Misophonia - what are your triggers?

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My major one currently is people within earshot eating snacks out of a packet e.g. crisps, cookies, and making that bloody crinkling noise. Makes me want to put my fist through the wall. What are your main triggers?

Other people’s music. At beaches. Neighbours. From a passing car. Makes me murderous.

Eating, especially my husband clinking a spoon on his teeth when eating and his jaw clicking- we have to have the radio on at mealtimes as I can’t cope

sniffing, coughing and throat clearing

tapping and banging

any sort of buzzing or alarm

people sitting outside my house with the engine running or the radio loud

people who talk too loud or have their music blaring that I can still hear it through their headphones

when bottle flipping was a trend I got the rage!

just basically everything. I have got Loop earplugs recently but they don’t help much

I hate it. My brother has it and also my daughter

Oh ASMR that is ridiculous just why ? It isn't soothing or relaxing it is stupid and irritating, it sets me on edge.

Oh clacky is the perfect word for it. It absolutely makes me want to vomit.

When people stuff loads of food into their mouth at once and you can hear it all sloshing in around in their mouths which seems to take FOREVER!!Can you tell this gives me the absolute rage?

Pretty much everything that has already been mentioned. Top ones are: Gum chewing/smacking lips, slow crunching, and tuneless humming or out of pitch singing.

Edited to add another one: Scraping cutlery especially spoons against the side of plates for example scraping up the last bit of yoghurt. And just continuing to scrape even though there is clearly nothing left. Someone did this in the tea room the other day.

All food and food wrapper noises – it doesn’t have to be obnoxious ones.

I used to sit opposite a lady at work. She was a very delicate person, and certainly not a sloppy eater. She had impeccable manners, but I could still hear a very faint sound when she was chewing (with her mouth shut) and I had to walk away every time. It made me absolutely detest an otherwise lovely person.

The way my father in law scrapes the bottom of his bowel like he’s digging for fucking Australia.

Some other non-food related;

People clearing their throat constantly.
Clicky noises – my DH has a really loud mouse for his laptop and the clicking enrages me
Two people talking at once – often DS and DH. I literally can not cope with the sound and can’t focus in on either one
The heavy breathing/light snoring people do when they’re dropping off to sleep
The sound of saliva in someone’s mouth when they talk (that Dr who is often on Radio 2 is terrible for it)
Vocal Fry
Unexpected loud noises - e.g when DH stamps on a can before he puts it in the recycling tub, or when a dog starts barking. Loud music on the other hand would be fine.

I could probably add to this list endlessly.

What I’d be interested to know if people who have misophonia all have other sensory related phobias. I also have trypophobia, which other people seem to think is hilarious and it absolutely is not. I wonder if they kind of go hand in hand?

Phones on loudspeaker without headphones

This. It should be illegal, and it should be permissible to grab their fucking phones, hurl them to the ground and stamp on them (the phones, not the people; I'm grumpy and irritable, but not violent).

I'd also like there to be a legal maximum for in-car sound systems. Hearing booming bass from passing cars gives me the rage, and from parked cars even more so. There's a lad along my road who's recently passed his test and likes to sit in his car for ages with loud music playing. It's so loud I can hear it over the tv or radio, and that's with the (double glazed) windows shut. It's going to be intolerable with the windows open when the weather gets warmer.

I also get pretty pissed off with my neighbour running her washing machine at 5am. Her water tanks are on the other side of the party wall, so about 3' from my head and it's like trying to sleep under Niagara Falls.

I wish it was affordable (and practical) to live in the middle of a 5 acre plot with no near neighbours.

Those fireworks that make a sizzling noise.

People walking/dragging their feet on sandy/gritty floors.

Knuckle cracking and that thing DD does when she stretches her neck until it cracks 🔪
Whistling is my main one

How do you eat with your family at the dinner table? Do you have strategies you use? I ask because DS has misophonia, and what works is distraction through conversation. When he is stressed, dinner-time is a huge trigger and he needs to eat by himself. We want to eat together as a family, not every meal, but we aim for one a day. Any other tips?

At restaurants or at school, there is enough back-ground noise and distraction.

After reading this I can now add vocal fry to my list.

TV being loud.
Noisy eating
Deep breathing/snoring.

Annoying and/or loud noises that piss EVERYONE off isn't misophonia

Does your son want to eat as a family?

“My DH can make the dog jump biting into an apple” That made me lol 😹 My grandfather was like that (and his son is the same).
My DH has good table manners and is quiet and polite when he eats but does a little flick with his fork which makes a ‘zhing!!’ against his teeth that possibly only I notice. It makes me feel crazed.

Any toilet noises. I hate house guests for this reason.
Gulpy swallowing of drinks.
Grindy jaws when eating.
Tinny headphones on a train.

Its like a whip cracking !

Omg nooooo no cutlery on teeth noises !

For me it is just conversation and radio, but I do make mealtimes as short as possible. I will often get up and start washing up in the same room as the others eating so I can still join in. I’m not too bad if I’m eating at the same time but if I’ve finished then listening to others is unbearable. When I’m really stressed or tired I will eat alone, which is ok at the moment as we don’t always eat with the kids anyway as they are still very young so like to eat very early.

Chewing gum is the absolute worst of the worst, but any sort of repetitive sound is very irritating.

People who lick their fingers when turning a page. Why??

Agree with a lot of the food ones. And dogs licking. Another one for me, that I don’t think was mentioned, is the cooker exhaust fan. When it has been running for a while I will realise I’m completely tense and seconds from losing my temper.

As a PP has said, we're talking about coping with an uncontrollable overwhelming all-consuming rage (racing heart, shaking hands, massive damage to personal relationships, struggling with public transport, panic if caught out in public without earplugs/headphones, etc etc.) Wincing at a noisy eater really isn't the same as the (objectively inexplicable) reactions most PPs have to live with. I've found it quite hard to even read the lists of intolerable sounds. Glad "music" has made an appearance as a trigger 😫. I'll just add 'corks coming out of wine bottles' ...

Sniffing..feel ill just writing the word

Tapping plastic nails 😡