Aibu that having thick hair is not something for someone to be envious of!?

[thickhairproblems]

As the title says!
I have very thick hair, always have, it’s straight but has lots of kinks in so needs to be blow dried and straightened after each wash. I absolutely cannot leave to air dry as it’s a frizzy poofy mess. Even just blasting it with hair dyer it’s frizzy, lots of kinks and a few waves. Needs to be brushed as I dry it to somehow calm it down and it takes absolutely ages to do! It’s about bra strap length, I’ve tried it shorter but doesn’t sit right, needs some weight to hold it down so doesn’t poof out, layers don’t sit right. First bit of wind outside and it turns to a mess, gets very knotty.

Today Someone asked if my hair was all mine and that they would love to have hair like mine. This isn’t the first conversation I’ve had with people about wanting thick hair. Every hairdresser I go to mentions it.

Aibu that having thick hair isn’t something to be envious of
or
yanbu thick hair is a pita!

Also if anyone has any styling tips that would be great

Mine was still thick at 60. Seven years on it is now very thin, and my hairdresser has to be very creative to make my hair look thicker.

@thickhairproblems it is easy to get your hair thinned at the hairdresser. Having thin hair is much harder to deal with to make it look good.

My hair is exactly the same. A massive pain, takes loads of time, never looks very good and no amount of curly girl method, treatments, gadgets or anything has stopped it from needing to be straightened everyday however, I can totally understand that for people struggling with v thin hair or hair loss it would be appealing.

Mine is thick and curly but with lots of weird different curl patterns. Let it air dry, it turns into a big Crystal Tipps triangle. Curly Girl method made me look like I'd slept in a hedge. Straightening the fuck out of it with a Steam Pod makes it actually look nice and holds for a few days. Some of my friends have thinning menopause hair and I appreciate that is miserable to deal with, but mine has been a pain all my life. At least I like the colour.

Thick hair will always be better than thin hair, and hair that holds a curl better than hair that won’t.

After years of trial and error I’ve found that a tiny bit of serum after washing my hair helps a lot in smoothing it out. I blow dry to 80% dry, then straighten using a round brush to roll some “lift” into each section. I put a Velcro big roller into the still warm straightened section until it cools. Sounds faffy but doesn’t take too long and I find this will last me a good few days before I need to do anything else.

How is your hair straight if it has kinks & waves?

I had the exact same hair as you. Huge, thick, poofy, nothing would tame it. I'd cut it and it would grow back a couple of weeks later. Hairdressers would charge me double for having so much hair.

I'd do nothing but moan about it.

Now I'm around 50, perimenopausal and all that has gone. Even my hairdresser asked "what's happened?" the other week 😔. It's FAR thinner, I can blow dry it in 10 minutes - it used to take 45 mins - and there's just not that much there anymore.

I desperately miss it, and, while I did appreciate it at the time, I wish I'd been able to have it for longer. I can't even curl it because it would spring up way too short. I can't do different things to it as I used to, as there's just not enough anymore.

Same, girl. My hairdresser said that she’s never had a client with hair as thick as mine. It’s all about the blowout with a round brush until it’s bone dry. I’d love to have medium-thick hair, but I guess if I had to choose between too thick or too thin, I’d stick with too thick. Although it’s a time-consuming ball ache to manage, I can throw it up in a pony or a bun, and a substantial pony or bun always looks good. I don’t care for DH’s comments about how long I spend drying it, though (as if I’m doing it for enjoyment).

Yanbu i get my hair thinned out everytime I have my hair cut and they never thin it enough as they think I have lovely thick hair 🙄. Its always frizzy it doesn't lay flat like hair is supposed to. I can't have it shorter then just below shoulder length otherwise it looks like a triangle. I hate it

But you have the option to make it more manageable, get it thinned out, cut it shorter, get a keratin treatment, with fine thin hair there is literally nothing you can do, there are no miracle products that will give you thick lustrous hair, no hair cuts that will give you hair advert hair, the only answer for thin hair is extensions and even then you are limited because fine hair can’t take much weight so you are left with toppers or wigs. Fine hair also just can’t be left to dry naturally or at least mine can’t, I have to wash blow dry and straighten every day, it’s dry, greasy and static all at the same time, hence my user name, with thin fine hair you can’t even get a decent ponytail, never mind nice up do’s, frankly it’s miserable having fine thin hair.

What she said. I was the full Bonnie Tyler for decades and used to curse my ludicrously full barnet. Little did I know what Peri had in store…

Yup I agree with this. Finally started liking my ( incredibly thick, slightly frizzy) hair when I got it layered and embraced the curl. A good layering cut , decent conditioner, and I let it dry naturally and do nothing else with it and it's the best it's ever been

I’d argue very few women with thick hair would actually choose to have very fine, limp hair. On the other hand those of us with fine hair would kill for a head of thick hair.

Thick hair is always preferable. You don’t see celebrities thinning their hair out. They’re always adding extensions. You don’t see volume reducing shampoo for sale, it’s always volumising. Pretty obvious which is better.

I have very thick, curly hair. I’ve had hairdressers be clearly nervous about cutting and/or styling it. I was horribly teased about it as a teen. Home styling and drying is time consuming and sometimes, not very successful.

But having thick hair is far, far more fortunate than having thin hair or even normal hair with the potential for thinning. My poor MIL has been going slowly bald for years, it’s so tough for a woman. A friend and I both took glp1s in the last year and we both lost hair - my hair loss was completely unnoticeable whereas it was more obvious on my normal haired friend. I feel fortunate.

Having had fine hair which was the bane of my life, I now have no hair post chemo and would be happy with some regardless of whether it was thick, thin, curly or straight!

The following are your friends:

• Mon platin 12-in-1 black caviar hair cream - will calm and smooth the frizz (leave in)
• dyson airwrap

I had your hair. It looked gorgeous but it was seriously high maintenance. I tried loads of appliances but the best thing was a really hot hair dryer and metal brush.

I'm in menopause and it still looks nice but is totally manageable now. I can't believe it.

As someone who spends about 3grand a year maintaining hair extensions to appear like I have a half decent head of hair you’re being unreasonable.

Don’t worry about it. You have time, eventually it’ll thin out a lot. My sister still has a lot more hair than me, but a lot less than she had in her 30’s.

I have thick dark hair that is about collar bone length. I used to hate it but the Revlon heated brush absolutely changed the game for me. I used to straighten it into submission every day but now I use the brush to curl it under and it’s much better.

What I would change about my hair, however, is the double crown (which both of my daughters have inherited). I’m not good with hair and I cannot for the life of me make any hairstyle look good. I’m convinced it would be so much easier without the double crown.

Oh I’d also change the thick dark body hair that goes with it 🤦🏻‍♀️

Unfortunately this. I don’t care much about my appearance and never really have been bothered, but for some reason I feel very upset and vulnerable about this

I like to put mine into two braids before bed to reduce the mess next day. During the day I often have it in a top knot, one long braid that sits down the front of one shoulder. It is rare that I wear it loose unless going out. Mostly for practical reasons as it’s long as well as thick so gets in the way if I bend over/ move! So braid and top knots are everyday wear for me.

in terms of drying, I tend to towel dry then put it in a braid and squeeze out the excess from the tip of the braid throughout the day. Takes at least a day to dry but is less faffy than sitting for ages with a hairdryer and confining the wet to the top of a braid is preferable for me!

although it is extra work and takes ages to wash I do feel very lucky to have such long and thick hair, and don’t get tired of the compliments on the occasions I do wear it open 😀

My nieces have the most beautiful thick hair. Long and silky and dries beautifully naturally (although takes ages).

Their hair is absolutely worthy of envy.

I also have thick hair that I have found diffcult to manage - especially on holiday and with how long it takes to wash and dry just to get put up because it can't sit nice in hot weather. But I have also seen how thin some woman's hair can become as they age and I feel very grateful to have thick hair

Pre menopause I had really thick hair. Now its going thinner every week 😞

I was born with a thick mop of hair and had to keep it cut short till I was about seven to limit the yelling and drama when it was washed. As I grew up, it got thicker and grew out rather than down - I was another Crystal Tipps. It could be a gigantic pain as washing and drying it took so long, but when I was in my thirties, my thyroid packed in. I was grateful I had such a luxuriant head of hair and even more so when the menopause came along. In between, I got my meds sorted and stopped washing my hair every night - alternate nights is optimal - and it thickened up again. I'm in my sixties and my hair is probably as good as it was when I was a twenty-something, albeit with the addition of some silver.