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AIBU?

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I really don't care about your baby.

153 replies

50nifty · 09/04/2026 16:47

I'm in a taproom with a friend.

A couple arrived with their 32 day old baby. And 2 flights of beer.

They're talking very loudly about how baby is/isn't. They've already pulled 2 other tables into the conversation about their baby and feeding/sleeping/clothing/nappies.

My babies are adults. Friends babies are adults.

I know I wasn't this insufferable when mine were little. Friend says she wasn't either.

We both know we didn't go out drinking when baby was 32 days old.

Babies are really precious creatures. But only to their parents/family. Most people don't want to get drawn into a conversation about a strangers baby.

In essence, stop talking so loudly about your baby. The rest of us really don't care.

AIBU?

OP posts:
strugglingwithlife · 09/04/2026 16:59

Why are you bothered? Leave if it's annoying you that much

MyMilchick · 09/04/2026 17:01

MarxistMags · 09/04/2026 16:59

I know my maths is bad but Have I gone mad, or is 3 x 1/3 of beer not 1 pint. ? 😜

they're 3 separate drinks though, she posted a picture

ThatJadeLion · 09/04/2026 17:01

Not another rage baiting anti baby / child thread!!! They are replacing the long run of dog hating threads. What is wrong with people!! Your babies are grown up, people 'suffered' when you did the same, it's just that you have forgotten.

therewasafishinthepercolator · 09/04/2026 17:04

Why wouldn't you just have a halfpint or a pint? Are they not perfectly accepted measures of beer? I don't care about the baby. I want to know about this flight business.

AgentPidge · 09/04/2026 17:04

newornotnew · 09/04/2026 16:54

I don't think talking about a baby is inherently more boring than talking about sport/work/music/gardening/holidays, people can go on about anything!

Or illnesses. They're the worst. I'd rather hear about gardening or holidays (or even sport!) than people's neighbour's/sister's sprained shoulders.

INX · 09/04/2026 17:05

Your poor friend.

She's got all that going on and you with your nose in your phone.

She'd be better off sitting with the couple and their baby 🤣

MyMilchick · 09/04/2026 17:06

therewasafishinthepercolator · 09/04/2026 17:04

Why wouldn't you just have a halfpint or a pint? Are they not perfectly accepted measures of beer? I don't care about the baby. I want to know about this flight business.

Looks like from the picture she posted that it's a way to drink 1 pint but sampling three different types of craft beer

Fends · 09/04/2026 17:07

therewasafishinthepercolator · 09/04/2026 17:04

Why wouldn't you just have a halfpint or a pint? Are they not perfectly accepted measures of beer? I don't care about the baby. I want to know about this flight business.

So you can try 3 different ales. Obviously.

Why wouldn’t you just have one main meal instead of 3 tapas?

Monty36 · 09/04/2026 17:10

Loud conversations for other peoples benefit regardless of topic are really tedious.
YANBU.
And it is selfish too. People go to places for all manner of reasons. The last thing needed is some overbearing loud voices intruding in uninvited.
I think I would leave in your situation. They are not going to stop.
It is attention seeking ‘oh look at me everyone’ and ‘aren’t we interesting’.

Zanatdy · 09/04/2026 17:11

My 3 are all adults now but I adore babies and would happily coo over one. Took my 18yr old
DD to a hospital appt this afternoon and a nurse was wheeling a newborn out in one of those plastic cots on wheels, whilst mum was walking along in her PJ’s carrying the car seat and my (now very old) ovaries were screaming out! I wouldn’t want a baby, but I love holding them and reminiscing about those days.

BreatheAndFocus · 09/04/2026 17:12

YABU. When you go out, you’re surrounded by other people. I bet many of them would find your conversation boring or annoying. You don’t have to listen. Just get on with your own chat. Enthusing about a new baby is way more acceptable than enthusing about boring football, your new power drill, some crap TV programme like I’m A Celebrity, or detailing your haemorrhoid issues and appearance.

Drink more - you sound miserable 🍻

JohnTheRevelator · 09/04/2026 17:12

MyMilchick · 09/04/2026 16:49

what's a taproom? And what is two flights of beer?

Was just going to ask the same question! Are you in the UK?

SomeTameGazelles · 09/04/2026 17:12

Maybe you should do your drinking at home, OP. That way other people sharing a bar with you won’t talk audibly about stuff you find boring.

OttersOnAPlane · 09/04/2026 17:13

therewasafishinthepercolator · 09/04/2026 17:04

Why wouldn't you just have a halfpint or a pint? Are they not perfectly accepted measures of beer? I don't care about the baby. I want to know about this flight business.

It's so you can sample loads of different types without getting hammered.

Like a wine tasting but for beer.

BakedAl · 09/04/2026 17:15

I drank a flight yesterday. You get to try more beers that way. I took my baby into a pub when less then a week old but didn't video call anyone or talk about him

VickyEadieofThigh · 09/04/2026 17:15

OttersOnAPlane · 09/04/2026 17:13

It's so you can sample loads of different types without getting hammered.

Like a wine tasting but for beer.

I once did a martini flight. Absolutely hammered, though there were 5 different martinis, within 40 minutes.

OttersOnAPlane · 09/04/2026 17:15

newornotnew · 09/04/2026 16:54

I don't think talking about a baby is inherently more boring than talking about sport/work/music/gardening/holidays, people can go on about anything!

Agreed. People wang on about any old thing and it's boring for those not involved.

I couldn't care less how your team is doing in whatever sport they play, who should be transferred and why the manager should be sacked. But I hear a hell of a lot of it at the pub.

I'd rather look at a baby. Babies are great.

OttersOnAPlane · 09/04/2026 17:16

VickyEadieofThigh · 09/04/2026 17:15

I once did a martini flight. Absolutely hammered, though there were 5 different martinis, within 40 minutes.

I did a coffee flight and had palpitations all day. Should have stuck to the booze.

Kokonimater · 09/04/2026 17:16

Oh dear. If this is only thing you have to be annoyed about you have a blessed life.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 09/04/2026 17:17

I think its lovely that a couple are stupidly besotted with their baby. They've been parents for 30 days. Let them have their few mins of glory.

JohnTheRevelator · 09/04/2026 17:18

People with babies and small children think that everyone absolutely adores their little darling. I've got nothing against children,got a grown up one and a grown up DGD of my own but I really am not interested in anyone else's. When I'm on a bus and the child in front keeps standing up and looking over the back of the seat at me trying to get some response,I just keep looking at my phone. I can see that the parent is mystified by the fact that someone is not cooing over their darling offspring.

Creamyes · 09/04/2026 17:20

God help you.
We never brought our children near a pub and I cannot stand children in pubs.
I would be leaving as I couldn't bear to be around that.

Monty36 · 09/04/2026 17:20

The critical point I took from the OP’s post was that they were talking really loudly. And that was the issue.

Cablescablescables · 09/04/2026 17:23

Och they’re just enthralled by their wee baby, quite right too. I think with a 32 day old they can be forgiven for not having perfect social graces and getting a bit carried away!

Orchardly · 09/04/2026 17:23

Tillow4ever · 09/04/2026 16:54

I bet you were both more insufferable than you remember. I don’t think I know a single person who didn’t go on about their baby a bit too much. I was always happy to hear it though, even a strangers baby.

If the other tables didn’t want to know, they’d have made an excuse or not joined them.

I too wouldn’t have been drinking at that stage BUT you don’t know what’s going on with them, so they may have a reason.

Is there really any reason to go out drinking with a month old baby, unless you’re Katie Price?

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