Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

[Tomcdonaldaornot]

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

😂 Nooooo imagine the fall out! Funny for us less so for OP!

Ha I highly doubt that.

The only thing I can think of, as to why I'd be annoyed if I were him, woudl be if you'd both agreed to have a healthy lunch together, say if you'd got a lovely spicy chicken salad box in the fridge, and he was looking forward to enjoying that as a family, and didn;t want to scoff junk instead? Some people have medical reasons not to eat junk, but I'd guess you'd know if your husband did.

You are working really hard to excuse shitty male behaviour here. You have literally made up an entire story as to why his poor behaviour might be excused.

Exactly.

He is a perfect example of abusive scum.
He chose the behaviour.

Now OP can reflect calmly on the consequences.

Because he has shown her EXACTLY who he is and what her future looks like and that of her child.

A sliding door moment.

He escalated and now he needs to face what that looks like.

If she was my daughter I would be telling her to think very carefully about what she is prepared to tolerate in a relationship.

Good men, husbands and fathers, do not behave like this.

She married down, big time.

Next it'll be, 'ooh maybe he was planning to surprise you with a beautiful eternity ring that he's had placed in a fortune cookie and was going to surprise you with it in a peking duck meal he'd pre-ordered from your favourite Chinese restaurant and would be there in an hour and you ruined it ...'

The ONLY thing?! Where is your imagination? While you’re writing your novel, consider the option that he was abducted by aliens and they have replaced him with a simulacrum but this one doesn’t quite know how to behave because the programming was taken from the wrong intercepted human movie.

@Pistachiocake

in that scenario he could eat the lovely chicken salad himself couldn’t he. Marriage doesn’t mean being joined at the hip and eating every single meal together for the rest of your lives. Or do you think it does mean that?

Are you both still in your teens? Surely you wouldn't be writing this as an adult woman.

@southerngirl10

why wouldn’t she?

what has she done wrong exactly?

Are you a 10 year old southern girl? Surely you wouldn't be writing this as an adult woman.

Gosh, he's an absolute wet wipe isn't he? Angrily eating baby pastries because he's sulking about a 'pity McDonalds'. And then sleeping on the sofa because he's too tight to flounce to a hotel.

OP, if you have sex with this man again I don't think your vagina will ever forgive you.

This is true. The gluttonous and selfish way he ate ten pastries all at once. What is his weight like, OP? @Tomcdonaldaornot

I would say DH is behaving more like a child than a teen…OP has done nothing wrong and people can start threads about anything they want.

You don’t have to engage if you find it all so juvenile.

Oh my god what an absolute prick. I find it hard to believe this is the very first time he's ever behaved like this. What an absolute child. And the gaslighting. Fuck that.

Yes, anyone can post what they like, like I'm doing right now. The point I was trying to make was that it's such a trivial thing to be arguing about. OP's partner's reaction is like a baby. Tell him he's a child and buy the food and eat it - end of. Not worth making such a meal out of it.

Did you read any of the OPs updates though?

I sincerely hope he has reflected on how badly he has behaved and has unreservedly apologised for his behaviour, and is making you dinner tonight.

If you back down now he will think he can treat you badly whenever he likes. Stay strong

I notice this a lot of MN. When a man is behaving like a child, some people they have to equalise it by calling the woman a child too.

Can you explain which part of OP’s behaviour is childish?

Good grief, that sounds joyless.

Agree, it sounds absolutely rigid and the kind of set up that causes grown men to tantrum when someone isn't making their dinner as they expect.

Don't tell him next time just go and stuff your face i would ..
You deserve it with a baby its full on.

If it helps, in a similar type of situation when I had my first baby, my husband’ ( who I think is pretty normal) said something along the lines of ‘I’m so sorry I’ve been so busy at work that I can’t give you a hand. You must be shattered. Yes a drive’s a good idea to see if the wee so sand so will sleep. Why don’t you make a trip of it and treat yourself to a takeaway while out…. “

How odd , my 18 month old fell asleep and I had a peaceful McDonald's on Monday. I didn't even think to mention it. Maybe bring him back a salad 🤣