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To tell DH to stop sulking after my jokey comment?

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Hayfever25 · 22/04/2026 19:00

I feel like DH has become a right grumpy so and so recently.

We are attending a friends’ wedding, it’s an abroad one in July. A couple we are close (she’s my best friend) with are also attending, and we met up with them on Sunday.

They had hoped to book the same hotel as us but found the rates had increased since we booked, so are staying elsewhere.

On Sunday, my friends H jokingly asked if we are sad they aren’t joining us. I replied along the lines of - ‘of course, I really wanted to see your bulge in your speedos by the pool’ and they both laughed. We have a very jokey relationship so it was a fairly ordinary comment.

DH had a sulk on driving home and when I asked why, he said the comment I made was inappropriate.

Is it me or does he need to lighten up a bit?

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asdbaybeeee · 22/04/2026 21:43

Yeah sorry I agree with the majority it was a crass comment, if my dh had commented on one of my friends bodies id have been annoyed and if one of my friends made a comment about my shud be miffed

PlacidPenelope · 22/04/2026 21:43

Ugh, what a crass, sleazy, completely inappropriate thing to say.

Your husband is right to be grumpy and pissed off with you. I'd feel pissed off and utterly creeped out if a friend said that to my husband in front of me as would my husband. I bet your friends are now glad they are not in the same hotel with you after that comment.

ThatLilacTiger · 22/04/2026 22:02

That's mega fucking weird, you creep.

outerspacepotato · 22/04/2026 22:07

That's a crude asshole comment.

Maybe your husband got the ick. I sure would.

lulubalu · 22/04/2026 22:18

In answer to your question, yes, it's you. Your DH doesn't need to lighten up. HTH

Pricelessadvice · 22/04/2026 22:29

Yeh that’s a bit weird. I’m all for a joke, but that’s not even funny. Surely something like “wandering about in your budge smugglers” would have been a bit more amusing and a bit less crass!!
Why are you talking about your mates husbands bulge??
What if your husband said he was sorry he wasn’t going to see your mates tits in her bikini? Would you not feel that was a bit weird?

Pippa12 · 22/04/2026 22:37

Hayfever25 · 22/04/2026 19:07

I’m not sure that’s quite the same. But I’d have laughed if he made a similar quip about seeing my friend in her bikini.

It’s exactly the same and you’re out of order. You should apologise to your husband and your friend.

Tourmalines · 22/04/2026 22:44

It’s you . It’s one of those times when it’s ‘I’m a female. I can say it ‘ but if a male was to say that he couldn’t wait to see her balloons in a bikini , well different outcome completely! As you can see , you were crass !

Gazelda · 22/04/2026 22:51

SalemSaberhagen99 · 22/04/2026 21:33

I completely agree. I don't think you meant it of course and I am sure he knows that but it made him feel uncomfortable and if you care that you made him uncomfortable (if you don't, why not?) then apologise.

I think that OP also owes both of her friends an apology. If it’s sincere and done soon, you should all be able to put it behind you.

brunettemic · 22/04/2026 22:54

Hayfever25 · 22/04/2026 19:07

I’m not sure that’s quite the same. But I’d have laughed if he made a similar quip about seeing my friend in her bikini.

It’s obviously the same and you know it is.

Hayfever25 · 23/04/2026 12:04

popcorn215 · 22/04/2026 21:41

Crikey don’t post that on here! how dare you speak like that, revolting, your husband should leave you, get his ducks in a row and start divorce.

You really need to think about your circle, it’s not good. This is not just ‘banter’. Women are the problem in this world today thinking things like this are ok.

In other news yes, tell him to lighten up and put some extra tight Speedo’s on in July 😉

😂don’t forget the free 30 minutes with a shit hot lawyer and to start trawling through the financial paperwork!

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