely untrue that working class children were “weeded out” - indeed there were areas of the country, particularly the old industrial areas, where there weren’t large numbers of middle classes so the majority of grammar cohorts were working class.

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Anecdotal not statistical but my mum from a WC family in Leeds went to grammar, first in the family to Uni, Fulbright scholarship to the states and doctorate. She remembers her mum worrying about the cost of uniforms.

CinnamonJellyBeans · 24/04/2026 07:33

C8H10N4O2 · 23/04/2026 21:51

It hasn’t become more female oriented.

There was a period of time where exams included assessed work. This turned out to produce more good grades for girls - unsurprising, girls being socialised in ways which mean they complete more homework, turn work in on time. Boys do better when they just do exams which don’t account for missed work during the previous two years.

We are now back to near 100% exam based assessment. Funny that.

When I was at school, we did the 11+ . The marks were put up on the wall. There was one girl (who later went to Oxford) who consistently beat me in every test. She was formidable and such a polymath, I didn't mind losing to her. She was my first pacemaker and a remarkable example of how cultural capital can extend the brain in every area.

I was third on the list. Impossible. No one else could touch us two. Despite being a polite child, I was bold and asked my teacher how I had been beaten by boy X. The boys' grades were all automatically boosted by 5%. This hasn't happened for decades.

School is one of the few places were there is a (relatively) level playing field. It's one of the few places where men don't get the upper hand through the misogyny that pervades every other aspect of my life and yours.Women are strong, resourceful and multitask. We don't spend 10 minutes bleating about how we don't want to do a 2 minute task. FFS just let my daughters do better than the boys because they worked harder, chose to invest in themselves and did not fear being dragged out of their comfort zone to learn something challenging.

Laurmolonlabe · 24/04/2026 07:51

AnythingButThis · 24/04/2026 07:04

Anecdotal not statistical but my mum from a WC family in Leeds went to grammar, first in the family to Uni, Fulbright scholarship to the states and doctorate. She remembers her mum worrying about the cost of uniforms.

Not anecdotal- I went to a Girl's Grammar in the South West we had more girl's from the council estates than from the villages (which tended to be more affluent in most cases). 80% of us went to university- it was just assumed you would go.You can't base a case on one individual.

AnythingButThis · 24/04/2026 08:01

Laurmolonlabe · 24/04/2026 07:51

Not anecdotal- I went to a Girl's Grammar in the South West we had more girl's from the council estates than from the villages (which tended to be more affluent in most cases). 80% of us went to university- it was just assumed you would go.You can't base a case on one individual.

Yep thats why I was being anecdotal not making a case

TakeOffSound · 24/04/2026 08:10

noworklifebalance · 23/04/2026 22:04

Do you think your more “balanced” approach (not saying it is a bad thing at all) will then be emulated down the generations leading to Asian children from “successful families” being less aspirational? The drive to succeed and do well will no longer be there, as there is no poverty, discrimination etc to overcome in the same way your parents had to?

Yes I do think so. Already I can see that the next generations of Asian kids are different. Thankfully though, they know there are other careers than being a doctor or lawyer. They will work hard if that way inclined but will have different aspirations I think. And more willing to take career ‘risks’, so not automatically enter the professions, and be more open to the creative industries. I think that’s a good thing overall.

Obviously it won’t be good if they aspire never to work and stay at home, take drugs etc. I don’t think the majority will follow that route though.

Sunshineandoranges · 24/04/2026 09:52

DelectableMe · 23/04/2026 18:42

What do you mean? Do you mean in schools? As pp have said, there are plenty of programmes and financial support for this cohort. Teachers are specifically asked to focus on them (as well as other identified groups) when we both predict and breakdown our results.
We have to explain outcomes.

I have never seen a programme such as you describe. I was working in a further education college where there were several low level courses e.g. pre entry and entry level nvqs. Those in construction, car mechanics etc were mostly full of white working class boys who had done badly at school. In the library and corridors there were posters showing many successful men and women e.g. architects, successful entrepreneurs, sports champions. Not one showed a white man if any age.When i queried this with the person responsible for selecting and buying the posters, i was told they werent needed. So dont bother aspiring via the education system if you are young, white, male and working class could be the message from these posters.

anourishingsoup · 24/04/2026 09:54

noworklifebalance · 23/04/2026 22:04

Do you think your more “balanced” approach (not saying it is a bad thing at all) will then be emulated down the generations leading to Asian children from “successful families” being less aspirational? The drive to succeed and do well will no longer be there, as there is no poverty, discrimination etc to overcome in the same way your parents had to?

I'm seeing this. Third generation whose parents are in fairly decent financial states are pushing back against the doctor/engineer as the only career path. Their second gen parents (who felt the pressure) are allowing arts degrees. The whole STEM focus is not just about money though, it's status too. It will be much harder for a graduate of fine art to get married than a doctor. But the younger generation are increasingly doing their own thing now and the parents are increasingly accepting this and even encouraging it too.
There has also always been an 'underclass' of Asian DC who did badly at school, got into drugs, violent crime etc very similar to the WC white boys situation.

noworklifebalance · 24/04/2026 10:09

anourishingsoup · 24/04/2026 09:54

I'm seeing this. Third generation whose parents are in fairly decent financial states are pushing back against the doctor/engineer as the only career path. Their second gen parents (who felt the pressure) are allowing arts degrees. The whole STEM focus is not just about money though, it's status too. It will be much harder for a graduate of fine art to get married than a doctor. But the younger generation are increasingly doing their own thing now and the parents are increasingly accepting this and even encouraging it too.
There has also always been an 'underclass' of Asian DC who did badly at school, got into drugs, violent crime etc very similar to the WC white boys situation.

That’s really interesting.
I wonder whether AI will turn things on its head again (thinking of the current thread on ABIU) and parents will again encourage (perhaps not push) their children into these roles.