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To suspect police are worried about vigilantes - Epsom attack

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ReadingCrimeFiction · 14/04/2026 16:19

I live relatively close to Epsom and so this appalling assault is all over my news feeds and social media.

BBC News - Town left in shock by appalling rape outside church
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c8dl5yevjg9o

The police have asked for witnesses but no descriptions have been given. Cue lots of very disturbing posts and comments from people who very clearly think these men are not white.

I can think of half a dozen scenarios where this is not being disclosed but, based on the comments, I think it all comes down to fears that local communities will take it on themselves to "apprehend" anyone who even vaguely looks like the perpetrators? And while the comments I am seeing are mostly white people being disgusting in their assumptions about brown and black people, i can imagine police would he equally concerned if, for example, the woman was Asian or Black and her attackers were white.

Is this where we are at? Where people make horrible racist assumptions and/or where police have to worry about how they will protect the broader community if they give any details of criminals?

A church built with stone. There is a sign in front of the building.

Epsom left in shock by appalling rape outside church

Helen Maguire says she is "appalled" by the incident outside Epsom Methodist Church on Saturday.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c8dl5yevjg9o

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SummertoAutumntoWinter · 16/04/2026 17:18

I'm from Epsom. I grew up there. I gave birth to my first child there. My parents still live there. I had to call them and warn them not to go into town yesterday evening because of the aggressive atmosphere being created by a bunch of racists. I watched the feed - full if F this, see you next Tuesday, Keir Starmer is a W*er. At one point there were chants of "who raped the girl". The atmosphere was absolutely awful on the live feed last night. Had I been in town with my children, I would have swiftly moved away due to fear for our safety. Many of the people there weren't even from Epsom. Those there didn't seem to have an ounce Of intelligence or critical thinking skills. They didn't represent the vast majority of Epsom residents who are law abiding and happy to let the police do their job.

The attackers may be immigrants. They may not be. It's up to the police or to investigate. The most ridiculous thing I read was they are clearly immigrants because someone told someone else they were wearing flip flops and no British person would wear flip flops at this time of year!

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/04/2026 17:19

I have been searching for a video I watched a while back that explained my thoughts rather well. There is a difference between being English and being British.

The poster upthread wants to be sure we understand that the Child being born in England is the Top Trump card in the Southport conversation. I think there’s more nuance involved and it’s easier to watch two people discuss it than it is to try and write what I mean.

LVhandbagsatdawn · 16/04/2026 17:25

JHound · 16/04/2026 17:04

Clearly you have one of those “Left-Wing Google” too.

Clearly.

It's all a big conspiracy. My Google is censoring me!

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/04/2026 17:27

Still no screenshot though 🤭

IamRedCrossnotJesus · 16/04/2026 17:30

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/04/2026 17:27

Still no screenshot though 🤭

What do you need a screenshot of?

Btw, are you in the UK?

LVhandbagsatdawn · 16/04/2026 17:33

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/04/2026 17:27

Still no screenshot though 🤭

I've given you two screenshots. How many would you like?

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/04/2026 17:36

IamRedCrossnotJesus · 16/04/2026 17:30

What do you need a screenshot of?

Btw, are you in the UK?

The accusation was it was ‘my Google’ as opposed to Google. I suggested the poster show me her first page with the question I was trying to find the answer to and seemingly I was a conspiracy theorist. I thought it was interesting.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/04/2026 17:37

LVhandbagsatdawn · 16/04/2026 17:33

I've given you two screenshots. How many would you like?

Well another one as I’ve obviously missed the first two.

IamRedCrossnotJesus · 16/04/2026 17:41

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/04/2026 17:37

Well another one as I’ve obviously missed the first two.

Here's one from me if that helps. Are you in the UK?

To suspect police are worried about vigilantes - Epsom attack
RobinEllacotStrike · 16/04/2026 17:41

If a woman was raped by 3 men in your town wouldn't you want at least a description of what these men look like?

If the police don't release even basic description people will read into that. This is easily avoided by the police making a description of the perpetrators public.

Eskarina1 · 16/04/2026 17:44

QuintadosMalvados · 16/04/2026 16:44

Wow. Fair game. Yet the possibility that if they move to the UK British women won't also be seen as fair game is downplayed.

I think that some people-including women on this thread - have this magical thinking that all that has to happen is that men from cultures such as this can move to the UK and the 'love and care' they receive from the British will rehabilitate them in some way.

It's crazy to me. I genuinely don't get it. Am I cynical or just a realist.

It puts me in mind of the people who rehome vicious dogs.
All they need is love and a good home and all will be OK somehow.
While people like me are thinking they're being very stupid.

I hate to say it because while I know of men who believe 'love is all they need', it is in my experience women who are more likely to believe this.
Sorry but it's my experience.
It's some kind of rescuer complex? Is that what it is? I'll rescue this savage male and tame him?
I'm just trying to work out why women who would welcome men from truly, truly misogynistic countries are so different from me who would keep them well away from the UK.

Edited

I don't believe this at all. I just believe that a significant proportion of white British men have vile views on women too, and that those men are overrepresented in the men protesting now.

I think, cultural differences aside, it's reasonable to assume people who have been through the level of trauma that means they need asylum are going to be more likely to commit crime. I also know that there are very dangerous attitudes about unaccompanied women in some cultures. I'd be really happy to see an intelligent action plan to address that.

However, the situation we are in now is that large mobs of men are demanding someone else's traumatic rape is managed to their timeline and, because it isn't, they are creating loud, aggressive situations which feel unsafe for women and girls. To serve an explicitly racist agenda - because 1% of women are raped and none of these men cared before.

Dollymylove · 16/04/2026 17:45

Robinbaby · 16/04/2026 17:11

Tom cats do, but obviously that’s beside the point.
My heart goes out to the victim and hope she getting as much help as she needs, obviously nothing will magically make it better.

Tom cats behave instinctively. The difference between them.and humans is that humans can stop themselves from doing it. Cats can't

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/04/2026 17:46

IamRedCrossnotJesus · 16/04/2026 17:41

Here's one from me if that helps. Are you in the UK?

I said the first page of Google results not the Ai version. What links to news articles does it give you?

Chocaholick · 16/04/2026 17:46

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Hereforthecommentz · 16/04/2026 17:49

JHound · 16/04/2026 16:37

Why blame government for the behaviour of those who cause people like PP to feel threatened? People have a choice for how they react in response to immigration levels and they alone are to blame for that choice.

No one wanted migration at these levels, millions over the last 20 years we weren't given a 'choice' . It is absolutely wrong that this ladies family have been questioned by strangers about their immigration status of course but don't pretend it's not the government's fault (Tony Blair specifically but successive governments did nothing to address the issue).

Manxexile · 16/04/2026 17:52

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 15:02

I am just trying to understand what makes Men of a Culture not rapey. Or what makes A Culture not rapey if it is mostly celebs, police officers, people abroad, etc.

I can't work out if you're posting in good faith or not.

It isn't a question of what "makes Men of a culture not rapey" or the rest you witter on about.

Given that men are the sex that commit rape and crimes of violence against women and girls (and boys it should be added) the real question is why should the UK government allow men - from cultures that specifically denigrate women and condone the abuse of women as acceptable - to be welcomed here as asylum seekers or illegal migrants without adequate background checks as to their history.

Reading what you write I think you would rank a white, British, middle-aged racist (male or female) as being of less value or being less "virtuous" than an asylum seeking non-white non-British rapist

[Edit - if British men go abroad they should conform to the accepted customs and laws of the country they are visiting - or have emigrated to - and if they commit sex or other crimes in that country then they should face whatever the prescribed punishments in those countries are. They should not get special treatment or have special excuses - just as male asylum seekers and illegal immigrants to the UK should not get special treatment or have special excuses in the UK.]

Hereforthecommentz · 16/04/2026 17:57

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 15:37

No, I seriously have restricted US work travel and seeing friends.

I also am asking for joined-up thinking regarding VAWG (MN stag do threads are excellent evidence of 'packs' of British men going after women). And regarding national complicity and accountability.

Vigilantism and prejudice are not British values.

Are you serious? Comparing US to Afghanistan?! Book a weeks holiday wearing shorts and t shirt to both and let's see where you feel most safe. 🤔

IamRedCrossnotJesus · 16/04/2026 17:58

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/04/2026 17:46

I said the first page of Google results not the Ai version. What links to news articles does it give you?

Would you answer my question first? Are you in the UK?

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/04/2026 17:59

Hereforthecommentz · 16/04/2026 17:49

No one wanted migration at these levels, millions over the last 20 years we weren't given a 'choice' . It is absolutely wrong that this ladies family have been questioned by strangers about their immigration status of course but don't pretend it's not the government's fault (Tony Blair specifically but successive governments did nothing to address the issue).

Actually we were given a choice. The public have actively voted against unfettered migration for years by voting for election pledges and the problem has worsened. The referendum is widely publicised to have been a protest vote against immigration and so we got more of it and no doubt Farage will also get in based on nonsense election pledges and nothing will change.

The electorate absolutely have an appetite to control migration but the politicians have failed to implement any policies that have teeth in that area.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/04/2026 18:00

IamRedCrossnotJesus · 16/04/2026 17:58

Would you answer my question first? Are you in the UK?

I don’t take instructions from randoms on the internet im afraid.

ThisIsTheAge · 16/04/2026 18:06

Hoardasurass · 16/04/2026 08:19

When serious attacks happen especially those which a certain demographic of men are more likely to commit and the police refuse to give a description then people just presume that its that demographic and unfortunately the presumptions often turn out to be correct which reinforces the assumption that they are protecting that group over the local population.

The real problem is we are allowing men from cultures that treat women worse than chattle to come on mass to the UK move them into unsuitable accommodation and they hang around schools harassing girls, hang around nightclubs waiting on drunk women and its not just lone men its gangs of them. And tge response to the behaviour of the men is to do nothing, and in Scotland school girls are being given rape alarms because of these men and their disgusting behaviour.

People are angry and if the government doesn't start removing these men from the UK asap there will be violent riots and vigilante attacks very soon

https://www.scottishdailyexpress.co.uk/news/scottish-news/rape-alarms-schoolgirls-must-wake-36986888

You know the vast majority of rapists in the UK are white? White men are perfectly capable of raping women in the country they were born in. The nonsense about black and brown people coming from cultures that treat women badly suggests all non British born black and brown men are liable to rape. If that's the case why aren't there actually MORE rapes by black and brown immigrants in the UK? There's literally hundreds of thousands of them so why are they not all committing rape?

Oh yeah. It's because men commit rape and their ethnicity is a red herring stirring up shit by racists.

IamRedCrossnotJesus · 16/04/2026 18:06

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/04/2026 18:00

I don’t take instructions from randoms on the internet im afraid.

Ha. You, a random on the internet, just gave me instructions.

Anyway reason I ask is

a) Google results might vary depending on the country you are googling from

b) you seem to think the capital city of Wales is in England.

Manxexile · 16/04/2026 18:12

LBFseBrom · 16/04/2026 15:08

I'm with you all the way, some of the posts on facebook (GB news), about this are horrible. Anyone would think white British people have never been rapists.
I even find myself hoping against hope that when the perpetrators are found, they are white British and that is horrible, I have to push that out of my mind altogether.

We don't know all the facts yet but it's possible the girl was followed from the nightclub by people who were also at the club. Possibly drugs were involved but this is all speculation.

I feel for the poor young woman and hope this case is soon sorted.

Why would you "hope" they are white British people?

Your "hope" sounds racist.

Chocaholick · 16/04/2026 18:13

ThisIsTheAge · 16/04/2026 18:06

You know the vast majority of rapists in the UK are white? White men are perfectly capable of raping women in the country they were born in. The nonsense about black and brown people coming from cultures that treat women badly suggests all non British born black and brown men are liable to rape. If that's the case why aren't there actually MORE rapes by black and brown immigrants in the UK? There's literally hundreds of thousands of them so why are they not all committing rape?

Oh yeah. It's because men commit rape and their ethnicity is a red herring stirring up shit by racists.

Because the vast majority of men here are white.

Ethnicity is probably a red herring (in that a black or brown British man may be less likely to rape than a black or brown man from a more misogynistic country), but culture isn’t. Otherwise why are some countries far more misogynistic than others? Who is doing the oppressing, if not the men from those places?

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 16/04/2026 18:14

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How far back do you want to go with that? Grandparents, great grandparents, great great grandparents? How long does somebody's family need to have been living in the UK?

And given he'd have had major issues whatever country he grew up in, what you're really saying is that it's worse that it was British children.