Mother told her friend she doesnt have to pay me?

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I do translating/admin e.g appointments, filling out forms. Work stuff on the side

My mums friend heard i do this and hired me. We agreed on sum etc

I did 3.5 hours work

She then tells me she will give the money when she sees my mum the next day, i agree

My mother then goes "omg guess how much she paid you!!!" "I said no, no, no, no! You are a friend!!!! Absolutely no need to pay that much!!! Wtf!!! 10 pound is fine!!! But she insisted she pays you the agreed amount!!!!! Said treat it as a gift then. But then i insisted and said 10 pound is fine!!!! Trust me!

Explaining to her is useless she just keeps going She is a friend!!! You cant charge her like other people!!!/anyone else!! How can you be so money hungry and greedy!!!

Am i right to be angry about this! I mean this woman is not my friend, i barely know her. And it was like 4 hours work!!!

Edit: oh and now im getting texts from this woman saying she was very happy with such a good price, what a nice person i am and how others she hired "take advantage and over charge". And she wants to hire me again for same price!

You need to refuse to do any work for any friend of your mum from now on and tell your mum to never pull this shit again.

Your dm is absolutely out of order doing this. Hopefully this woman pays or your dm needs to make up the difference

Absolute bollocks to this! OP agreed a price with her client and completed the work. Her mum has ZERO authority in the service contract, she is neither the OP's boss nor employee. THERE IS NO "DEAL" for the work to be discounted to £10. It's tough titties if her mum or her client have "ill feelings" - that's on her mum for inserting herself where she had no place - OP deserves to be paid the full rate that she agreed with her client and should pursue the client for the difference. If the client is anything other than mortified, who gives a shit, this client was rubbing her hands at the prospect of being able to seriously underpay the OP for future work, she is NOT a loss if she never does business with the OP again.

Your mum is out of order especially if she is aware of your financial situation I would be telling her she had no right to look in the envelope and she was also out of order for giving her friend the money back and giving you a measly 10.00. If her friend doesn’t honour your quote you don’t do any more work and tell your mum to keep her nose out of your business. I would be pissed of with both of them tbh. As the price was with the person you did the work for so she should not have listened to your mum and your mum is a cheeky cow offering your time for peanuts.

You need to tell your mum kindly yet firmly to but out of your business, friend or no friend.

I think you need a chat with your mum about your work not being a cash in hand enterprise and helping out friends but actual paid work which you invoice people for and are taxed for (assuming what you do is legit).
Ask her what she is now going to do that the friends payment is now outstanding and has not been paid despite being invoiced, and that the friend thinks all is good.

Wow your mum is a piece of work !! How dare she ? Reply , sorry that was a one off and any more work will need to be paid at full rate directly to me , then up the rate 20% !!

Who cares if it causes ill feeling? OP can't afford to work for £10, she needs the remaining money, either from her client, OP's mum's friend or from her mum who deliberately opened the envelope of cash addressed to OP and then told her friend that it was too much money.

No way should OP just 'suck it up'.

“Mum, as you seem to have lost me the £XXX that Betty was going to pay me (until you stuck your nose in where it wasn’t needed or wanted), you now owe me £XXX and can take it up with Betty yourself if you don’t want to sub her. Why on earth did you think this was ok? It was NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!”

I would say something like

"Im sorry there has been a misunderstanding. Im a professional business woman and I dont offer "mates rates" to friends and family. I feel that would be cheating my other customers who pay the going rate without quibbling. Im sure you would not wish to deal with someone dishonest so my fee for the work I did is £££."

I do private tutoring and this works for me every time when I am asked to do "mates rates". However I do offer deals for customers who are prepared to commit to a fixed number of sessions (and pay in advance).

I think your mother opened the envelope, and helped herself.

I'm a translator. It's a job that works by word of mouth recommendation and loads of work gets passed around translators who are booked up. No way I would pass work on to someone if I heard on the grapevine they were charging way under market rate.

That makes it sound like it’s Betty’s fault. Blame the mother!!

Agree with the pps who say you should message the woman directly and explain that your mother should not have opened the envelope and given her the money back. The price for the work is the price you quoted her.

Do not apologise for 'the mix up', there is no mix up. You quoted a price, she accepted the quote, you did the work and now she has to pay you for your professional time.

If she can't manage to send it BACs then she can send you a cheque.

And never ever let your mother get near anything to do with your professional life again.

I'd be bloody furious with my mother in your shoes OP. How dare she interfere like that.

Seriously - I would ignore your mum and ask the woman for the rest of the money. She should have asked you, not your mum, for the actual amount. If she continues to evade you get legal help or get your mum to pay the difference.

And in the future, dont have any deals via your mum - she clearly enjoys getting brownie points at other people's expenses.

I'm starting to wonder the same. It's interesting how she didn't say half price or whatever - which would surely be a fabulous bargain - but just happened to end up handing over the tiniest amount that doesn't actually sound like virtually nothing (albeit woefully low for OP's work).

I wouldn't bother with the "kindly" bit.

Your mum owes you the rest.

Just reading the OP again, what an absolute insult to say to treat your agreed wages as a 'gift'!!!

Paying to receive goods or services that somebody has provided at the agreed price - and then thinking you're doing them a terrifically kind favour in doing so! I wonder if she tries that at Tesco?!

How old is "older"? My mum is in her late 70s and can do bank transfers and use a computer and a smartphone with ease. She's hardly worked and been a sahw for most of her life and is, frankly, hardly a genius. Being "older" is not an excuse for being incompetent and unable to function in the real world.

That makes it far worse. Your mother is seriously overstepping the line with this. How dare she!

I wouldn't ask her for the extra money now but would make she was properly billed at normal rate for any other work.

it’s about getting the payment, not blame.

Outrageous behaviour. You should absolutely request the balance directly. If your mum still doesnt get it, you could always organise your mum (if she's still working) to clean your friend's house and then pass on that tenner...

I hope that the work you get paid for is a lot more professional in context than what you are typing here...!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😁