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AIBU to think i'm being profiled by security in shops

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whyamisus · 21/04/2026 23:48

am 24 but i get told sometimes that i look younger. i've read cases where black people got followed around by security in shops but i'm not black i'm white.. never stolen anything in my life. i can walk around different aisles and there will be the same member of staff stocking shelves. when i pay cash i get cashiers putting the note up to the light to check if it's real and thats never happened with my friend. thats happened multiple times. ill ask a member of staff where something is because im having trouble finding it and they'll side eye me and they talk to me in a way its like theyre scared of me. ive also had cashiers give me dirty looks when i approach the till or get asked to wait while someone else gets to the till.

im a woman and i dress normally, i am a tom boy and sometimes ive been asked if im a guy or a girl but i'm petite so im not big and tall or anything. my friend hasnt experienced this and shops in the same places so im wondering what the deal is. has anyone else had similar experiences?

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AprilMizzel · Yesterday 13:26

DH had it a lot when young adult and also got stopped for surveys a lot happened all over the counrty - we traveled and moved a lot. It sort of stopped for him post kids.

It started for me being out with multiple young kids - and I was using trolley and baskets as normal. It slowly stopped as kids got older.

Having been behind a till myself checking the notes isn't that odd - sometimes you pick up something off with a note and sometimes it's a random check and all £50 were suss as there were so many fakes.

catipuss · Yesterday 13:31

youalright · Yesterday 13:11

Yep just "accidently" forget to take half the shopping out at self-scan

They also randomly rescan someone's items, just to check and to deter the people deliberately not scanning items, etc. But putting items in your own bag or in a push chair or buggy is a big no no really, and is just asking to get stopped.

youalright · Yesterday 13:41

AprilMizzel · Yesterday 13:26

DH had it a lot when young adult and also got stopped for surveys a lot happened all over the counrty - we traveled and moved a lot. It sort of stopped for him post kids.

It started for me being out with multiple young kids - and I was using trolley and baskets as normal. It slowly stopped as kids got older.

Having been behind a till myself checking the notes isn't that odd - sometimes you pick up something off with a note and sometimes it's a random check and all £50 were suss as there were so many fakes.

We have to get every £50 note double checked but even smaller notes some just feel a bit weird so need extra checking. There are a lot of fakes floating about

MesonBoson · Yesterday 19:59

Do you wear a horizontal striped jumper and carry a sack?

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