HolyCheeses and Mary… the spreadsheet, the bullshit bingo and the aftermath. Part deux

[HolyCheeses]

Was asked to start a thread.

started a thread.

Amazing.
He's like "Spreadsheet just needs a slight adjustment and she'll be on board!"

No mortgage??? Oh no... (clutches chest), how is the poor guy going to cope? How will it get paid?? You are onto a good thing here @HolyCheeses . You don't even have to pay mortgage!

😵this guy!

“I’ve ended our relationship in person as I thought it was the decent thing to do, why I bothered after your not so decent reaction and FB posts, well you live and learn, so I won’t be doing that again.

Let’s not get into a ridiculous situation I have to remind you we are no longer in a relationship never mind looking toward living together every time you send a revised invoice (that really only makes me question the previous one and not in a positive way)”

@HolyCheeses Tell him that next time he tries to get a woman into his nest to work on that spreadsheet before proposing for her to move in.

But I'm happy you got to see the real him from the start. I'm fairly sure that once you would have moved in the mortgage would magically appear along with increased food costs calculations. He'd probably blame it on Col and he's probably done the same to his parents. Twat!

Oh dear, he seems to have mistaken your exit for a financial negotiation strategy 🫣

It’s sounding more and more that he needs you to
cook
clean
and look after his parents

His grand plan has gone to pot 🤣

Oh stop!! This is an update I was not expecting. But it’s probably typical of this type of man, nasty then has an about turn & attempts to win you back. His idea of romance is a new spreadsheet hahaha. At this rate we may need a third thread….

Maybe send him a spreadsheet. Just one row and one column. "No".

It just proves how right you were, that he attacks and blames you and is now backtracking.

😮

I thought he blocked you after posting really horrible things about you, which was after telling you to your face that you were a horrible person??

Is he mentally ill? What a close call you had OP.

If he only communicates through Microsoft productivity tools, then it might be time to send him a powerpoint setting out clearly why this is absolutely over. Maybe the word 'No' animated slightly differently on every slide?

Ah the Brucie Bonus - the revised spreadsheet. 😁

I got one of these as well. Suddenly my contribution had contracted to zero. I didn't trust him. If I'd moved in I bet the costs would slowly start to be introduced.

The worst thing about my situation was that the cost to live with him wasn't only higher than living alone. I'd need to work more hours to cover it. He somehow thought that was reasonable.

I was expected to trade my lovely little flat and working part time to move 60 miles away and work full time to subsidise his lifestyle. He really couldn't understand my reluctance.

There's not a man alive that could have sold me that deal. 😂

Shamelessly placeholding to enjoy words such as agog and aghast 🤣

It's a shame that his next victim will probably get the revised spreadsheet with costs increasing after she moves in. He now knows he overplayed his hand with the first offer.

Let's hope she's also on Mumsnet and can spot this coming.

For some reason this comment made me absolutely crack up!

What script? I wasn’t at that meeting 😊

He did what???!!!! Argh 😂

Ah, it’s not totally relevant here but it’s definitely reminiscent.

Women whose partners ended long term relationships started to compare notes and found there was a remarkably consistent set of strategies men followed.

This situation is a bit different, but still elements of the script persist.

I can fantasise about doing this. I’m slightly worried about fall out should I go down this route- but, thank you it really made me laugh

I just want to send a one sentence reply then black it all out. I am wondering what he’s telling family and friends -I was really close to his best friend’s wife and her sister but I’m not sure I could cope with the rejection if I reach out to them so I’ll just keep my head down and keep on keeping on.

So after the drama, calling you a time waster and trashing you on Facebook, he’s trying to lure you back with spreadsheet titbits!

There’s good, bad and indifferent. Then there’s bizarre.

I’ve just had an image of Billy Crystal running through the streets of New York to see Meg Ryan.
And Harry, instead of delivering that famously beautiful speech says, instead….
Look Sally, I’ve revised the spreadsheet!
And they fall into each other’s arms and live happily ever after….

A simple one sentence reply sounds good. Whatever he’s trying to do here is best shut down.

What’s his rationale for the huge change in the spreadsheet? Did he say?
‘Oh, I forgot to factor in M&D’
’Ah, obviously you shouldn’t be contributing to the mortgage on a house you don’t own’
etc?

Personally I wouldn’t respond at all
I find it’s the best way to treat bullies

Yes blocked on social media - all platforms He certainly did not take rejection well. I’m ok- my friends, family and dc have rallied. I’m starting to question EVERYTHING. I feel like a fool but a happy one now.

PP was spot on- someone was nice to me and because he wasn’t using me as a punch bag, like the ex would , I foolishly thought this one was a keeper. Mind you, he fooled everyone- My sons were completely taken in too and they usually have a great instinct for these things.