To tell DH to stop sulking after my jokey comment?

[Hayfever25]

I feel like DH has become a right grumpy so and so recently.

We are attending a friends’ wedding, it’s an abroad one in July. A couple we are close (she’s my best friend) with are also attending, and we met up with them on Sunday.

They had hoped to book the same hotel as us but found the rates had increased since we booked, so are staying elsewhere.

On Sunday, my friends H jokingly asked if we are sad they aren’t joining us. I replied along the lines of - ‘of course, I really wanted to see your bulge in your speedos by the pool’ and they both laughed. We have a very jokey relationship so it was a fairly ordinary comment.

DH had a sulk on driving home and when I asked why, he said the comment I made was inappropriate.

Is it me or does he need to lighten up a bit?

Its the sort of comment, that if reversed, and if the OP made a thread about her husband saying this to a woman, would have hoards of posters telling the OP that 'I dont think I would be able to move past that'.

See also - he's showing you who he is/showing you how little he respects you

Jeez, we’ve known a couple for about 40 years and I can’t begin to imagine how plastered I’d have to be to make a comment about the husband’s penis bulge. I’m dying inside just thinking about it. In fact I feel a little sick.

Very inappropriate OP. I'm not surprised your "friends" booked a different hotel if that's the sort of comments you normally make about him. Your poor DH.

Slightly odd comment, really.

Yes I think the comment was insensitive and a bit pervy

Agree with this

Looking forward to seeing you in your Speedo’s - nit cringey but a harness joke

Referring to his bulge is just grim as fuck and that’s what makes it a line crossed from banter to gross.

A comparison would be DH telling a female friend he was looking forward to seeing her camel toe in her bikini bottoms

We have a pretty jokey relationship with our friends but I would never have said that 🤣 they’d all cringe and talk about me later. Was a bit weird op!!

'90s laddettes are that way >>>

Your comment was gross, I’d be embarrassed to admit I’d said that

Yeah that’s a bit much even for a jokey couple. Bulge is just gross and quite specific.

like others have said it’s like your H saying he can’t wait to see the other woman’s vulva outline….

It’s a weird comment. You don’t talk about wanting to see your friend’s dick in front of your husband!

Excellent work OP

Or your friend! 😂

How is it not the same?!

Would would "a similar quip" about your friend be?

I'd be upset if my DH made a sexualised comment about my best friend. It wouldn't even occur to me to make sexualised comments about anyone else - let alone someone else's partner.

Were you pissed? Even if you were single it’s a tasteless ‘joke’

What, when asked that question, instantly made your mind go straight to your mate’s husband’s cock?

I’m team DH on this one.

I am not easily offended but what a bizarre thing for you to say!

Weird, crude, childish and unbecoming. Was that the look you were going for? Job done then.

They definitely talk about how weird you are behind your back.

That's very humiliating for you DH, I would be upset with my husband if he did the equivalent to me. It's just not funny.

You may consider it 'jokey' but most people, like your DH, would consider it inappropriate. I would think he is embarrassed and I think calling him grumpy is unfair.

I agree with your husband

Really infantile comment. Are you 14? Awful crude vulgar thing to say. No wonder he was pissed off.

YABVU @Hayfever25 I can't believe you even have to ask!

So they ask if you wish that they were joining you & you make a reference to your friend's husband's cock?

Ok!

I can't imagine ever saying that to anyone! I would be horrified if my husband ever told someone he couldn't wait to see their bits in a bikini. I think you've pushed the line between banter and being crude much too far.