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Having ‘a cuppa’

524 replies

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 10:49

Why does this sentence infuriate me so? I already know I’m probably being unreasonable but it’s so grating. I can’t be the only one?

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cardibach · 19/04/2026 11:58

Yellowpapersun · 19/04/2026 11:47

My SIL says it and I cringe every time. It seems twee and so pleased with itself! It's like when cafés/restaurants say individual pies. I really hate it!

What’s wrong with ‘individual pie’? I like to know. An individual pie - ie the whole of a small pie - has a way bigger pastry to filling ratio than a slice of a larger pie does! I prefer a slice. The filling is the bit I want more of.

VeraWang · 19/04/2026 11:59

Yeah, cuppa isn't baby talk.

It's just short for 'cup of tea' - Cuppa tea.

3GoldenLamps · 19/04/2026 12:00

Not really the point but why are pies in restaurants often just a casserole with a hat on? I want everything encased by pastry. That annoys me too.

BananaPeels · 19/04/2026 12:00

3GoldenLamps · 19/04/2026 11:50

There are some hilarious youtube and facebook videos where people convince non-Brits that there is an actual national Tea Alarm and it's the law to rush to a cup of tea.

(I'm easily amused. Tea videos and cat videos for most of my social media diet).

I think that used to be the commercial break in the middle of coronation street!

Twattergy · 19/04/2026 12:01

I don't mind saying it, but yeah writing it (seeing it written) makes my teeth itch!

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 12:01

I know this isn’t the point of the thread but seeing as someone brought up pies (so to speak).

I always used to go in from the top, but after a recent rewatch of Quadrophenia where Jimmy attacks his upturned pie from below, I think it’s the absolute best way to eat one. Genius in fact.

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Auburndi · 19/04/2026 12:01

Many years ago there was an advertising slogan for milk that was "Drinka pinta milka day!" I clearly remember my great-aunt saying it was disgusting that "they" allowed it when it wasn’t "proper English". She was in her seventies at the time. Just saying…

PhaedraTwo · 19/04/2026 12:03

I don't use it but it doesn't bother me. On the other hand threads called "recommend me a..." . No. Even if I knew exactly what you are looking for for, I won't.

BunnyLake · 19/04/2026 12:03

I think it’s fine. I often text friends with a ‘fancy a cuppa at mine?’. If they have a problem with it they haven’t ever voiced it. If they did I would change it to ‘you are cordially invited to take part in a tea ceremony at the Bunny residence’.

VeraWang · 19/04/2026 12:05

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 12:01

I know this isn’t the point of the thread but seeing as someone brought up pies (so to speak).

I always used to go in from the top, but after a recent rewatch of Quadrophenia where Jimmy attacks his upturned pie from below, I think it’s the absolute best way to eat one. Genius in fact.

My DH has always eaten his pies like this - the heathen.

I hate it because it makes the top pastry soggy.

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 12:05

I used to love having a morning cuppa with The Hubster in my pjs of a Sunday. We would plan our holibobs and before I knew it, it was midday and I hadn't done my barnet or put my face on! Picky bits for lunch and then a bit of how's your father followed by forty winks. By that time, we needed to put the kettle on again for another cuppa chah!

Yellowpapersun · 19/04/2026 12:06

cardibach · 19/04/2026 11:58

What’s wrong with ‘individual pie’? I like to know. An individual pie - ie the whole of a small pie - has a way bigger pastry to filling ratio than a slice of a larger pie does! I prefer a slice. The filling is the bit I want more of.

Well obviously there is nothing wrong with an individual pie. The thread is about words that annoy, for no sensible reason. It's not the pie that annoys me, it's the word.

Thepeopleversuswork · 19/04/2026 12:06

I agree, it's really twee and folksy.

Particularly because you don't hear people say it much in real life, it's a phrase which appears mainly on TV, in magazine and in public service announcements: it has the ring of something people think people say/do, as opposed to something they actually do.

Can't get excited about a "brew". North of the Watford Gap people say it all the time.

inickedthisname · 19/04/2026 12:07

I’m intrigued by the fact you think “cup of splosh” is acceptable, when “cuppa” is infuriating.

I’m also not sure what you’re saying the problem is - that it’s twee and childish like “holibobs”? (Splosh??) or incorrect English because you say “cup of” splosh??

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 12:07

VeraWang · 19/04/2026 12:05

My DH has always eaten his pies like this - the heathen.

I hate it because it makes the top pastry soggy.

Yebbut! The top pastry is usually quite hard so all that pie-y goodness sorts that out.

I do apologise profusely for saying ‘Yebbut’.

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BananaPeels · 19/04/2026 12:07

BunnyLake · 19/04/2026 12:03

I think it’s fine. I often text friends with a ‘fancy a cuppa at mine?’. If they have a problem with it they haven’t ever voiced it. If they did I would change it to ‘you are cordially invited to take part in a tea ceremony at the Bunny residence’.

Exactly. No one has said if they don’t use the word cuppa - what do they say?

id find it very weird if i walked into my living room and said ‘would anyone like a cup of tea’ in very posh Queens English. I just normally walk in and say cuppa anyone?

hitandmist · 19/04/2026 12:08

I cannot stand this. It just gives me the rage for no reason 😂

Lifeomars · 19/04/2026 12:08

VickyEadieofThigh · 19/04/2026 11:05

No, I disagree - "hubby" is much worse.

And as for "hubster"...

don't forget "hubs"🤑

SadBoys · 19/04/2026 12:09

BananaPeels · 19/04/2026 12:07

Exactly. No one has said if they don’t use the word cuppa - what do they say?

id find it very weird if i walked into my living room and said ‘would anyone like a cup of tea’ in very posh Queens English. I just normally walk in and say cuppa anyone?

I say ‘cup of tea’. Not from the UK, though, and not at all formal in my speech..

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 12:09

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 12:05

I used to love having a morning cuppa with The Hubster in my pjs of a Sunday. We would plan our holibobs and before I knew it, it was midday and I hadn't done my barnet or put my face on! Picky bits for lunch and then a bit of how's your father followed by forty winks. By that time, we needed to put the kettle on again for another cuppa chah!

I love ‘barnet’. I’m not a complete wanker.

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PistachioTiramisu · 19/04/2026 12:09

Decacaffeinatednow · 19/04/2026 11:02

Chippy tea bugs me intensely.

Or even worse 'picky tea'. Aaarghhh

SerendipityJane · 19/04/2026 12:10

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 10:53

And the constant need to put the kettle on!

There are some quarters of this site who might ask why do you hate Britain ?

Cuppa and kettles are a British superpower. In fact I'm surprised there isn't a Betjeman poem about them.

(😀just in case )

PhaedraTwo · 19/04/2026 12:10

LassiKopiano24 · 19/04/2026 11:45

It’s not as bad as “naice”

Oh I hate that.

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 12:10

inickedthisname · 19/04/2026 12:07

I’m intrigued by the fact you think “cup of splosh” is acceptable, when “cuppa” is infuriating.

I’m also not sure what you’re saying the problem is - that it’s twee and childish like “holibobs”? (Splosh??) or incorrect English because you say “cup of” splosh??

It just gets on my tits.

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ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 12:11

ClaraThePigeon · 19/04/2026 11:29

I hate it but “brew” is even worse.

But tea IS a brew! It's literally brewed.