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Having ‘a cuppa’

524 replies

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 10:49

Why does this sentence infuriate me so? I already know I’m probably being unreasonable but it’s so grating. I can’t be the only one?

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 11:34

Decacaffeinatednow · 19/04/2026 11:02

Chippy tea bugs me intensely.

Oh definitely. Fish and chips! Sausage and chips! Anything with chips! But ‘chippy tea’ - rage.

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MonsterasEverywhere · 19/04/2026 11:35

Thanks...you've made me fancy a cuppa.

3GoldenLamps · 19/04/2026 11:35

I hate 'cuppa' and I loathe 'having a brew'.

I think I just dislike shortenings though. Because I also can't abide 'brekkie' or 'biccy' etc. I just grates on me.

Okay with swearing though. I can't really make sense of myself at times!

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 11:37

KimberleyClark · 19/04/2026 11:09

Why not? They are as hydrating as water.

They’re not, though. Isn’t tea a diuretic?

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3GoldenLamps · 19/04/2026 11:37

Decacaffeinatednow · 19/04/2026 11:02

Chippy tea bugs me intensely.

God yes. And 'picky bits'.

isthismylifenow · 19/04/2026 11:38

A cuppa and a biccie
Cringe

And how is a KitKat a biscuit?
It's in the chocolate category surely.

HelenaWaiting · 19/04/2026 11:38

My cousin refers to a well-known supermarket as "Sainsbo's". Makes me want to tear my skin off.

BananaPeels · 19/04/2026 11:39

If you don’t say cuppa what do you say? We always say ‘cuppa tea?’

oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 19/04/2026 11:39

Better than a mash ?

olivepicanto · 19/04/2026 11:39

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 19/04/2026 11:08

I hate that word.

But “chocs” is worse. Ugh. Fuck off.

posh chocs.

3GoldenLamps · 19/04/2026 11:41

HelenaWaiting · 19/04/2026 11:38

My cousin refers to a well-known supermarket as "Sainsbo's". Makes me want to tear my skin off.

Hmm. I do that too.

I think I'll stop now. (Actually, I thought that was a MN thing?)

BananaPeels · 19/04/2026 11:41

Shithotlawyer · 19/04/2026 11:02

I think in general its having tea all the time that annoys me! Nobody needs constant hot drinks.

Ha ha in my house the kettle is on before the last one is cold. I’d have an intravenous tea drip if I could!

SadBoys · 19/04/2026 11:42

ACIGC · 19/04/2026 10:57

I don't mind it. If I was to use a slang term, I'd probably say brew, but I don't mind other people saying cuppa.

Hubby, holibobs or "all the feels" on the other hand - just no.

If I had to choose, I’d take ‘cuppa’ over ‘brew’, but I irrationally dislike both, I think because of unpleasant associations with UK soap operas.

1990sMum · 19/04/2026 11:42

Reminds me of my late MIL, always make me smile when I hear it.

olivepicanto · 19/04/2026 11:42

One of the reasons I spend less time on Mn as I used to is the creeping in of twee words, used unironically. Like hubby. Picky bits. Mama bear. 🤮

PuzzlesintheMorning · 19/04/2026 11:43

Miyagi99 · 19/04/2026 11:19

We say having a paned (Wales).

"Panad", or "paned" where I come from is perfectly acceptable. It's nowhere near as toothache-inducing because unlike "cuppa", it's not a twee contraction of something else.

isthismylifenow · 19/04/2026 11:44

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 11:37

They’re not, though. Isn’t tea a diuretic?

I don't live in the UK, but my dc recently moved there.

After the first day I asked her how the day went. She said she had never drank this much tea in a month as to what she had in one day. She felt bad to refuse and they kept on coming 🤣

Pennyfan · 19/04/2026 11:44

I hate brekkie. Spag Bol gives me the rage. So does making memories. So you’re not alone in irrational rage over inoffensive words or phrases.

daffodilandtulip · 19/04/2026 11:45

Having a cuppa, on my holibobs, in my pjs, with my 🌍

LassiKopiano24 · 19/04/2026 11:45

It’s not as bad as “naice”

cardibach · 19/04/2026 11:46

Selttan · 19/04/2026 11:05

I use cuppa but I can’t just say cuppa has to be cuppa tea.

Cuppa is a shortened form of cup o’tea (sounds like cuppa tea) which is shortened from cup of tea. Cuppa tea is daft as not a shortening!

Poshjock · 19/04/2026 11:47

PinkNailPolish2026 · 19/04/2026 11:17

It must be a forces thing as all of DH’s colleagues used to say it, it’s horrible.

"Wet" as in getting a wet or "do you want a wet? is very specificially a Naval "Jackspeak" colloquialism and is not used in the other two Services.

Also, the idea that tea is a diuretic is a fallacy. The net gain of water far outweights the diuretic effect of caffiene which is very mild. If tea is your prefered fluid of choice is is good hydration and counts toward your fluid intake for the day.

cardibach · 19/04/2026 11:47

TheChosenTwo · 19/04/2026 11:08

i don’t mine the phrase but as someone who doesn’t drink tea or coffee (or hot drinks) it drives me mad when things grind to a halt for a hot drink stop in general - nice day out but it’s 11 which apparently means we have to stop for caffeine 😂 - mostly in-laws who I adore so it really doesn’t matter but I do deep down find it quite annoying!

That’s not grinding to a halt! That’s having a little enjoyable sit down. An integral part of a day out, whatever it is you are consuming!

nomas · 19/04/2026 11:47

It could be middle class sneering at working class vernacular.

Yellowpapersun · 19/04/2026 11:47

My SIL says it and I cringe every time. It seems twee and so pleased with itself! It's like when cafés/restaurants say individual pies. I really hate it!