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AIBU?

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Original poster

I really don't care about your baby.

153 replies

50nifty · 09/04/2026 16:47

I'm in a taproom with a friend.

A couple arrived with their 32 day old baby. And 2 flights of beer.

They're talking very loudly about how baby is/isn't. They've already pulled 2 other tables into the conversation about their baby and feeding/sleeping/clothing/nappies.

My babies are adults. Friends babies are adults.

I know I wasn't this insufferable when mine were little. Friend says she wasn't either.

We both know we didn't go out drinking when baby was 32 days old.

Babies are really precious creatures. But only to their parents/family. Most people don't want to get drawn into a conversation about a strangers baby.

In essence, stop talking so loudly about your baby. The rest of us really don't care.

AIBU?

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Ved · 09/04/2026 21:53

Happytap · 09/04/2026 19:23

How miserable can you be? God forbid parents are in love with their new baby. No wonder parents feel so isolated and rates of PND soar when other people have this attitude to leaving the house with a baby.

In other countries babies are loved on and adored by the 'village' and here we have teachers no less moaning and ruining their own day because a couple with a new baby are out and about with her and gasp talking about her! Their whole life has changed beyond measure in a few weeks, of course they want to talk about it.

If you manage to be this miserable in the school hols whilst drinking I can't imagine how miserable you are the rest of the time. Maybe focus on yourself a bit more.

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There is a bit of startling irony in the OP and her mate being so annoyed with children, and having such disdain for them, when they're teachers who look after and teach CHILDREN.

YABU @50nifty And there's nothing wrong with people taking babies to somewhere like this.

Babyboomtastic · 09/04/2026 22:03

Dontlletmedownbruce · 09/04/2026 21:08

Or possibly, we've been through such a tough couple of weeks with a difficult baby who has finally settled and we are marking the occasion. We've made it through the most difficult part of parenting unscathed. 😂 bless them

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Most difficult bit of parenting 😂😂😂.
I mean it might feel like that at 32 days, but no. They've barely finished the first 100m of a marathon.

ThatShyMoose · 09/04/2026 22:05

My brain keeps reading taproom as tampon or tapeworm. Neither is appealing.

Why aren't the couple allowed to talk about their baby? You aren't with them? Shouldn't you be talking to your own friend? Or move further away?

Ved · 09/04/2026 22:06

Babyboomtastic · 09/04/2026 22:03

Most difficult bit of parenting 😂😂😂.
I mean it might feel like that at 32 days, but no. They've barely finished the first 100m of a marathon.

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Agreed. The first 32 days is only the beginning! Wait til senior school/teen years!!! 😬💀 (And the terrible twos also...)

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SleepyHollowed84 · 09/04/2026 22:08

Do you think because you're a teacher you just don't want to hear about children in the precious holidays?

(what are you doing by the way, get back to marking!!!)

joke

Three4 · 09/04/2026 22:15

I already said this kind of performative stuff is annoying, especially if you have other stuff going on yourself, but at least the child is loved and doted on, it’s better than millions of children get so🤷‍♀️

2021x · 09/04/2026 22:26

I have a lovely friend. Just had her first very longed-for baby. When I am with her I coo and cuddle the baby and he is very sweet.

For my birthday she gave me a card with a printed photo of the baby with a speech bubble saying "Happy Birthday".

I look forward to the day I can tease her about it :)

Ved · 09/04/2026 22:30

50nifty · 09/04/2026 21:18

I don't think wacky warehouse still exists, thank the lord.

That was a special sort of hell I'd never want to repeat.

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What's wrong with Wacky Warehouse?

Original poster
50nifty · 09/04/2026 22:53

What's right with Wacky Warehouse?

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Babyboomtastic · 10/04/2026 00:10

Ved · 09/04/2026 22:06

Agreed. The first 32 days is only the beginning! Wait til senior school/teen years!!! 😬💀 (And the terrible twos also...)

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Yep, the parents may as well enjoy their last bit of freedom before a mobile, talkative whirlwind of destruction emerges from their tiny baby. Enjoy the pub times while they last. Flights of beer will be replaced by jugs of weak squash at soft play soon enough.

Pebblesonthebleach · 10/04/2026 00:16

It’s a pub. It’s par for the course that there’ll be loudmouthed people talking about stuff
you're not interested in.

Orchardly · 10/04/2026 08:53

CampanulaMila · 09/04/2026 17:29

Going out for a drink or two is not the same as being an alcoholic. Get a grip.

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Sorry, Katie.

Hoppity80 · 10/04/2026 09:21

I thought this was Mumsnet - not miserable parents of grown up kids-net!
I am not a big drinker but I am sure I had a glass of wine or a pint when my baby was a month old in a pub. Stop trying to make it sound like they are drinking loads!

Sharptonguedwoman · 10/04/2026 09:24

MyMilchick · 09/04/2026 16:49

what's a taproom? And what is two flights of beer?

A taproom is a bar in a pub.

SomeTameGazelles · 10/04/2026 10:00

Hoppity80 · 10/04/2026 09:21

I thought this was Mumsnet - not miserable parents of grown up kids-net!
I am not a big drinker but I am sure I had a glass of wine or a pint when my baby was a month old in a pub. Stop trying to make it sound like they are drinking loads!

This is Mn, home of the misanthropic.

Bowies · 10/04/2026 19:03

They are just enjoying their baby you don’t have to focus on them.

It’s normal to be a bit excited.

I’d be concerned if they stayed and carried on drinking, otherwise wouldn’t care.

SparklyLeader · 10/04/2026 19:07

I promise you, you absolutely were that annoying when yours were little, you just didn't comprehend the signals at the time and now your memory is washing it. Just wait until you are older and memory whitewashes and then rewrites a lot of annoying habits, mistakes, and unpleasant conversations.

TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 10/04/2026 19:15

I love talking about babies, I realise not everyone does though so I tried not to bore people when mine were small.

Hephzibah64 · 10/04/2026 19:26

Why is everyone saying a 32 day old baby? It’s a month old surely or 4 weeks?

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/04/2026 19:33

Hephzibah64 · 10/04/2026 19:26

Why is everyone saying a 32 day old baby? It’s a month old surely or 4 weeks?

Reminds me of City Slickers where Billy Crystals character was turning 40 and talkd about how his mother had only just stopped referring to him as being "480 months today!"

Original poster
50nifty · 10/04/2026 19:58

Hephzibah64 · 10/04/2026 19:26

Why is everyone saying a 32 day old baby? It’s a month old surely or 4 weeks?

They were the words the parents themselves used.

Repeatedly.

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ScartlettSole · 10/04/2026 20:50

50nifty · 09/04/2026 16:47

I'm in a taproom with a friend.

A couple arrived with their 32 day old baby. And 2 flights of beer.

They're talking very loudly about how baby is/isn't. They've already pulled 2 other tables into the conversation about their baby and feeding/sleeping/clothing/nappies.

My babies are adults. Friends babies are adults.

I know I wasn't this insufferable when mine were little. Friend says she wasn't either.

We both know we didn't go out drinking when baby was 32 days old.

Babies are really precious creatures. But only to their parents/family. Most people don't want to get drawn into a conversation about a strangers baby.

In essence, stop talking so loudly about your baby. The rest of us really don't care.

AIBU?

It's quite insufferable to refer to a baby as 32 days. Just say a month or 4 weeks, no ones that arsed. For this reason alone I feel they are being unreasonable 😂

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/04/2026 20:51

ScartlettSole · 10/04/2026 20:50

It's quite insufferable to refer to a baby as 32 days. Just say a month or 4 weeks, no ones that arsed. For this reason alone I feel they are being unreasonable 😂

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Bet they both had a pregnancy ticker on SM.

tofumad · 10/04/2026 21:11

So they basically had a pint each, and are overproud of their brand new baby. Crime if the century.

Breadandsticks · 10/04/2026 21:16

I’m on your side OP. Some people are so over the top. I don’t have an issue with people talking about their babies. Or having a drink with their newborn because they don’t move around too much at that age.

But when my friends came over when my babies were small, I would usually beg them to tell me what they are up to! Some adult conversation!