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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

I really don't care about your baby.

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50nifty · 09/04/2026 16:47

I'm in a taproom with a friend.

A couple arrived with their 32 day old baby. And 2 flights of beer.

They're talking very loudly about how baby is/isn't. They've already pulled 2 other tables into the conversation about their baby and feeding/sleeping/clothing/nappies.

My babies are adults. Friends babies are adults.

I know I wasn't this insufferable when mine were little. Friend says she wasn't either.

We both know we didn't go out drinking when baby was 32 days old.

Babies are really precious creatures. But only to their parents/family. Most people don't want to get drawn into a conversation about a strangers baby.

In essence, stop talking so loudly about your baby. The rest of us really don't care.

AIBU?

OP posts:
GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 10/04/2026 21:23

50nifty · 10/04/2026 19:58

They were the words the parents themselves used.

Repeatedly.

Just for that I think they’re insufferable!

I was recently on a flight with parents like this, with their offspring. Surrounded by middle class, millennial parents (sorry!) of babies and toddlers we were: I know I shouldn’t generalise, but they all seemed like they would definitely frequent tap rooms! Thought we all needed to hear about baby Spam and little Zebra or whatever they were called, and were delighted by the aisle based antics. I’m fairly sure there actually was a Leaf.

My teens were happily watching films and I wanted a kip but couldn’t because little Glockenspiel was kicking my seat throughout… on top
of all the noise.

Generally speaking, people should keep their conversations to themselves. Whether it’s the office gossip, your baby, what your husband has done wrong or your plans for your next novel. I’m not interested in!

Noodles1234 · 11/04/2026 17:06

I am with you, but I kind of feel like if you’re in a toddler play area it’s fine or you're in the wrong place.
Leave adults to have adult time, some adults there might be avoiding child areas for various reasons. I know a couple whose IVF failed and they went to a pub only to find a family turn up next to them and the kids ran around / babies crying and adults shouting at kids. They went there to avoid children, yes kids can be lower in pubs but really is that the right venue? I’d have taken mine to a soft play.

If you are in a bar / tap room / pub / any adult space inc restaurants etc then you are in the right. It’s not the space for it, I do wonder why people take children to pubs and then promptly ignore children running amok while adults get drunk.

Choose your venues appropriately.

converseandjeans · 11/04/2026 18:43

I think some places should be free of babies & toddlers & a taproom would be somewhere I would hope to go to drink & avoid babies & toddlers. Surely there are places more suited - plenty of child friendly restaurants & cafes. If I go to pizza express I might expect to see some babies & toddlers. It might be generational as when mine were little we would not have gone somewhere like that (& mine didn’t cry much or make much fuss but it’s all the faffing about you need to do).

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