10 month old DH said i am being lazy.

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When DD (10months) wakes, I change her and then give her milk. I then pop her in her playpen where she happily plays with toys. I then make a coffee and watch some TV - play pen is infront of TV (well TV in on wall, playpen is infront of couch). I sometimes just watch her and occassional look up at TV sometimes I will watch the TV. I enjoy having my morning coffee and she is happy playing. After 30mins / 1hr or so I then take her through to kitchen where I give her actual breakfast, porridge, yoghurt, etc.
DH wfh and when walking past livingroom popped head in to say hi. He looks shocked thst I had a coffee and was lying on sofa watching TV. He asked was mummy having a day off and that the play pen isnt for me watching TV and that im being lazy. I was so annoyed. Is he right?

Independent play is very important

Be surprised then
I've ny tv on all day as I need the back ground noise
Away and clutch pearls
Evening treat ?
Cop on

Delicious response to a sanctimonious, judgemental person

Does he want a wife or cinderella?

I'd say it's ok for an hour when you wake up, especially if she's not complaining. But what happens after breakfast? Does she go back in?

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Depends. Sometimes we get ready and go out. Sometimes she might go back in but I go in too and we play, sing, read. Sometimes we might go play I'm nursery, take dog out. Just depends. But yes she does go in play pen a few times a day....

I'm kind of glad you have absorbed that Op because it actually tends to be the people who know least who are full of the theory.

Those at the coal face know it's messy and a case of trial and error.

Apparently Gina Ford who wrote those "guides to perfect mothering" or whatever they were called (Contended Little Baby, I think) had never had her own baby, and the reality of sleep deprivation and mastitis etc is a whole different story from an opinion on what to do with someone else's when you are wearing a starched apron and your undercarriage is wholly intact. That isn't to rubbish her ideas - I'm sure there is lots in it - but just to say there is a gap between theory and reality, and mother's instincts are useful too.

It's commendable that your DH has read books and seems to really want to do the best for your baby, but he needs to dial it down.

I think the people that agree with DH are the ones that don't really agree with the TV. There is obviously nothing wrong with have a coffee break. The tv thing I wouldn't do, but I don't think it's a problem, really. I just don't really like TV in the day, more of an evening thing like someone else has said. If you're happy with what you're doing then keep doing it, there will soon be no hour break in the morning, trust me!

I agree.
It's the play pen I don't like. I never used one and neither did my daughter for her children.
They are much too restraining for a baby, why can't she explore her environment?
Having coffee and a bit of time to yourself in the morning is fine but why is the baby confined in a play pen for so long?
From your explanation of the day it doesn't sound as though she has much time to play outside the playpen.

When u think playpen what do you imagine? Size wise, what's in it etc?

I agree.

And actually lots of children are now growing up unable to do it IMO.

Playing with toys in a playpen is perfectly ok when mixed with other activities - a walk to the park, a few stories on Mum's lap, bath-time with water toys, a nice crawl about when supervised. These are perfectly normal baby activities.

I personally don't like tv or radio noise going on incessantly in a house, and think babies do benefit from a generally quiet atmosphere, but it's only one hour that OP is doing it. There are lots of other hours in the day.

@EndlessTreadmill

Don't worry - obviously us who dare to back the husband or share a different point of view are sanctimonious cows, whatever the first word means. (English is not my first language).

Shock horror - I am also child free! 😂

Actually, if OP is having a hot drink, I think the baby is safest in the playpen.

OP, HOW DARE YOU HAVE A MORNING COFFEE!!!! 🤣

Maybe it's the lying supine that annoyed your DH. Generally, spouses don't like to see each other relaxing, unless it's at the end of a long day!

But not if it is always restrained in a play pen.

If youre child free then you have no opinion here. Why comment on something you have absolutely no experience with? Make it make sense. Oh a post about a 10month old baby, better comment. Erm no. Just stupid.

I think people are picturing a small playpen (like the collapsible ones, slightly bigger than a travel cot) whereas the fact you mentioned taking pieces out and that it's quite large I assume what you actually have are those big plastic fences? So really she is just on the floor playing and can't touch hazards as opposed to being lock away in a play pen

This is rage bait at this point
All u people saying about her being restricted, trapped, etc do u all imagine this?????

There are some really horrible judgemental posts on here. Talk about giving the OP a kicking. You have the perfect lives do you? Grow up and get a life.

I think I'd agree with this. I didn't vote because while I think the OP is allowed a break, and that her DH sounds like an absolute waste of space and a shite father, I wouldn't be a fan of watching TV for an hour with a child around awake. I 100% watched tv while my baby contact napped but I'm not a huge fan of the TV on even if it's not aimed at the baby. I have no idea why DH can't get up and allow the OP some time to chill alone after a rough night though.

Shock horror - I am also child free! 😂

We'd never have guessed ... 🙄

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This is the playpen!! Minus the balls. Although she has some balls but a handful of different sizes and textures. So basically you walk in livingroom playpen is rightn front of you the theres room for a small table behind then the sofa. We have moved the small table as it felt claustrophobic.

Its wild giving your opinion on something child related when you have no children.

I also chose to sit in playpen as there is more room in there than the actual lviingroom at this point!