To tell DH to stop sulking after my jokey comment?

[Hayfever25]

I feel like DH has become a right grumpy so and so recently.

We are attending a friends’ wedding, it’s an abroad one in July. A couple we are close (she’s my best friend) with are also attending, and we met up with them on Sunday.

They had hoped to book the same hotel as us but found the rates had increased since we booked, so are staying elsewhere.

On Sunday, my friends H jokingly asked if we are sad they aren’t joining us. I replied along the lines of - ‘of course, I really wanted to see your bulge in your speedos by the pool’ and they both laughed. We have a very jokey relationship so it was a fairly ordinary comment.

DH had a sulk on driving home and when I asked why, he said the comment I made was inappropriate.

Is it me or does he need to lighten up a bit?

Oh dear OP, you made an embarrassing fool of yourself there
No wonder your DH is pissed off

Im embarrassed on your DH behalf.

Urgh, what a sleazy remark.

It's a very weird comment to make OP, especially about your 'best friends' husband.

Do you honestly not see how your 'best friend's' husband asking you if you were sad that he wasn't they weren't joining you and your comment of wanting to see his bulge is inappropriate? I can guarantee she is currently thinking you are sleeping with her husband (I wouldn't be surprised if your husband is thinking the same thing)

Have you actually spoken to these 'friends' since Sunday @Hayfever25?

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No doubt you meant it as a harmless joke and you left your filter at home. Don’t dwell on it and definitely don’t look in a downwards direction when you next see the friend’s husband.

God OP, that’s horrifically shit patter.

I find it really icky

Is he sulking or just thinking about how inappropriate you are? How embarrassing for all of you.

Gross, just gross.

If you turned it around and your husband said to your friend he wanted to se her in a bikini so he could see how big her breasts are- how would you feel?

Of course it is, you dont get away with it just because the shoe is on the other foot, inappropriate and tasteless jokes are inappropriate and tasteless jokes regardless of who says them, such double standards,

Yuk.

That is all.

How would you have felt if he mentioned her boobs in a bikini?

It’s definitely a you problem

The comment was weird. And even weirder is trying to get internet support to agree with you that he is in the wrong.

By this time I wouldn't sulk about the initial comment, but about your dismissal of his view about that.

You need to apologise to your husband. It’s not grumpy of him to be unhappy about you making comments like this.
If he’d said to your friend he’d been looking forward to seeing her massive boobs in her bikini, I reckon you’d be feeling sore about it as well.
I’d bet money on them booking a different hotel not because of the cost but because you’re embarrassing to be around.
You’re in the wrong - it’s not funny, it’s crossing a line.

Saying this to anyone I’d be thinking wtf?!?!? My partner making a comment about something on the same lines but woman related I’d be thinking eff you!!!

YABU and gross

I completely agree. I don't think you meant it of course and I am sure he knows that but it made him feel uncomfortable and if you care that you made him uncomfortable (if you don't, why not?) then apologise.

What you said was completely inappropriate
I would be mortified if I was your husband

Totally inappropriate comment OP.

That's gross and inappropriate. I would have been pissed off with you. YABU.

It literally is the same 😂 I wouldn't be happy!

Crikey don’t post that on here! how dare you speak like that, revolting, your husband should leave you, get his ducks in a row and start divorce.

You really need to think about your circle, it’s not good. This is not just ‘banter’. Women are the problem in this world today thinking things like this are ok.

In other news yes, tell him to lighten up and put some extra tight Speedo’s on in July 😉