Misophonia - what are your triggers?

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My major one currently is people within earshot eating snacks out of a packet e.g. crisps, cookies, and making that bloody crinkling noise. Makes me want to put my fist through the wall. What are your main triggers?

Oh yes good point, this is the bathroom extractor fan for me too sometimes!

Yes to nail clippers! I hate it! Makes me feel sick

Hiccups is my worst trigger. I cannot bear listening to them and have to excuse myself if someone starts. When the DC were little I put up with it but now they're older I just go away.

I'm not too bad with food sounds but can't stand it when knives and forks get tangled together and you seperate them. The noise goes right though me. When we got a dishwasher I insisted it had to be one with a cutlery drawer rather than a basket.

And a very specific noise the budgie makes. I love his little songs but there's one sound he makes that goes right through me and if he keeps doing it I have to leave the room!

People eating carrots and apples, chewing noises and people scrapping cutlery on metal dishes or containers.

The sound of kissing on radio plays 🤢
The dry mouth clicking sound when people speak.
Anyone chewing anything
The dog licking or chewing its paws.
Bizzarly, the horse chewing doesn’t bother me at all.

My husband hooking loogies in the toilet. Sometimes I could divorce him over it.my daughter can't tolerate her brother or dad eating near her, my 7 year old son the same but more extreme and has to eat alone

As a teenager I had a best friend who almost gave me panic attacks with her nail biting. I could have killed her at times

Slamming doors. Can't bear it.

And doors thst have been left open when there's a breeze and they do that bump bump bump thing. Drives me up the wall.

For me it's an overwhelming feeling of stress/panic and needing to get away from the noise rather than rage. But it does make me irritable and I get physical symptoms like the racing heart and shakiness. Like you even reading these has made me have a lower level reaction.

Men with really deep voices. There's one on great British menu this week, Ben Whitehead? I can't bear it

People chewing while on the phone to me - bloody hell, can't stand that. People chewing and making small noises. Just SHUT UP and eat quietly.

Vocal fry. Seriously, wtf is that. Awful. I feel if I had an option of strangling a person rasping her reply to me as if they are about to die from dehydration I would be a very happy person.

Absolutely the doors tapping thing. Close it or wedge it open.
Also curtains and blinds even slightly fluttering or bumping when the window is open. It completely mystifies me how people sleep with the window open for this reason. Even during the hottest of summers I sleep with it shut. It’s not even an option.

Generally the sound of chewing or wet mouth noises, including people talking when you can hear their saliva.

But the absolute worst is apples, pears, carrots etc, it’s the crunch and slurp, even talking about it makes my skin crawl. When dh starts to eat one I just can’t cope being anywhere near or I have to put headphones on or my fingers in my ears. For me it is pure torture, I’d rather suffer physical pain.

Dh does not understand or sympathise at all and just gets cross if I say anything or react so I have to try and hide any reaction which makes it harder.

Agree with the unexpected loud noises. Deafening gigs? Fine. Music blasting in my car? No problem. Present me with one of those obnoxious noisy exhausts some people add to their cars on purpose, a passing motorcycle or a loud bang out of nowhere? Makes me want to commit murder.

The dog slurping when he washes
sniffing
Kids kicking a ball (endlessly!) against a wall (gets me so enraged I just want to either take the ball away from them, or stab it with a knife!)
revving cars and that banging/boom noise from exhausts - I could literally punch the offenders who do this

Eating and snoring are the main ones for me - I’m ok with the cutlery noises (within reason) but feel homicidal listening to people chew. My MIL has a weird clicking/ clacking jaw sound when she eats that I find intolerable - I have to make constant conversation to drown it out 😆 it sounds so fucking deafening to me yet nobody else seems remotely bothered.

DH also has a loud chewing / swallowing noise - his manners are fine, always closed mouth etc but the normal eating noises sound crazily magnified. Applies to all food but the absolute worst is ice creams like magnums with a crunchy outside which sounds like he’s eating rocks and then the licking/ slurping of the ice cream combined. I literally can’t bear it and he had a run of eating them last summer!

Snoring is prob the worst - obviously loud/ proper snoring is bad but the slightest noise of breathing/ whistling is enough to drive me mad. DH also makes a weird clicking/ grinding sound every now and then which is the cherry on top. I often boot him into the spare room as I get so angry that I can’t relax enough to sleep. I literally can’t tune it out even with earplugs.

weirdly, the dog licking, cleaning, slurping etc doesn’t bother me!?

We play music - I just say, ‘Alexa, play some tunes’. It doesn’t need to be loud, but it tricks my brain into not noticing knife scraping, chewing, and anything else going on. I normally find it difficult to cope with people eating (esp. Crunchy things like crisps and apples), people opening sweet wrappers behind me, bags rustling, ASMR, everything about people eating cereal, chairs scraping on a floor, phones that keep dinging with notifications, and people having phone conversations where the other person is on loudspeaker and you can hear their tinny voices. Ant tapping and knee jiggling (sewing machine leg).

Chewing with mouth open.
Talking with food in mouth.
Slurping drinks.
Sniffling.
People saying words like 'button' with a glottal.stop ('bu-on'). Not the pronunciation you hear in genuine glottal stop.accents, but a contrived glottal.stop that I've come across in some American content on Instagram. I live in the US and it's very new and very much sets my teeth on edge.
Vocal fry and Valley Girl inflection.
Random foot tapping by people whose legs are constantly in motion (restless leg?)
And SNORING.

Yes, my mum eats almonds and I swear there’s something about her head that makes it intolerable. It sounds like she’s chewing rocks. She’s a tiny person and it’s like there isn’t enough of a buffer between the inside and outside of her head or something? DH eating nuts doesn’t bother me at all. I feel terrible about that, it feels very personal! But luckily she’s very understanding.

And noisy crunchers, i have to just move away 😱😱😱😱😱

That weird fuzzy background noise from people who have poor quality headphones and have their music turned right up - its a bit like hearing a bluebottle trapped in a jamjar. I have to move away

Yes, the foot tapping is really annoying, what is it about anyway? But also people who talk really fast into their phone, on and on and on without a break, I've been stuck on buses near people - usually women i hate to say-who can't seem to even pause for a second, just yabba yabba yabba for what seems like eternity - i use earplugs on public transport these days, i just can't bear the noise pollution.

People tapping things. And people eating chewing gum noisily.

My OH eating. He cuts huge chunks of cucumber instead of nice thin pieces. His mum was the same. Cannot bear anyone eating apples. Crunchy food.

My people!
My family tries to drive me absolutely nuts. DH has allergies and spends his day sniffing. He finally booked a doc appointment for immunotherapy as I promised to murder him in his sleep.
DC1 chews with his mouth open like a cow. Smack smack gulp.

And I can't even escape the noise in the office, as the woman at next desk insist on eating breakfast at said desk. Granola or corn flakes.

My specific trigger is shitty headphones. Yes at least they are using headphones so you don't hear their music, but with shitty ones, you can still hear a faint tsk tsk tsk ooomph